greek life question

smiley21 · #1 01-19-2003, 12:51 PM

i was just wondering about something. how many of you guys had a lot of trouble making the decision to go greek. you see, i am in the middle of the recruitment process for a sorority on my campus. i just keep thinking if i really have the chance to make it in this sorority. i guess i am just nervous and scared of not getting a bid. have any of you guys had this kind of trouble?

UKDaisy · #2 01-19-2003, 02:44 PM

Hey! I just PM'd you!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #3 01-19-2003, 03:04 PM

I'm so glad you're thinking about it! What sorority? I'm sure you'll make it in.

WhiteDaisy128 · #4 01-19-2003, 05:42 PM

Deciding whether or not Greek Life is for you is not an easy thing to do. I was honestly always very skeptical about Greek Life. Greeks didn't seem to have a good reputation on my campus, and I just didn't know if I would fit in. However, once I really started to look at the amazing things Greek Life could do for me, I did find my home. Greek Life is something that you get out of it, what you put into it. And it's not for everyone. But it does provide a tight bond that is almost impossible to break. It provides shoulders to cry on, arms to celebrate in, minds to study with, athletes to play with, socialites to party with, and a family that is unlike any family you can be born into. Don't be afraid of not receiving a bid. Be yourself, have fun, smile, relax and show them how special you really are. If it happens, it happens, if not, don't give up...there are other groups, and other organizations...but I'm sure it'll work out one way or another - follow your heart!

Shark In Skirt · #5 01-19-2003, 06:54 PM

My best friend here at school did not want to rush at all, but I practically filled out and turned in the rush form for her! Now she is so incredibly glad that she did end up going Greek because it's such an amazing experince... I really don't think the college experince can be complete without Greek life!

XOXO,
Annie.

smiley21 · #6 01-19-2003, 07:38 PM

ukdaisy- are you sure you sent me a pm? i dont see it.

the sorority is delta gamma.

QT Pie · #7 01-19-2003, 08:08 PM

Smiley-

Most importantly, just be yourself. If you get a bid, that's great, but if you don't get bidded, DON'T let that bring you down.
Some houses can only extend bids to a certain number of girls, and sometimes it really depends on how many girls you talked to, and how many of them remember who you are. Just have fun, relax, and remember that there's always formal rush if this doesn't work out.

astroAPhi · #8 01-19-2003, 10:02 PM

QT Pie is indeed right. My house is almost at total right now, and we probably won't be able to recruit next spring, or we'll only have a few spots. That will be a very difficult decision.

I wish you the best of luck with recruitment and I hope that you become a sister of Delta Gamma!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #9 01-19-2003, 10:08 PM

DG is awesome. Keep your head up, make sure you show the girls what you have to offer!

Sistermadly · #10 01-19-2003, 10:35 PM

Welcome back, smiley! I don't have an answer for you, but I just wanted to say good luck, and congrats for giving it a try.

smiley21 · #11 01-22-2003, 06:33 PM

i am having serious thoughts about being in a sorority. i dont think that i am a very social person. i mean i want really want to be in a sorority because i miss being around a group of girls. it has been a LONG time since i hung out with girls that were my friends. i miss that. but i am afraid of being disappointed. i am afraid of having myself open to people. in case you are wondering, i put 110% of loyality and dedication in anything i do. so i wouldnt be a discredit to any particular organization. i dont know. i guess i am also afraid of change. i am just so scared about going into the unknown. i am not saying that i want to have a group of friends so that i can be popular, because i will take one. i just want someone who will be there for me like i will for them.

oh, and tonight i am going to a sister's apartment for a sorority get together to watch dawson's creek.

lol...i am not exactly a dawson fan, but i like the thought of being with some sisters.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #12 01-23-2003, 02:50 PM

a get-together in a no-pressure environment sounds like a great way to start.

To be honest though you sound really hesitant to open yourself up to ANYONE, let alone to the degree that's expected in a sisterhood. Maybe you want to work on that first.

Sistermadly · #13 01-24-2003, 02:54 AM

Ditto what HotDamnImAPhiMu said... it also sounds a little bit like you're afraid you're going to have to sacrifice some of yourself in order to be accepted by this one particular group. Is this true? While I'm sure there are times when you'll have to think of "the greater good" rather than yourself when you're in a sorority, to me, I don't honestly believe you should have to do a complete personality shift just because you are extended an invitation to join.

Also, I'm sure there are girls in the chapter who aren't social butterflies. I'm sure there are some who are studious and quiet, some who are the life of the party, some who are shy, some who are gregarious. It's about balance and finding your place within that balance.

Change is scary. Change is inevitable. Change is part of life. I guess what I'm suggesting is that you think long and hard about the changes that could be in store for you, and decide whether you're up to the challenge.

Good luck!