uh, sex question

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #1 08-07-2002, 10:32 PM

So I'm a little embarassed.

How old were you guys when you lost your virginity? I was kinda old... I just wasn't ready yet. I've heard average is like 16. I was 21. But me and the boyfriend just broke up (as in, the first boy I ever had sex with) and now I'm worried it'll strike a "Hey, that's weird" chord with new guys.

Any thoughts?

Dionysus · #2 08-07-2002, 10:34 PM

FiReKraCkEr · #3 08-07-2002, 10:40 PM

I'm pleading the fifth on my info

But, I see you decided to break up with him.....How are ya doin?

But about your question....it'll only be weird if you are with someone who doesn't care about you enough to get past your lack in sexual experiences...

Also, I know tons of guys who are looking for girls that are not so experienced.

Ivory

James · #4 08-07-2002, 10:40 PM

Why even bring it up or answer it? Most guys won't pry all that much . . .

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
So I'm a little embarassed.

How old were you guys when you lost your virginity? I was kinda old... I just wasn't ready yet. I've heard average is like 16. I was 21. But me and the boyfriend just broke up (as in, the first boy I ever had sex with) and now I'm worried it'll strike a "Hey, that's weird" chord with new guys.

Any thoughts?

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #5 08-07-2002, 10:43 PM

It just seems to always come up..... I think what guys really want when they're asking is to know that my number ISN'T 4,398.

Besides.... if I get really emotionally involved with a guy, to where I want to have sex with him..... wouldn't it make sense to tell him about this part of me too?

James · #6 08-07-2002, 10:44 PM

Also . . .

5 years of steady sex is FAR from not experienced . . . damn girl you could have done everything 100 times over again in such a long period . . .

Goodness at least twice a day every day for (5 times 356 +1 leap year) . . thats a lot of practice!

Church altars, toys, and places of mysteries should have no lure for you anymore . . . you might just be bored with anyone new . . .

I am teasing you, but don't worry

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #7 08-07-2002, 10:48 PM

Hahaha. No no. I misspoke. What I meant to say was that MOST people have sex for the first time at age 16, but I had sex for the first time at age 21.

So it's only been 6 months.

KappaKittyCat · #8 08-07-2002, 11:06 PM

I was 18. My s/o was "ready" before I was; I wanted to wait. When I decided I was ready, I went to Victoria's Secret and got a really sexy nightgown and planned this huge surprise.

On the topic of relationship sex... it's kinda funny. If there's possibly something emotional between me and another person, I hold off on the physicality, 'cuz it means so much more when there are emotions attatched. I'll wait 'til there's a mutual declaration of emotion, intent, and commitment. But if it's a mere release of pent-up energy, then that's another story. Just make sure there's a condom handy.

I will humbly assert my right to know the (general) sexual history of anyone whom I'm going to date seriously, before we get in bed. I will reciprocate, of course, and each of us should get tested before stuff starts happening.

sororitygirl2 · #9 08-07-2002, 11:14 PM

I know many guys in their early to mid-twenties who are VERY impressed with girls who have never had sex, or only with one person... it makes them feel that they are special if you choose them to be the first or second (even if you are their 12th... whoa hypocritical!), it shows that you are loyal and also, as I know one of my friends said, "I'd rather have a blank slate and teach her how to make me happy than have to unteach her something some other fool liked."

Rudey · #10 08-08-2002, 12:17 AM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
So I'm a little embarassed.

How old were you guys when you lost your virginity? I was kinda old... I just wasn't ready yet. I've heard average is like 16. I was 21. But me and the boyfriend just broke up (as in, the first boy I ever had sex with) and now I'm worried it'll strike a "Hey, that's weird" chord with new guys.

Any thoughts?

Ok I thought really hard about this and if you come over right now, I can boost your number. Seriously if I wore nothing I'd get you up to two, but if i wore a mustache the second time it'd be like three, and if I wore a sombrero the third time that's four. Now consider the offer.

In all seriousness, why does it matter? You want someone that wants you for who you are. Guess what, you will find someone who wants sex to be less of an animal action if you really want. It just seems to me that if you want it to be emotional and not just "sex" you will only have sex with someone you really care about and are in a committed relationship. If you don't care and just want to get some, those are the same guys you will attract.
And remember, Tom Earp is always available and UFPike looks like Eminem so I'm sure they're always options.

-Rudey

FiReKraCkEr · #11 08-08-2002, 12:20 AM

Rudey:

TRES FUNNAY!!

He's totally right!

Ivory

wvapogirl · #12 08-08-2002, 01:36 AM

HotDamn-
I was 19 and a half before I had sex. I know a lot of people who waited. I also have seen that it's become the trend (at least among the people I hang out with) for guys to go for girls who respect themselves and know what they want, and don't do things that make them uncomfortable just to make their boyfriends happy. The guy who is right for you is not going to think that you were "weird" for staying a virgin until you were 21- he will respect you for the decision you made (trust me; Mr. wvapo and I have been a couple for almost 5 years now).

Peaches-n-Cream · #13 08-08-2002, 02:04 AM

I read somewhere once that the smart girls wait until they are older to become intimate. Many of my friends were 21 or older when they first became active. You are in good company.

phikappapsiman · #14 08-08-2002, 02:04 AM

This is SO Bill Clintonish of me, but...

Question to the women...

Do you consider "having sex" to mean JUST the traditional baby making way (don't want to get graphic here), or are other sexual acts considered sex as well? The reason that I ask is because I once dated a woman who was "saving herself" until marriage, but she did most evertything else!

And she was very good at it (and no, it wasn't Monica!). Yet she considers herself a "virgin". So, is she?

Peaches-n-Cream · #15 08-08-2002, 02:11 AM

Yes she is technically .
I do think that the other acts are very intimate. As a friend of mine once said, "A man would rather marry a woman with a few sex partners than a virgin who goes down like the Titanic!"