Venting

[Crooklyn08]

Please excuse the nature of this post, BUT...

Why is it that some "sisterfriends" feel compelled to come up in chat rooms looking for informaion abou the sorority? For example, I am a FREQUENT visitor to a website for Alphas and AKAs. Just today, there was a young lady who came into the room looking for information regarding AKA and I would suppose the chapter on her campus. When referred to the national webpage, she stated that didn't provide her with enough information that she needed. She was told by several sorors that would be her best bet AND that this particular chat room was NOT designed to be an information resource to those who were interested in the sorority.

She got a little perturbed by this and stated that if that wasn't the purpose of the website, then perhaps we should look into getting a password for the room.

This kind of behavior bothers me. I don't mind answering GENERAL questions about the sorority, but when I go in this paricular room, I go in with intentions of chillin' with Pham....

What do you think?

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AKATUDE - Don't Leave Home Without It!

[AKAtude]

Soror Crooklyn, it bothers me as well. Obviously if the information they are looking for is not found on a website, in a library, can not be answered by a soror, etc. then they do not need to know. What makes them think that they are entitled to have specific information or have their questions answered?

Some of these so-called ladies need to adjust their attitudes. If not, they will be doing themselves a disservice. If they are unable to conduct themselves appropriately via the internet or contain their anger, then it is troubling to me as to how they act in everyday life. It's disgraceful and tactless.

There are instances where they always have to have the last word or feel the need to keep something going. That is why I locked the "Legacy" thread. It makes no sense whatsoever.

[AKA2D '91]

I thought I was the only one feeling this way. I was on another forum and this interested person asked a question about something. I felt like she was digging "too deep." Her own sister was a soror, so she claimed and did not provide her with the information she needed. So I'm like Akatude, if you cannot get the info from the library and other RELIABLE resources then it is off limits. This chick and others responded thought that I was wrong, like I was not an AKA. Those other interested parties said they would give her the info she needed, since I did not help. The attitudes are horrible. NO RESPECT for us at all! In my post I said in 91 we did not have the internet and various forums to get info. Plus, when I was initiated, there was NO WAY that our big sisters would tolerate the attitudes from those interested. But the thing is back then, I WOULD NOT have responded to those AKAs in such a matter. It really trips me out! To this day, anyone who was initiated prior to me, I see her as my "big" sister! I would never disrespect that! Some people just don't get it.

[SWEETAKA]

Crooklyn08,
I agree with you both 100%. I have never been in the chatroom but I have been approached via e-mail. I have also quietly witness certain posts. One person even ask me could she see my letter of intent! so she could kind of get ahead of the game. I told her, absolutely not! When I was a sisterfriend, I never ask questions of anyone and I would never dream of asking such boisterous questions as some of the ones I've heard. I did my research and let my actions speak for themselves--as it should be. I adhered to the boundaries of discretion at all times. I have an aunt, a cousin and a former teacher who are AKAs and I never expressed to them my interest until the day I was chosen. This is because I wanted to stand on my own and present who I was to AKA, not what others had given to me. I am independent like that. The web is a nice place to converse but I do not think prospects should use it for asking questions about Alpha Kappa Alpha and membership. I think that should be done on a more personal level--if at all. This was not meant to be an easy task. It would not mean anything if it was. So, please ladies think before you ask.

[LadyAKA]

I have no need to vent at this particular moment but I do have my days and Soror
Crooklyn08 I totally agree. I frequent certain web pages for pleasure to chat about health or anything else besides AKA and other times I come say to the sisterly forum or here at Greek Chat to converse with Sorors and Sisterfriends about Greek life and other discussions we may get into. But why was on Black Planet the other day and a young lady called me out asking all type questions. We squared it away quick, but people have to learn there is a time and place for everything. I am not only talking about asking AKA's questions at inappropriate times, I am talking about life here. Simply put there is a time and a place for everything ......... The world is bigger then Greek Life and people in general need to learn MANNERS! I have a book full of etiquette tips and Faux Pas' do nots........

[PositivelyAKA]

sorors i agree that there is a lack of respect on the net from some sister friends.
We are all women, yes BUT if you are asking about my organization then you need to RESPECT my sorors whom make up this ILLUSTRIOUS organization because they don't have to tell you nada. They ask and say things on here that they would never ask a soror to her face. I've already decided to decline any more info other than referring them to the AKA national website. Everything about AKA is on a need to know basis, and most things sister friends don't need to know, some i hope will NEVER know due to their bad attitudes. AKAtude you were right to close that thread, that child had a little too much to say about AKA business. I would encourage sorors to not answer any questions or give out any info about AKA period, let them go ask a soror at their school which is the way it should be done, if they don't feel comfortable asking then maybe its because they shouldn't be asking at all.

sorors of AKA gate keepers of the Twenty Pearls

[LadyAKA]

I was going to keep my mouth closed but decided that I would politely disagree with my Soror PositivelyAKA, I just wanted to say any upstanding women is entitled to Alpha Kappa Alpha, we all know the criteria that should be accomplished but I have to disagree that I or you are a gate keepers to AKA. There is much to be said behind my feelings but for now I will quite while I am ahead.
And though I see the happy face, I just do not whole heartily agree with the statement. The rest of this can be discussed via e-mail if needed!

sisterly

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[PositivelyAKA]

Everything about AKA is on a need to know basis, and most things sister friends don't need to know, some i hope will NEVER know due to their bad attitudes.

sorors of AKA gate keepers of the Twenty Pearls [/B]

I agree that any "upstanding college educated lady" is entitled to pursue AKA as her choice of sororities and i hope she makes it. That is the type of woman we all want in AKA. However i was speaking of those who come on the net and show disrespect towards my sorors, because they don't have to face my sorors. I love AKA and will always try to protect her and work for her. So that makes me a gatekeeper, at least that is how i was made. We are both adults we can agree to disagree.

[determined one]

I totally agree with Lady AKA. I too have been intrested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Inc. From all of my extensive research I too discovered that some questions will never be answered until I am granted membership. However I did not have to approach anyone to find that out. If you do proper research you will see that some questions won't have answers in any book or at any website.That should be a sign that you won't get an answer and you probably don't need that info to gain membership. I also agree that some people use chat rooms as a cover up. QUOTE]Originally posted by LadyAKA:
I was going to keep my mouth closed but decided that I would politely disagree with my Soror PositivelyAKA, I just wanted to say any upstanding women is entitled to Alpha Kappa Alpha, we all know the criteria that should be accomplished but I have to disagree that I or you are a gate keepers to AKA. There is much to be said behind my feelings but for now I will quite while I am ahead.
And though I see the happy face, I just do not whole heartily agree with the statement. The rest of this can be discussed via e-mail if needed!

sisterly

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[tickledpink]

Crooklyn, I agree with you. I only visited the chat room ONCE. I was a new visitor to the Greek Chat forum and was unfamiliar with the screen names (ergo, I didn't know who was and was not a Soror, except for those that openly identified themselves, and even that can be decieving!). Someone wanted to know information that if she was a soror she would have known and if she was a SF, I didn't feel she had a need to know. Needless to say, I was not very comfortable and have not gone back there.

Along those same lines, sorors, I wanted to discuss something with you. I work with a lady that I noticed was wearing 'nalia. Anyway I approached her as "soror" and introduced myself. Since then, I've noticed that she nervously shies away from me, and I started to take it personally until it dawned on me today --- it's been months since I've seen her wear any paraphanalia whereas she used to wear it all the time.
Sorors only --- any thoughts?

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[This message has been edited by tickledpink (edited June 08, 2000).]

[Taykimson]

Soror Tickled Pink,

I would initiate more conversations with her about our Sorority. It could be her active status is not where she’d like it to be and she is shying away because of it.

Or it could be something more serious. However, if you talk to her long enough, that will come to light also.

[LadyAKA]

Soror PositivelyAKA, point taken - thanks for responding with clarification.

Skee Wee!