i think i love one of my dearest friends...and don't know what to do...

[sarahDG]

hi--
so this relates not at all to greek life (other than the fact that both bryan and i are greek), but i've always gotten advice for different issues from this site, so i thought, hey! why not?
so, anyway, there is this boy, bryan, whom i met 2.5 years ago when i was a perspective student at my current school. we chatted a few times over email while i was trying to decide where to go to school, and i think part of the reason i am where i am here is him. he has always been someone who is there for me no matter what whenever i need him...someone who by just seeing him, brightens my day. he's had a girlfriend most of the time i've known him (i always thought she hated me...he told me she always thought we had a flirty relationship), but he doesn't now. they broke up for a few weeks about a year ago, and they have been apart for at least a few months now. i had brunch with him and a few others yesterday (which was fabulous since i hadn't seen him for a bit...he had called me a few weeks ago to get together, but i was out of town), and it just reminded me of how much i like him...maybe even love him. i feel like he might be in a situation right now where he's been attached for most of his college career (he's a senior now) and just wants to have fun, and i really don't want to ruin what is one of the most important friendships of my life...but at the same time, i really do love him. please advise!
sarah

[James]

Don't talk to him you'll just confuse him.

That nonsense only works in the movies . . in screenplays written by women.

With guys try the direct approach, be flirty, not serious, have drinks a good time and seduce him.

Drinks help lol.

Then don't be stupid and mess it up by having cold feet and letting the talk go into the mistake category . . .

Seduce him and then take him down and pin him like a prize bull

Good luck

[sororitygirl2]

Yeah... don't freak him out. Just hang out, have a good time and see what happens.

[sunnygirl]

You are in a difficult situation ....I am not sure what year you are (a junior?), but he is a senior, so assuming that he is not going for a fifth year, you don't have much time left with him.....With that in mind, I would say go for it...but like the others said, don't be confrontational.....flirty and fun work ....but I would see (just subtly test the waters) ..... at least then you will know for sure......just be prepared....you have a point, maybe he does want to play the field or maybe he doesn't want to start another relationship because he is graduating....and it really is risky putting yourself out there.........but could you live with yourself if you don't see what is there? Good luck!!