That first phone call?

James · #1 08-25-2002, 06:10 PM

I found this online . . . does this sound like good advice ladies?

A Guy's Guy to Dating:
How to Make a Good Impression When Calling Single Women

OK, you have just met a new single girl recently and got her phone number. Now its time to make that all-important first phone call to her. Are you prepared to make a good impression on her so she will be interested in dating you? Guys, I just can't stress to you enough how important that first phone call to a woman is and you will be judged on what you say and how you act towards her. When making that first phone call I know you're going to be a little nervous, but don't screw it up! Let me give you a few pointers to insure your success in making a favorable first impression when making that first phone call:
Whatever you do, don't call when you're tired or fatigued. You won't be able to think straight and you won't be mentally sharp. You're personality is just not at its best when you are tired. Plus, it will show up in your voice too.
Turn off any radio or TV in the background. This is considered rude when trying to talk to someone. You want her undivided attention, with no distractions.
Please, please, please don't drink 3 or 4 beers to get up your courage to make that first phone call. You're really going to make a bad impression by coming across as drunk.
Don't eat, chew ice, or smoke while talking to her.
Speak clearly - don't mumble or whisper.
Don't start every other sentence with..."uh."
And, my last piece of advice is the most important one. Here's what I would do before calling her: I would get out a note pad and write out what I wanted to say to her, what questions I wanted to ask her (be sure and don't sound like you are interviewing her for a job), and topics of conversation to discuss. That way, I would never be at loss for words when talking to her. I would also take notes on our conversation. I would write down things she was interested in, her hobbies, her personal and career goals, things she likes to do on her days off from work, places she like to visit, her favorite restaurants, places she likes to go on vacation, etc. What's the purpose of this? This way you'll know what things she likes to talk about. People always love to talk about things that they are interested in. Plus, it can give you some ideas on where to take her for a date.

Rudey · #2 08-25-2002, 06:35 PM

Isn't this how anyone acts on a phone call with someone they don't know that well yet?

-Rudey
--Don't forget to ask how far she'll go if you buy her a nicer dinner.

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Originally posted by James
I found this online . . . does this sound like good advice ladies?

A Guy's Guy to Dating:
How to Make a Good Impression When Calling Single Women

OK, you have just met a new single girl recently and got her phone number. Now its time to make that all-important first phone call to her. Are you prepared to make a good impression on her so she will be interested in dating you? Guys, I just can't stress to you enough how important that first phone call to a woman is and you will be judged on what you say and how you act towards her. When making that first phone call I know you're going to be a little nervous, but don't screw it up! Let me give you a few pointers to insure your success in making a favorable first impression when making that first phone call:
Whatever you do, don't call when you're tired or fatigued. You won't be able to think straight and you won't be mentally sharp. You're personality is just not at its best when you are tired. Plus, it will show up in your voice too.
Turn off any radio or TV in the background. This is considered rude when trying to talk to someone. You want her undivided attention, with no distractions.
Please, please, please don't drink 3 or 4 beers to get up your courage to make that first phone call. You're really going to make a bad impression by coming across as drunk.
Don't eat, chew ice, or smoke while talking to her.
Speak clearly - don't mumble or whisper.
Don't start every other sentence with..."uh."
And, my last piece of advice is the most important one. Here's what I would do before calling her: I would get out a note pad and write out what I wanted to say to her, what questions I wanted to ask her (be sure and don't sound like you are interviewing her for a job), and topics of conversation to discuss. That way, I would never be at loss for words when talking to her. I would also take notes on our conversation. I would write down things she was interested in, her hobbies, her personal and career goals, things she likes to do on her days off from work, places she like to visit, her favorite restaurants, places she likes to go on vacation, etc. What's the purpose of this? This way you'll know what things she likes to talk about. People always love to talk about things that they are interested in. Plus, it can give you some ideas on where to take her for a date.

Hootie · #3 08-26-2002, 12:09 AM

Golly, can someone forward that to my ex....LMAO!

Good ideas...for both guys and gals. I know that I get a little distracted if I'm around a TV or the computer. I'll even start to fall asleep if the conversation takes place too late at night (I did that a BUNCH when Will would call from TX).

Hootie

SoCalGirl · #4 08-26-2002, 12:38 AM

Having notes to refer to sounds good. But if I knew a guy was taking notes of our conversation, I might think he's a stalker.

valkyrie · #5 08-26-2002, 11:08 AM

Aiii. Taking notes? If a guy is so incapable of having a normal conversation on the phone without writing out notes ahead of time, I think it might be best for the world if he just NOT date. I don't think most people have that hard a time on the phone, even the first time. If the conversation doesn't flow naturally, maybe the two people don't have anything in common and probably wouldn't have fun on a date anyway.

The other stuff is fine, but I don't think it's a big deal if a guy is listening to music.