Biological clocks are exploding!!!

AKA_Monet · #1 03-30-2001, 09:45 PM

Is it okay for a 30-something or for that matter, a 28 and above unmarried, heterosexual woman to feel so compelled that she needs to go out there and consciously get pregnant by any man--(anything, nowadays) to meet the needs of her biological clock that is about to explode???

I ask, because too many of my unmarried, heterosexual 30-something girlfriends have done just that to either "get a man to commit" or that they are getting up there in age and better do something quick! Then, after the child is born, gets a little older, these same women realize how tough it is to maintain familial continuity without any man.

I'm not talking about women who have been divorced or their man left them or they are widowers. I'm talking about women who literally make sure to take the ovulation test to ensure conception... And uh-oh, I did a boo-boo--NO-- it is NOT an accident when your are 30 years old!!! You had better know where babies come from!!! And I'm not trying to hear, I didn't know that taking the antibotics block the birth control pill's effectiveness... Just like a boxer, you need to protect yourself at all times!!! Either take birth control, or not. If you don't, you risk pregnancy and moreso, STI's...

I personally just think that the whole idea of "unwed 30 something biological clock explosion, gotta get me a man and have his child" is just skrait ugly!!! I think it is reckless and stupid on behalf of all parties involved, except the one who didn't ask to be here. And I hear my 30 something unwed mothers and my man-trappin' married mothers bitchin' and moanin' about how tough it is to take care of an accidently on purpose child. I'm just fed up!!!

But I wanna know what the brothers think!!!

Unmarried brothers: If your current girlfriend or a girl of whom you are intimate told you she is 3-5 months pregnant with your child, what would you do? What would you think?

These questions are mainly for brothers 28 and up. Younger bruhs, it's okay if you answer, but y'all can make mistakes--like, "oh, I didn't think it mattered if the condom broke and you're still menstruating..."

Oh and as for me, I have never been pregnant in my life. So I do not know how I will react if I got pregnant, since I am unmarried and a 30-something woman. But I would know how I got pregnant 'cuz I would have chosen to not use birth control (STI protection) and to take the risk, with eyes wide open... But I'd rather be like Sarah of Abraham and wait...

sweettgabrown · #2 03-31-2001, 02:07 AM

AKA Monet,

You and me both. I am "scared to death" of starting a family without a man who is absolutely committed to being a father. Notice I said father. It doesn't matter if he and I decide to part ways, but I would be devastated if he walked away from his child

AKA2D '91 · #3 03-31-2001, 11:29 AM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet:
Oh and as for me, I have never been pregnant in my life. So I do not know how I will react if I got pregnant, since I am unmarried and a 30-something woman

SOROR, I AM ROTFLMSWBO!
GIRL, I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL, YOU just had to vent, right! LMBO!
I AGREE WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYING...

I JUST HAD TO LET IT BE KNOWN THAT IF I EVA, YES, EVA GOT PREGNANT, B4 TIME (WEDDING CEREMONY), YOU ALL WILL FIND ME IN THE CRAZY HOUSE, INDEED! THAT'S EXACTLY WHERE I WILL BE...CATCHING INVISIBLE BUTTERFLIES AND ALL...

YA KNOW SOROR, I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT ADOPTION AND A SPERM BANK. (I AM ONLY 28) THAT WAY, YOU WON'T HAVE TO HAVE A "MAN" INVOLVED...THE LESS DRAMA, THE BETTER... IT'S YOUR (MY) RESPONSIBILITY...

GIRL, YOU WILL BE FINE! IT'S NOT OUR TIME, YET! LOL

The Original Ape · #4 03-31-2001, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AKA_Monet:
Is it okay for a 30-something or for that matter, a 28 and above unmarried, heterosexual woman to feel so compelled that she needs to go out there and consciously get pregnant by any man--(anything, nowadays) to meet the needs of her biological clock that is about to explode???

I ask, because too many of my unmarried, heterosexual 30-something girlfriends have done just that to either "get a man to commit" or that they are getting up there in age and better do something quick! Then, after the child is born, gets a little older, these same women realize how tough it is to maintain familial continuity without any man.

I'm not talking about women who have been divorced or their man left them or they are widowers. I'm talking about women who literally make sure to take the ovulation test to ensure conception... And uh-oh, I did a boo-boo--NO-- it is NOT an accident when your are 30 years old!!! You had better know where babies come from!!! And I'm not trying to hear, I didn't know that taking the antibotics block the birth control pill's effectiveness... Just like a boxer, you need to protect yourself at all times!!! Either take birth control, or not. If you don't, you risk pregnancy and moreso, STI's...

I personally just think that the whole idea of "unwed 30 something biological clock explosion, gotta get me a man and have his child" is just skrait ugly!!! I think it is reckless and stupid on behalf of all parties involved, except the one who didn't ask to be here. And I hear my 30 something unwed mothers and my man-trappin' married mothers bitchin' and moanin' about how tough it is to take care of an accidently on purpose child. I'm just fed up!!!

But I wanna know what the brothers think!!!

Unmarried brothers: If your current girlfriend or a girl of whom you are intimate told you she is 3-5 months pregnant with your child, what would you do? What would you think?

These questions are mainly for brothers 28 and up. Younger bruhs, it's okay if you answer, but y'all can make mistakes--like, "oh, I didn't think it mattered if the condom broke and you're still menstruating..."

Oh and as for me, I have never been pregnant in my life. So I do not know how I will react if I got pregnant, since I am unmarried and a 30-something woman. But I would know how I got pregnant 'cuz I would have chosen to not use birth control (STI protection) and to take the risk, with eyes wide open... But I'd rather be like Sarah of Abraham and wait...

It's coincidental, but I posted a similar question in the SGrho forum in January. It was called "Sperm Thief". I am the proud father of a daughter, whose mother pulled that same shyt. Initially I hated the bytch; but eventually, I got over it. It's still a big pill to swallow, but I love my daughter.

AKA_Monet · #5 04-01-2001, 11:25 PM

Brotha Ape,

But it still took you some time to get over the crap... I understand you love something that came from a part of you, OF COURSE, I wouldn't expect any less. In fact if you didn't, I would call you a luser.

But, why did it make you mad at first? --You are the one the slept with yo baby's mama and got her pregnant??? How could you NOT know? Was it the moment of passion for one night stronger than what's best for me and my psyche for the rest of my life? I'm clueless--I just don't understand.

The woman I know that recently is expecting... She said some chit like, "Oh, we're not thinkin' about (marriage) right now..."

WTF!!!! She met the jikka at MY HOUSE a YEAR AGO!!! They've been an item that long!!! Sooner or later, feelings were gonna run deep for both parties. So, how the hell were both of them NOT gonna EXPECT SOME LEVEL OF FORMAL COMMITMENT THAT SHINED???? So her only recourse was to "uops-honey, I'm pregnant???" That is just some stupid assed chit a 17 year old pulls!!! Not a 30-something year old...

My measurement of commitment level is he has a 3 month turnaround time. If I don't hear something remotely like "we need to get a little closer" type chit, then I bounce. No sense in draggin' a MF--wait til he figga he wants me... Wait til he's ready fo me... Yeah, whateva. NEXT!!! But that's just me.

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AKA2D '91 · #6 04-01-2001, 11:33 PM

As usual.... I am ROTFLMSWAO!

Girllllll, you need some help!
LIKE YESTEDAY!

Professor · #7 04-02-2001, 09:02 AM

Let me know if I understand the comments.

-It is ok to have premarital sex as long as you don't become pregnant;

-Although a brother does not insist on using a condom, if a sister becomes pregnant then she set the man up;

The Original Ape · #8 04-02-2001, 01:49 PM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet:
Brotha Ape,

But it still took you some time to get over the crap... I understand you love something that came from a part of you, OF COURSE, I wouldn't expect any less. In fact if you didn't, I would call you a luser.

But, why did it make you mad at first? --You are the one the slept with yo baby's mama and got her pregnant??? How could you NOT know? Was it the moment of passion for one night stronger than what's best for me and my psyche for the rest of my life? I'm clueless--I just don't understand.

The woman I know that recently is expecting... She said some chit like, "Oh, we're not thinkin' about (marriage) right now..."

WTF!!!! She met the jikka at MY HOUSE a YEAR AGO!!! They've been an item that long!!! Sooner or later, feelings were gonna run deep for both parties. So, how the hell were both of them NOT gonna EXPECT SOME LEVEL OF FORMAL COMMITMENT THAT SHINED???? So her only recourse was to "uops-honey, I'm pregnant???" That is just some stupid assed chit a 17 year old pulls!!! Not a 30-something year old...

My measurement of commitment level is he has a 3 month turnaround time. If I don't hear something remotely like "we need to get a little closer" type chit, then I bounce. No sense in draggin' a MF--wait til he figga he wants me... Wait til he's ready fo me... Yeah, whateva. NEXT!!! But that's just me.

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Hey Monet,

Chill out sista! Shyt happens, you know?

Inquisitive · #9 04-02-2001, 10:43 PM

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bigBERG · #10 04-03-2001, 12:42 AM

slippery slope there bruh!

bigBERG · #11 04-03-2001, 12:42 AM

slippery slope there bruh!

bigBERG · #12 04-03-2001, 12:42 AM

slippery slope there bruh!

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Many are called, many are chosen, but only a few are PHROZEN!

bigBERG · #13 04-03-2001, 12:46 AM

As a younger bruh, I can't afford to make any mistakes. I know the consequences of sexual activity and my girlfriend and I use protection every time, no exceptions. I am a little confused why do you cut slack to the younger ones...

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Many are called, many are chosen, but only a few are PHROZEN!

The Original Ape · #14 04-03-2001, 11:48 AM

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Originally posted by Inquisitive:

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AKA_Monet · #15 04-03-2001, 01:58 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Professor:
Let me know if I understand the comments.

-It is ok to have premarital sex as long as you don't become pregnant;

-Although a brother does not insist on using a condom, if a sister becomes pregnant then she set the man up;

Brotha Prof:

Lemme ask you this: Why do we tell our teen girls that it is wrong to get pregnant? Besides age, what is the difference between an unmarried teen girl getting pregnant vs. an unmarried, heterosexual 30-something woman getting pregnant, both decided to get pregnant out of wed lock?

And a brotha that doesn't insist on condom usage before sex--the least of his worries is gettin' a woman pregnant...

Brotha Ape,

When I think bout the chit goin' on these days, I just get riled up... But I ain't mad at cha. But I really need to understand the logic here. 'Cuz, I admit it, I really do not understand how two consentual adults would never expect pregnancy? And don't tell me chit just happens. 'Cuz I don't believe God allows the conception of life to just--happen. Some folks are infertile...