Am I the only one?

[Jorrie96]

I feel like I am the only person in this situation. Every one of my friends are married. I'm not exaggerating. Every one is married and most of them (maybe 80%) have kids. I'm the only single girl. Since both adults in each of the marriages work, that means the weekend is really the only time they have to be together.

If we do go out for a girls night, it is usually only for a few hours since they have to ask the husband, get someone to watch the kids, etc. Or what has happened lately is that the girls night out turns into "Let's invite the guys too" at the last minute and I end up feeling like a tag-along all the whole night.

I know a big part has to do with the fact that I am frustrated about being single. When I go out with my girls, I just want to go out and have a good time and forget my problems. Instead, what happens is it only serves to emphasize the problem (my single status).

I feel like I am being petty but that doesn't stop me from feeling bad at the end of the night. Is anyone else in this situation? If so, how do you handle it?

[Bamboozled]

Nope, you're not the only one. A lot of my girlfriends are either married or in relationships, while I am very single. For me, the answer is to create my own possibilities. That means that I depend on NO ONE when it comes to my happiness. Maybe you should try going out by yourself sometimes. I do it on the regular and have found that I have a much better time than if I was with my girls. You don't have to worry about who wants to go where, who's ready to go home and who needs to pick the baby up from the babysitter. Plus, men find women that go out by themselves much more approachable and you tend to give off a vibe of confidence and independence, which is attractive. Don't get me wrong, I still love my girls and value my friendships, but I've had to accept that we're on different paths right now. As we get older, relationships shift and change is inevitable.

Also, don't hesitate to tell your girlfriends that you're not intrested in hearing about how her husband leaves his dirty socks on the floor, or how Lil' Man just learned his ABCs, or what color curtains she just purchased for the living room. There's a time and a place for everything. Friendship is a two-way street and if your friends aren't holding up their ends, call them on it.

[ClassyLady]

Maybe it's time to expand your circle of friends. There's nothing wrong with finding other people that you can spend time with. If you like to dance or write poetry, then find someone who shares those interests. Just because you start to hang with someone new, doesn't mean that you can't still be friends with your old crew. But, you need someone that you can relate to and is in a similar position in life. Find some new single girlfriends that you can go out with on the weekend.

[GroovePhi62]

Get A dog or cat, or better yet get a hobby.

[Caramellasecret]

I was thinking the same thing last night. My girlfriends are involved and I am single, so that leaves me alone on the Friday nights. I fill my time by pampering myself (manicure, pedicure, facial, exercise). But sometimes I am so frustrated that I am single that always trying something to occupy myself gets boring and unfulfilling. Sometimes you want someone to talk to and chill with.