Help! What does this mean?

XOMichelle · #1 04-10-2003, 03:24 AM

So my boyfriend and I broke up, then we spent an hour talking to eachother, and then we had sex! Ahhhhh!!!!! I'm not sure if I really want it to end, and this sex thing is killing me (I have never ever had sex with an ex). What does it mean? Nothing? Anything? Does anyone think I can turn it around and stay with him?

-M

Rudey · #2 04-10-2003, 03:29 AM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
So my boyfriend and I broke up, then we spent an hour talking to eachother, and then we had sex! Ahhhhh!!!!! I'm not sure if I really want it to end, and this sex thing is killing me (I have never ever had sex with an ex). What does it mean? Nothing? Anything? Does anyone think I can turn it around and stay with him?

-M

No. It means nothing. You know it means nothing too since you asked that question. I'm sure you're a cute and sweet girl so you can find another nice guy soon.

-Rudey
--Don't worry.

Jadey28 · #3 04-10-2003, 06:38 AM

Sweetie,
I hate to tell you this, but I think that the sex was probably just "sex-for-the-last-time" sex. This always used to happen with my ex-boyfriend and I. Then I realized that the whole situation wasn't going to work out because I couldn't handle the friends with benefits situation. I really hope you don't let yourself get caught up in this situation...regardless of how good the sex is! Good luck with your situation. You'll get through it...it might take a little while but you will survive!

Jadey

AOX81 · #4 04-10-2003, 10:54 AM

Quote from Road Trip"

"You always have sex with the girl one last time before you break up, everyone knows that."

LeslieAGD · #5 04-10-2003, 10:57 AM

It means you made a bad decision. That's all.

Peaches-n-Cream · #6 04-10-2003, 01:33 PM

It might mean something. You guys are so cynical. I think that you should talk to him to see what it means to him not to Gcers. Maybe he wants to try again. It certainly doesn't hurt to ask.

moe.ron · #7 04-10-2003, 03:03 PM

means you guys getting some last action. don't read too much into it. move on and look toward your future.

Shine · #8 04-10-2003, 03:11 PM

That's what those of us in the dumping business call "break-up sex".

Good luck to you in your future conquests of love!

texas*princess · #9 04-10-2003, 03:14 PM

I agree with Cream.

Without knowing exactly how your relationship was, or what you talked about that night, it's hard for random people to interpret what happened.

I think you should ask him about it. Like Cream said, it wouldn't hurt to ask. For all we know, he might be wondering the same thing too.

shultzz · #10 04-10-2003, 08:59 PM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
So my boyfriend and I broke up, then we spent an hour talking to eachother, and then we had sex! Ahhhhh!!!!! I'm not sure if I really want it to end, and this sex thing is killing me (I have never ever had sex with an ex). What does it mean? Nothing? Anything? Does anyone think I can turn it around and stay with him?

-M

How was the sex?

James · #11 04-11-2003, 01:06 AM

There is wisdom here lol. We really don't know. Most humans have their heads so far up their asses I am surprised we are ever happy at all lol. Talk to him honestly without being defensive. If you tell it to him FLAT OUT, and make yourself vulnerable, at least you know YOU dia all you could. But even if you were the best thing to happen to him since sliced bread and Jam, he still might be too much of a horse's ass to do anything meaningful about it.

On a distantly Related note:

. . .after break up sex . . . usually sometime after, guys will call a grudge fuck. Do girls use the same term?

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Originally posted by Cream
It might mean something. You guys are so cynical. I think that you should talk to him to see what it means to him not to Gcers. Maybe he wants to try again. It certainly doesn't hurt to ask.

Optimist Prime · #12 04-11-2003, 03:09 AM

were you drunk?

XOMichelle · #13 04-11-2003, 05:08 AM

Ha ha ha,.. you responses were all over. I guess I get to pick which one suits me the best.
I called him, and he said it meant something to him, but it was still over. I was like, uhhh, yeah. Thaks for caring, but not caring. I guess I'm kinda the same way though. I soemtimes cared a lot how our relationship was, and then other times, I didn't give a shit.
I didn't know break up sex existed. how awful! I think I'll try not to do it again. It was't pleasant.
-M

PhiSigFly · #14 04-11-2003, 09:59 AM

I think since you asked the question, you know it was wrong to do. I don't how long you were in the relationship, but it seems like you might just be nervous about finding someone new or starting over. I would definately say it doesn't mean you guys are getting back together and sex definately doesn't mean "love" anymore... Words of wisdom: People only ask advice about questions they know the answers to but wish they didn't...

White_Chocolate · #15 04-11-2003, 11:33 AM

welcome to the insight of a guy's mind. . .
they always let the little head tell the giant big head what to do. . .