Hey everyone, fairly new to the boards, but most of the threads I've read so far seem to be fairly open, so I figured I'd throw this out there.
I have a problem. Well, a quasi-problem. It's not really a serious concern, but hell, why not throw it out and get some opinions on it?
First, a little bit about me. I am (well, was) a brother of a chapter of Psi Upsilon (I've decided not to say which to protect the innocent). I had a good time with the people I hung out with, and generally thought the world of PsiU. However, due to academic, personal, and financial restraints, I had to leave that particular college for a while (granted, the academic was the most pressing one there for a time, heh). In my absence, I went Inactive. This is a sensible thing to do, seeing as I wasn't on campus nor was I within a nominal driving distance for daily activities (about an hour if traffic's being nice to me). However, when I didn't return the semester after that, I was expelled (yep, as in uninitiated, stricken from the records, all that fun and wonderful stuff). All this was done without my notice and without any consultation of the national office, as far as I know. That really aggravated me for about a semester, but I've since at least restored my friendships with the people in my chapter that I really identified with, as it were.
Anyway, now about my girlfriend (I'll omit her sorority and chapter to avoid embarassing her if she somehow finds this). She's a beautiful woman in a sorority at another college nearby, and she's got alot of pride in her letters and her sisters. I've done a few social things with them, and they are (quite seriously) the most closely knit group I've seen in quite a while. This is all well and good. I even enjoy buying her the occasional Greek gift, as I know she'll enjoy it, they're usually useful, and plus it's a guaranteed way to get her to smile (which rocks).
However, I'm not sure how to explain to her that I simply don't have the same pride in my letters and my brothers that she does in her letters and her sisters. I'm not embarassed about it, really, and I wouldn't mind something as a memory piece, but what do you guys think? Ever met someone who was expelled from their frat and was still fanatical about collecting their stuff (afghan, shotglasses, the usual)? I'm moving into a new place here shortly, and pondering a couple pieces of SDT stuff for her and maybe something of PsiU for me. Question is, how do I show pride in my frat in an apartment when I don't feel particularly proud of it? Should I just skip the PsiU thing and go all SDT?
To anyone who actually read all of this, thanks
I know I tend to ramble alot. And I spent the greater part of an hour writing this while working, so I may have totally missed my point. My apologies if you can't make sense out of this. Thanks for any replies!
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