Relaxed Vs. Natural

[Krisco]

Why must people put such a huge rift in between the two? Okay Guys, My aunt who I did NOT ask for summer employment assistance, volunteered to tell about some openings at her company. I was like "cool" and proceeded to ask her about what positions were available. She tells me about them and I say okay, she then interjects and says "oh yeah, you are gonna have to do something about that hair, perm it or something, yeah I'll tell *punkin* to hook that kitchen up." While she is saying all this and touching my beautiful napps, my face must have said "what beatch??" She then said, its a white-folks establishment and you need to look professional.

Ya'll, I have completed two senior internships(conservative ones) working with virtually all southern-bred white people. I have not had to answer any questions or concerns about my natural hair with any of them! It(hair) has never came up. I have been self-employed with my online company this past year, so I haven't had to 'work' for anyone in a while(for pay). I just cannot fathom why she felt the need to school me on how to get a job. I feel conservative hairstyling has absolutely nothing to do with straight/relaxed hair. I wear my little nappy do very conservative when I feel the need to. I mean, when in the heck did there become one standard for wearing ones OWN hair appropriately? Neat, clean, simple, and maybe even pulled-back equates conservative to me, not the texture. But let the queen, tha all-knowing one tell it, I won't get hired with no nappy head.

This thread is not about bashing any hair type or preference, but damn why is my hair sooo wrong? I guess if I wore a sideways fake ponytail with the waterfall bang and don't forget the burgundy streaks, as long as its relaxed, that would be better than my little pulled back afro puff. I think not! Conservative can be accomplished by just about anyone with any hairdo or style or texture, IMHO. Has anyone else had to deal with this whether it be about your hair texture, clothing, body size, whateva!!??