living with parents

alphachiohmy · #1 07-19-2003, 08:59 PM

OK, so I am moving back home to save money as I go to grad school and am facing two years with the parents. I think I can make it, we have a good relationship and the money I save is so awesome.

Question is do and have any of you lived with the parents while in school? What were your experiences. I am 23, so I feel odd just cause I am so used to being on my own as I have for six years. I have friends that have not moved out of their homes at all, they went to college and now have jobs and still live with the parents.

The1calledTKE · #2 07-19-2003, 09:03 PM

I am doing it currently to save money while I look for a job. Its not to bad, free food and what not , and I have alot of freedoms I had when i didn't live at home. There are rules I have to get used to again but all and all it is ok. Can't wait to get a job and move out though!

#3 07-19-2003, 09:12 PM

I was living on my own too and moved back in with my mother last year.

It'll take some getting used to, believe me. They'll probably try and impose some rules and such, but at the same time they'll remember that you have been on your own, so you yourself know what's best for you. My situation's somewhat different because I don't have to pay rent, but I do pay a 1/3 of utilities just so I can remember that I do have responsibilities and it's not necessarily a free ride.

On the other hand, it's awesome not having to pay hundreds of dollars in rent like I used to, and I realized the importance of having a nice home cooked meal!!

valkyrie · #4 07-19-2003, 10:44 PM

I lived with my parents for several months after I graduated from college, when I was 22. Let's just say that it was an experience I'd like to forget. My mom and I fought a lot, because I wanted more freedom than she wanted me to have. It was also pretty annoying because my parents have at least one tv on 24/7, so it was hard to get any quiet time at all. I think that sometimes parents have a hard time realizing that their "babies" are adults, but good luck!!!

KSigkid · #5 07-20-2003, 12:00 AM

I don't think I could do the living at home thing again - I haven't really lived at home since after my freshman year of college. I get along great with my parents, we have a really good relationship - but I just couldn't do it after being on my own for so long.

Cluey · #6 07-20-2003, 12:21 AM

I'm doing the same exact thing, actually. I am 24 and I've lived with a friend of mine from college for two years. In the interest of saving money for grad school, we're both moving into my parents new house.

We're still in the process of moving everything, but I think it will be worth it to not accrue any student loan debt. Fortunately, I like my parents and we get along great.

If the moving thing would just go ahead and end already, I think I would be fine

juniorgrrl · #7 07-20-2003, 02:39 AM

I lived on my own during the school year in college, and at home during the summers. The summers were always interminable.

When I started law school, I just didn't have as much of an incentive to be up by myself in Baton Rouge (serial killer, boyfriend 90 miles away, all my friends had graduated...) so I ended up moving back home full time.

I get along well enough with my mom, I'm much closer to boyfriend-now-fiance, and I'm overall much happier.

My mom is nice and pays for my gas and commuting expenses, which is really really nice (driving 150 miles a day can get expensive!).

I don't have hardly any of the freedoms I did in college (no going out to bars, staying out with boy until all hours of the night, etc), but its worth the trade off, for me at least.

Buttonz · #8 07-20-2003, 02:44 AM

I am staying home for under-grad to save money...as much as I would like to be on my own, and seeing one of my best firends who is on her own reminds me what I am missing, I am over all much happier. I get along pretty well with my mom and sister and my mom understands that I need to be able to go out and come home (as long as I get home at a halfway decent time, usally by 3:30 or so, unless it's for a b-day or I'm out with a few of my friends that have became family friends). Home cooking is tons better also!

SigkapAlumWSU · #9 07-20-2003, 02:45 AM

I've pretty much been on my own for about 3 years, and this summer, I came back to live with my parents on and off. For the first time in a very long time, it's working out. Sort of. As long as I can take a break from them, or they can get a break from me, things work out fine. If we spend too much continuous time together, things get a little stressful.

My brother moved back home after going to college out of state for a year, and is continuing locally, and living at home. Although it does save money, he's at the point where he really wants to get out and do his own thing. It's kind of a toss up between how much freedom you want, and all the money you save. Personally, I have swallowed some of my saturday nights and saved the money.

Rudey · #10 07-20-2003, 02:52 AM

I personally would love a situation where my mommy would come over and make me food, do my laundry, and give me encouragement and then let me be.

-Rudey
--Instead I'm doomed to my cold life of Subway select sandwiches, pay-by-the-pound laundry, and people who humble you like none other.

justamom · #11 07-20-2003, 08:03 AM

I moved back home right before I got married. I taught for a while.
It was a piece of cake and MY Mom was so much "kinder" than I would/will be. She did the cooking and laundry and I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE!!!

Where was MY head...self absorbed, that's where.

Once you kids move out, our life is set free! I realized that this year because my son is very independent and my daughter works in GA.

Should they, and statistics indicate at least ONE of them will return, we will be more than happy to give them a hand, help them save money and all that jazz. However, I don't want to become the maid again and the kitchen will close when I'm done for the day. I guess the comfort for EVERYONE will depend on their attitude and level of maturity. If they act like a guest, I'll get a little ticked off. If they pitch in, in leu of paying rent, then great.

It could be a nightmare or it could be really great. Just remember, those years you were on your own, your parents didn't try to move in with YOU. Be appreciative and all will be well.

LeslieAGD · #12 07-20-2003, 10:36 AM

I just graduated and I also moved back in with the parents at 23. Sometimes I get frustrated, but most of the time it's okay. My parents aren't trying to impose rules on me, but they do like to know where I am going and what I am doing, which sometimes makes me feel like I am 16 again.

navane · #13 07-20-2003, 10:57 AM

I'll be 26 in a week's time and I moved away from home when I was 18. Though, I did make the 1.5 hour drive at least once a month. Even so, 8 years on my own is a long time.

At the moment I live in England. All of my junk is being stored at home in the US. When I return to the States in a few months, I won't have anywhere to live. So yeah, I suppose I will *have* to live at home at least for a little while!

I guess I'm OK with that. Depending on how long I stay there, I'll probably make a contribution towards bills. My dad has his own life now and I don't want to cramp his style. I've always had a great relationship with him; I don't expect there to be any problems.

.....Kelly

Knowledge1922 · #14 07-20-2003, 12:27 PM

I feel you. I just graduated last month, am 23 and back at home....*temporarily*

Munchkin03 · #15 07-20-2003, 12:27 PM

The boy is at home, after returning after some family stuff. They let him do what he wants, he helps out in a lot of ways, so it worked out really well for him.

I can only name two people (besides myself) who will not be living with their parents this year--one is an international student going straight to grad school, the other is living pretty far from home and going to work. Most people who are working or going to graduate school in Boston or Manhattan will forego the steep rents and scarce housing to live with their parents for a year. Another friend's father died last year, and she decided that it was best to be with her mom instead of moving out right away. So, you're in pretty good company.