Doesn't Want to be Initiated?!

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I have a situation I need advice regarding.

The chapter that I advise initiated their fall new member class last month. One of the new members requested to be "held over" as she didn't feel quite ready. We honored her request with the idea that we would initate her at the start of the winter quarter, before the chapter begins informal fall recruitment.

She still doesn't feel she will be ready by then. Our District Director said it is ok for her to go through the new member program again with the winter new member class, but I'm concerned that this girl may make waves and I want to have the new member educator talk to her. I need help in finding what to say. We certainly want her if that is what she wants, she is a very sweet girl. Her hesitancy to be initiated stems from not wanting to be associated with the fall class-- which burns me up b/c they're such a great group!

She's met all the criteria to be initiated, and she's going to be attending new member sessions all over again. I just worry she might alienate our winter new members somehow, or feel like she can blow things off because she's already done them. Our new members have the same obligations as initated members, except that they also attend new member education once a week and have their own retreat.

I guess I have a hard time putting myself in her shoes because I couldn't wait to be initated when I was a new member! I also think that if you can't make up your mind after 10 weeks in the chapter, then maybe it is better idea to not go through with it.

What are your thoughts? Thanks for your help!