For The Love Of God Help Me!!!

[Cloud9]

Ok, I post very sporadically, but I am constantly reading threads and new posts on the site. So many of you give good advice and have the wisdom of vast experience, so I'm really hoping that one of you at least can help me. This is a long and complicated problem so please bear with me.

I am now a senior. Sophomore year, I had a two suitemates, we'll call one Colleen and one Paula(fake names). All three of us became pretty good friends and hung out alot. During the winter, Colleen and I became involved in relationships. Paula remained single. That's when the problems began. Paula couldn't handle the fact that we had significant others and would constantly make rude comments about our relationships and love in general. One day, Colleen and her man were having alone time in the suite she shared with Paula and Paula came back early. There was a big row about it, Paula claimed that Colleen locked her out for "45 minutes" (I was there and it was more like 2), and went on a screaming rampage. Paula began to make verbal insults and threats whenever Colleen was in earshot(usually things like c***sucker, whore, stupid bitch, etc). In the meanwhile Paula continued to use Colleen's computer, until Colleen put a password up. Paula then screamed obscenities at Colleen, getting mighty belligerent. A bit frightened, Colleen spent that nite at her bfs, and in the morning when she returned found that Paula had chainlocked the door against her entry. A huge confrontation followed, waking me from sleep at 7 A.M., and requiring the building manager to get involved. Somehow, they were both given warnings to leave eachother the hell alone. A few days later they patched things up and it was all good, although the friendship was a little shaken.

Now all this happened in the last two weeks of school, and we had all 3 already signed up to live together the next year again. But everything was made up so it was assumed that things would be ok...

Fast forward to Junior year. This time Colleen and I were in the same room and Paula was in the suite next door. Within the first week Paula was causing problems again, coming into our room and going on hour long rants on the uselessness of relationships and how pathetic we both were for believing love existed. One evening as she berated us for a few hours, keeping us up until 4 A.M., I finally had enough and told her to stop belittiling us just because of her insecurities about relationships. She freaked out and left slamming the door. The next day it was back to psycho roomate, making comments and chaining the door, this time against me. This time we ignored her and eventually she came crawling back for our forgiveness. We granted it to her, but without our trust anymore. We felt very suspicious with her in our room, always feeling she had ulterior motives. She began trying to get me to break up with my boyfriend...the same with Colleen. We would find her chillin in our room at one of our desks when we came back from class. We began to lock the door whenever we left.

In December Colleen and I had a pow-wow and determined that it would be sadistic to live with this girl again. Maybe it was just that deal where good friends make BAD roomies and we would get along great as neighbors. We then had a discussion with Paula about it, and she agreed.

At NYU room selection is determined by a lottery, wherein students recieve numbers according to seniority(and chance). The lowest numbers pick rooms first. Colleen and I had pick #11. Paula had pick 100-something. All the week before the nite of room choosing, Paula would constantly ask us "...so, what floor do you think you guys will pick?" "...what room number are you thinking about?" It made me VERY uneasy. The nite came, and Colleen and I picked the room we wanted. When we got back, Paula came to our room and asked what room we had. Colleen, thinking there was nothing to worry about, told her. Then Paula left to choose a room.

I started to feel REALLY suspicious so I dragged Colleen downstairs and LO AND BEHOLD, she had put herself into our suite!!!! For a moment, I saw red, no, I saw MAGENTA, I couldn't believe she had done that. We went and asked her about it...I know you're all thinking we went and interrogated the girl, but I checked myself and just innocently asked her what room she was in. Her response? "I don't want to talk about it" I then informed her that we knew already, and that I didn't understand why she did it, but that it was a really bad idea for us to live together for another year. SHE WENT BUCK WILD!!! "oh my f***cking God, you're gonna kick me out of my room you bitches blahblahblah" I thought her head was gonna spin around 180 degrees, for real.

Fast forward to now. Colleen and I tried to do a room change request, and it was denied. This girl is here now, and we have just completely ignored her so far. But she continues to tell stories about us to everyone she meets. She has already tried to get the R.A. against us, and now our roomates who don't know us. I just feel so angry and uncomfortable, and it's the first week. Classes haven't even started yet, I shouldn't be this stressed. I don't know what to do, I feel like there's no one to turn to or help me out. I don't want everyone on this hall and in my suite to hate me before they even get a chance to know me. She tells the most outrageous lies. The biggest problem is that although she hasn't been able to keep any friends longer than a year, before that she seems very normal and affeable. If you have ANY advice, especially if you've been a student at NYU or a similar school, or even if not, I would be so grateful if you could help!