Piece of A$$ or Friend?!?!

[Hootie]

So a few weeks back I was all giddy about that friend of mine whom I've had feelings for for quite some time. Well I met up with a very good friend in September and she told me the two of them had made out and it was totally weird and whatnot. No biggie. She said she was grossed out by the whole thing, because they too had been friends (not as good of friends and he and I though). So fast forward to this past Saturday night, when me and her are at a bar drinking and she says that she hates his guts and never wants to see him again! I asked her to reveal the details and she wouldn't. The only thing she could assure me of is that she didn't sleep with him. See, after I had talked to her in September, I asked him about it and all he said was, "I feel really bad about what happened. It was weird. Things went too far." That's it.
The only other thing my friend could tell me is that he sweet talked her and that she wouldn't have felt so terrible if he hadn't said all these nice things that led her on and now he blocked her from IM and won't even email her.

So now I'm at a loss. Knowing what I know NOW I'm beginning to question if I'm just a friend or a piece of a$$ he's trying to get?!?! I am talking to my friend on IM and she's explaining how he always joked with her about making out and stuff and I'm telling her how he does the same thing with me.

URG! What should I do?!

[chopper816]

id confront him again but dont back off until you get to the root of the problem, make him tell you!

[thesweetestone]

I don't think you should get too involved until you find out the truth. Just lay back for awhile until the truth is revealed.

[aprilxo]

Um, I wouldn't get too into it with him until things were figured out. One-sided info isn't good info. You definitely need a variety of sources. And if you ever feel like some comment he makes is a bit too sweet, then I'd rethink. Some boys are so stupid! I wish God would do manufacturer's recalls.... haha

[AXJules]

Don't forget that just because one friend is a piece of ass to him, doesn't mean all friends are.
Its all in how you present yourself.
How do you know that she didn't throw herself at him or make her intentions seem purely sexual? It takes two.
There's an equal chance that he'll do the same thing to you he did to her. Anytime you do things w/friends and you know history about them, its a gamble.
Basically, Its possible that he could be just using you as some goal he's trying to obtain, but its also totally possible that he's legit.
I'd say don't shut the door completely, but keep your eyes open for guys with cleaner slates.

[sororitygirl2]

You have to lead your own life and learn things for yourself. If you get scared because of her situation, you could miss something great.

Just play it cool and wait and see how things go.

You can't become a piece of ass unless you let yourself!

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Keep him in the friends category. If he proves himself worthy, move him up to the friends with potential category. Take it slow. Unless, of course, you are looking for, or to be, a piece of a$$.

[wrigley]

Keep him as a friend for now. I'd ask him what his side of the story is then decide. I'd take things slow and his true colors will show eventually.

[Kevlar281]

If this guy screwed over one of your “good friends” lose him.

[James]

What she said.

Go with it Hootie, you are a mature sexually active adult female, I thnk you can handle yourself.

And if the worst thing that can possibly happen is that you have some physical fun and then he refuses to talk to you on AOL . . . well that doesn't sound so bad.

Originally posted by sororitygirl2
You have to lead your own life and learn things for yourself. If you get scared because of her situation, you could miss something great.

Just play it cool and wait and see how things go.

You can't become a piece of ass unless you let yourself!