dismay and concern....

[kddani]

nevermind

[dzjen27]

My solution would be to let nationals know. Not all chapters are visited because they have "problems," and the chapter doesn't need to know that's why they're being visited.

I found myself in a somewhat similar position when I wanted to help a chapter out but found out some of their activities that appalled me, so I told nationals. I have less personal ties with that chapter, but it still alarmed me that those kinds of actions were acceptable in that chapter.

Good luck.

Jen

[sororitygirl2]

I do not think that you should tell your Internationals/Nationals right away. I believe that when there is a problem you should try to resolve it between the parties involved before bringing in others and further complicating the mess (unless of course it is something realy huge and/or dangerous).

Somebody should address the chapter members. If you don't feel they would listen to you, find someone a little older and more removed from the situation to talk to them. Perhaps think of someone you respected when you were a member, and ask her advice.

And, just food for thought but, you say that you're not "really in a position to try to say anything to them" because they wouldn't respect what you had to say. If this is true, I think you should really think hard about reconsidering becoming president of the Alumnae Association because the collegiate/alumnae relationship needs a strong foundation of mutual respect to be beneficial.

[AOIIalum]

Dani, check your PM box!

Christin

[kddani]

Thanks Christin, i PMed you back.


I'm not going to defend on here why I should be the AA President, but i'll try to give a bit more background on the AA situation. We have had NO AA for years, at least that has done anything. I and another woman from a different chapter decided to get it going again. Pretty much we're just trying to get people to be willing to participate at the moment. We're pulling something from nothing, and i'm damn proud of what i and my VP have accomplished so far.

Basically we're doing all we can with what we have. It's a difficult situation that's hard to totally explain. Thanks to 33girl and AOTalum for your PMs, you both understand exactly what i'm going through.

[aggieAXO]

Are you also the chapter advisor? if not is there a chapter advisor? upon my arrival in Austin I joined the almost non-esistent alum club here and immediately became the V.P. but the UT chapter didn't really know me so I didn't participate with them except for rush. They have a chapter advisor that is completely separate from the alum association (though she is part of the alum assoc in Georgetown as a member)-she is older (much wiser than me ) and from what I saw this last rush the members of the chapter really respect her and what she says goes or else. She is the link between nationals and the chapter, that way nationals doesn't have to get involved unless it is the last resort. Do you have anyone like this for the chapter?