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05-06-2003, 10:09 AM
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Black Man - Blond Chick
One of my favorite television shows is The Practice. I like the characters and the legal aspects of each case - A brother might be considering going to law school - I had not seen any previews for last night's show and needless to say I literally fell out of my chair after the events. Why do down to earth, intelligent black men on tv always end up with the blond chick. I'm pissed and may never again watch The Practice. I solicit the support of my GC family to e-mail the writers and producers asking that this affair not go on. I say put Eugene with the attractive black lawyer on the show!
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05-06-2003, 10:28 AM
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Unfortunatly this happens in the real world where good brothers and sisters go to people who are not black. Not saying if it is right or wrong but this kind of drama is what the writers want to stir up in us.
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05-06-2003, 02:31 PM
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Re: Black Man - Blond Chick
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One of my favorite television shows is The Practice. I like the characters and the legal aspects of each case - A brother might be considering going to law school - I had not seen any previews for last night's show and needless to say I literally fell out of my chair after the events. Why do down to earth, intelligent black men on tv always end up with the blond chick. I'm pissed and may never again watch The Practice. I solicit the support of my GC family to e-mail the writers and producers asking that this affair not go on. I say put Eugene with the attractive black lawyer on the show!
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Remember Eriq LaSalle on ER? He voiced very similar concerns a few years ago. Once again, it's probably a reflection of the writers and lack of diversity on TV.
Plus, as sphinxpoet said, it's drama.
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05-06-2003, 02:39 PM
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Hi- I understand (as best I can) what you're saying--but I look at it from a different POV--
I think its good to show that LOVE knows no color, just as it knows no religion and no gender. Showing that we can love another human being, regardless of their race, is a strong message to send to viewers. We're all free to choose who we want to be with, but so many people are intolerant, and I just believe that love is the message more than anything else.
But I grew up in a very liberal place, so I can admit my views may be, well, liberal.
I haven't watched the Practice since it moved to Mondays, but race aside, knowing the personality of those two characters-- I just don't see it!
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05-06-2003, 10:09 PM
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Originally posted by amycat412
I think its good to show that LOVE knows no color, just as it knows no religion and no gender. Showing that we can love another human being, regardless of their race, is a strong message to send to viewers. We're all free to choose who we want to be with, but so many people are intolerant, and I just believe that love is the message more than anything else.
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I have to respectfully disagree.
The mainstream media has a way of depicting and furthering stereotypes of Black Americans in seemingly innocent ways. Have you ever noticed that when news reports interview Black they are always inarticulate with rollers or jheri curls in their hair? Yeah, there is the possibility that person was the only one to interview, but it is highly unlikely. Depicting these images constantly sends the message to many viewers, especially non-Blacks, that this is the way that all Black Americans speak and behave. On this issue, the constant depiction of successful Black males seeking non-Black love interests sends the message that once a man has achieved a certain level of "status" the Black woman is no longer good enough for him.
There is always some form of justification for these kinds of images but they are rarely honest and upfront about the issue.
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05-06-2003, 11:26 PM
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I watched it last night and didn't have much of a problem with it....
However,
1) I really wish that Lindsay's intern (or whatever you call her) had said something like "But he's black!" when they were having that conversation. Now THAT would have been realistic.
2) I don't really agree that the "mainstream media" is to blame really....they are making use of the characters on the show, and to be honest, i don't see much chemistry between Eugene and Rebecca.
3) It's just a TV show.
4) It's probably getting cancelled anyway.
In essence, I agree with amycat.
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05-07-2003, 01:09 AM
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Well said, ClassyLady
On this issue, the constant depiction of successful Black males seeking non-Black love interests sends the message that once a man has achieved a certain level of "status" the Black woman is no longer good enough for him.
AMEN to that!!! And I live in Minnesota and I see brothas with "blond chicks" ALL OF THE TIME! I'm sorry, I don't care, I love my brothas too much to cross those lines.
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05-07-2003, 08:29 AM
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3) It's just a TV show.
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Me and my friend debate this sort of thing all the time. I've now begun to lean towards her side of the argument. She always says we have to at least begin to TALK about the issues in the media. Because it's just a TV show it's a free for all? People LEARN from TV, as horrible as it is. This is the EXACT reason I don't let my girls watch TV here. I don't watch The Practice, so I don't know what the people even look like. I do know that my girls see stuff like that and try to EMULATE the love interest. The last thing I need is for my girls to try to be something that they are not. You must not hear kids say stuff like, "She's so pretty, I wanna be just like her, she got a fine man!" "I'm not gonna eat dinner today cuz I don't want my hips to get bigger." These are the type of issues that our kids are dealing with trying to emulate the status quo of beauty. If you heard this type of stuff, you probably wouldn't say it's just a TV show. TV sends messages, just like any other type of media. As educated adults, we can take it at face value. But not everyone who watches is educated or an adult.
BTW, I agree wholeheartedly with ClassyLady.
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05-07-2003, 08:50 AM
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amycat412
Thank you for your post and welcome to APhiA Avenue. I agree that love does not have a color. Whitney Houston best said it when she stated "You never know where you will find love."
I have posted before that my Godsisters are white and I don't have problems with them are other ethnic groups. However, it bothers me when Black men gravitate towards dating white women, as they become successful. Black male celebrities and the media seemingly glorify this notion.
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05-07-2003, 11:34 AM
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Point of clarification...
... for all confused, lol.
I DON'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN OF MY OWN!!! I work at a boarding school. So I have 12 girls that I didn't have to push throught the birth canal myself.
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05-07-2003, 11:38 AM
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Re: Point of clarification...
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... for all confused, lol.
I DON'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN OF MY OWN!!! I work at a boarding school. So I have 12 girls that I didn't have to push throught the birth canal myself.
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We knew that you don't have a bunch of biological children, Soror.
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05-08-2003, 03:28 PM
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This letter was written in response to an article in the Sister 2
Sister Magazine (January 2000 issue).
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst
Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and
give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn
from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.
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This is one of the very reasons why I still haven't accepted interacial dating. I also live in Minnesota, and there are some beautiful, educated African American women here. It saddens my heart to see so many of my sisterfriends single-like me. I can count on one hand how many young black couples I see at the mall. This is no lie! Ladygreek, you might have to back me up on this one. Ultimately, it's up to the brotha to decide who he wants to be with, but it's a sad day when sistas are preparing to live life without a husband because of this...
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05-08-2003, 03:40 PM
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Hmmmm... that letter saddens me too, as it perpetuates stereotypes...
I agree with the posters who've talked about stereotypes. The stereotypes of any race, nationality, religion, etc must stop if we want tolerance and love to rule. I do feel sorry for the people who do not have enough free will to realize that these media portrayals are in fact stereotypes. I mean to say every African American is "jheri curl.." is like saying every Italian American is in the Mob...etc. It all makes me annoyed.
That letter above tho--- I want to slap the woman who wrote it for her generalizations. Does she want to believe this to justify her own relationship?? Does her fiancee want to believe this to justify his relationship???
I stand by my statement that LOVE knows no color, gender, race, nationality, religion, etc. But I also realize we have a long way to go until this statement rings true universally.
Thanks for the welcome Professor.  This is a very interesting thread.
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05-08-2003, 09:17 PM
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I was thinking about this thread today. I thought about all of my friends who were white. And then I thought about how I would feel if they dated someone who was black. The tripped out thing is, I wouldn't care, so long as they were happy. Cuz they are my friends, naturally I want them to be happy cuz I love them.
BUT, I still don't like interracial dating. I feel conflicted over this issue all the time. Why would I not mind if my friends did it, but in general I still don't like it??? Or is it that I would be more tolerant because it's my friend?
*sigh*
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05-09-2003, 01:23 AM
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Originally posted by Ideal08
I was thinking about this thread today. I thought about all of my friends who were white. And then I thought about how I would feel if they dated someone who was black. The tripped out thing is, I wouldn't care, so long as they were happy. Cuz they are my friends, naturally I want them to be happy cuz I love them.
BUT, I still don't like interracial dating. I feel conflicted over this issue all the time. Why would I not mind if my friends did it, but in general I still don't like it??? Or is it that I would be more tolerant because it's my friend?
*sigh*
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Ideal, I have a lot of white friends that I love too! Trust me, I feel you on this one.
The reason why I don't like interracial dating is because black brothas are becoming more scarce every day, it seems. I don't even want to break it down...but I do know that I want a black husband. I love brothas...they are ALL THAT!
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