Rush events-need advice!!!

praisedancer · #1 02-06-2001, 11:57 AM

After meeting the sororities at my school last night, there are two that I am particularly interested in. I will spend time with all of them at the progressive dinner tonight, but tomorrow their individual events begin. The problem is that these two sororities that I really like have their first two events on the same nights at the same time. For example, on Wednesday night, AGD is meeting at the house at 6:30 for pizza and then going to the men's basketball game at 7:30. Alpha Phi is having an open house between 7-9 p.m. You can stop by anytime there. So, my question is do you think it would be appropriate to maybe have pizza with AGD, leave at 7:30, and then go to Alpha Phi's open house, or should I choose one or the other? I am really confused because I like them both so much. Thursday's events are pretty much the same situation. Then, they both have 2 more events on different days that I can make. Any quick advice would be GREATLY appreciated. Thank you!!!!!!!

SuperXO · #2 02-06-2001, 12:21 PM

You can definitely go to both, but you never know, you may not make it out of the first one. That's how it happened to me when I went through informal rush! I was planning on spending the 1st hour with ChiO and the second with TriDelt, because I liked them both. Well, I was having so much fun at ChiO, that I never made it out of there! So, I am always kind of sad that I missed spending more time with TriDelt...who knows what would have happened! However, I am so happy being a ChiO, so no regrets!

canada_jen · #3 02-06-2001, 12:39 PM

Praisedancer,

I'm glad that you like AGD so much

With that being sad, my advice to you is to choose to visit with one group tomorrow night as their individual events begin, and then do the same on Thursday night. That will give you a chance to get a strong sense of each group, without the pressure of time and worrying about having to leave halfway through. As well, by spending all of your time at one event, you will also let the sisters know that you are very interested in them. Perhaps for tomorrow night, you might choose to go for pizza & then to the game with the AGDS, and then on Thursday night, focus solely on the Alpha Phi event. I know that for me personally, I would want the opportunity to interact with as many sisters as possible, and also the chance to see the sisters in different environments - I think that how the sisters interact as the environment changes (from their house to the gym/arena) can provide much insight & a window into their sisterhood.

Praisedancer, I wish you all the best tonight & throughout rush

I know that I will be looking forward to your updates often!!

Take care, and be sure to keep us posted. Please feel free to email me anytime should you ever have any questions - about AGD or Greek life in general.

With Greek love,

Jen
Delta Zeta '97
Alpha Gamma Delta

praisedancer · #4 02-06-2001, 12:53 PM

Thanks for the advice. Do you think that if I attended AGD's event on Wednesday and then didn't attend their event on Thursday, they wouldn't think I was interested? Would this hurt my chances with them?

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Billy Optimist · #5 02-06-2001, 03:45 PM

Good Luck!!!!!!

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praisedancer · #6 02-06-2001, 04:02 PM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by imsohappythatiama:

On another note, are these the only 2 houses you're going to now? Is is wise to narrow your choices down to only 2 this early? Are other Rushees down to only 2 houses? When is bid day? I don't mean to question your choices AT ALL--I'm sure you are a very self-aware young woman . .. I'd just hate to see you narrow it down too soon and regret it later.

There are only 5 sororities on my campus, so there aren't a lot to choose from. These two are my top interests so far and I am also not ruling out KKG. I will know more how I feel about the others tonight, as I meet the rest of the girls and spend more time with them. I suppose I'm just looking ahead, but I will know more definitely tonight which ones I would like to go for. Thanks for the advice and the encouragement. I will let you all know how the dinner goes tonight.

imsohappythatiama · #7 02-06-2001, 04:04 PM

I completely understand now!

I didn't realize that there are only 5 houses at your university . . . makes total sense now.

You know we're rooting for you! Have a great time tonight and the rest of the week, and keep us posted!

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SuperXO · #8 02-07-2001, 01:39 AM

I agree with Jen, actually. You could plan on spending one whole evening with each chapter, so you don't get stuck like I did. However, if one gets boring, maybe you could still catch up with the other. I think the key there is flexibility. You shouldn't have to spend 2or 3 or more hours with a chapter if one hour has made you realized it may not be right after all. That is a long time and longer than any party for formal recruitment. It's good though, because if you like the chapter, you can spend a lot of time and really get to know them better before any commitments are necessary!
Now, on your last question, there is some bit of truth in that. I know from the other side of rush that if I saw a girl there one night, but not the next I (and my chapter) would figure she lost interest. If you feel comfortable, or that it is necessary, at the end of the night, make it clear to the recruitment chair, or whoever you've been chatting with in the chapter, that you really like them, but are unable to make it the next night. You don't have to tell them why, you could even say you have a night class or whatever. But, being honest is good. They'll know you like them and not to give up on you and they can tell you what their procedure is. perhaps the girl you've been talking to will meet you for lunch the next day instead. Or at least they can keep your phone number and call you for preference or whatever. Praisedancer, I can't speak for all chapters everywhere, but I think talking with them about the fact that you are unable to make it the next night is really the best bet. Best of luck and keep us updated!

imsohappythatiama · #9 02-07-2001, 01:43 AM

I agree with SuperXOs very smart and well-put comments. If you are going to miss a chapter's function, be sure to let them know that you are going to miss. Otherwise, as SuperXO pointed out, they are sure to assume that you've just lost interest, or are just nonchalant about the whole thing, and not very dedicated.

On another note, are these the only 2 houses you're going to now? Is is wise to narrow your choices down to only 2 this early? Are other Rushees down to only 2 houses? When is bid day? I don't mean to question your choices AT ALL--I'm sure you are a very self-aware young woman . .. I'd just hate to see you narrow it down too soon and regret it later.

Best of luck to you! I can't wait to hear how it all turns out.

Best of luck to you!

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