Bachelor Party

Ideal08 · #1 06-27-2002, 01:30 PM

Alright, fellas, I want the real. Here's the situation...

You are getting married. Your fiancee doesn't want you to have any strippers, and she is ADAMANT about it. So much so, that she is not having any strippers either. But you know your friends, and you know they are going to want strippers at the party. Do you tell your friends no strippers? And if you do, do you trust that they will respect your wishes?

Dexter · #2 06-27-2002, 01:41 PM

Here is the real............You will never know!

Ideal08 · #3 06-27-2002, 02:04 PM

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Originally posted by Dexter
Here is the real............You will never know!

No, that's not the real, that's the obvious.

Professor · #4 06-27-2002, 02:16 PM

Well you know I have had this conversation. My take is that it is a party for me so why be concerned. What she does at her party with her girls is ok with me so she should not be concerned about my last night as a single man.

TLAW · #5 06-27-2002, 02:40 PM

I'll be honest, and speak from experience. In my opinion, it is not an unreasonable request. If she says she doesn't want the spectacle of strippers, and you respect her feelings, I think it is a small matter to FORCEFULLY communicate your wish to your groomsmen. I know this is not popular, but all that talk of one last wild night is crap.
No one can force you to be where you don't want to when it comes to partying, so if your peeps go against your wishes and get strippers anyway, then that is not your party, and you don't need to be there.

DST Love · #6 06-27-2002, 02:44 PM

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Originally posted by Professor
Well you know I have had this conversation. My take is that it is a party for me so why be concerned. What she does at her party with her girls is ok with me so she should not be concerned about my last night as a single man.

You equate being engaged with being single

? To me, the "last night" (so to speak) should be before someone proposes and someone accepts. But I guess that just my and my fiance's warped way of thinking

.

Note: I'm not talking about the groom and bride going out separtely with friends to just have fun. I'm talking about a way of thinking. Thinking that this is the "last night". Whatever

!! Grow up already.

DST Love · #7 06-27-2002, 02:55 PM

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Originally posted by TLAW
I'll be honest, and speak from experience. In my opinion, it is not an unreasonable request. If she says she doesn't want the spectacle of strippers, and you respect her feelings, I think it is a small matter to FORCEFULLY communicate your wish to your groomsmen. I know this is not popular, but all that talk of one last wild night is crap.
No one can force you to be where you don't want to when it comes to partying, so if your peeps go against your wishes and get strippers anyway, then that is not your party, and you don't need to be there.

Thank you!! Is is that serious that you just have to have a stripper even though your WIFE to be asks you not to? Perhaps if it is that serious, you can just break it off so that you can see strippers, etc. anytime you want without having to be hassled

!!

It's about respect. It shouldn't be about control issues or anything else. And if it is, grow up (again

)!!

Dag on kids just never grow up!!

Professor · #8 06-27-2002, 02:57 PM

Young Lady - Apparently you have misunderstood my point . . . and that's fine if you don't get it or like it!!!! But please keep in mind that you don't know shit about me other than what I may post. To reference my maturity would require you to know me personally and that you don't.

Ideal08 · #9 06-27-2002, 02:59 PM

This is not about whether or not to have the party or whether or not people need to grow up or whatever. The question is, if you told your dudes that you didn't want a stripper, do you think they would oblige you?

Dang, yall be gettin' heated in here. It ain't even that serious.

TLAW · #10 06-27-2002, 03:03 PM

Well, call me an idealistic idiot, but if they don't oblige me, who are they really throwing the party for? Me, or themselves? If they are my groomsmen, special people who are attendants at MY wedding, they are gonna do what I ask, and they should oblige. My wedding, my rules. If they decide to renege, I don't have to be at the said strip show.

Professor · #11 06-27-2002, 03:06 PM

the thing about these types of parties is when you are not the one planning the function, you really don't have control. i've known friends to request no strippers and yet Brothers have still added the surprise. now i realize that one can just leave the party . . . but how often does that happen.

i don't see a damn thing wrong with having strippers if that is the type of thing you like. personally, i see strippers as a hoes for hire and that does not interest me. but if i wanted one, two, three, etc. at my party then so be it. it does in no way imply that i'm having sex with these girls nor does it speak to my maturity.

TLAW · #12 06-27-2002, 03:13 PM

You are right about the control thing, Prof. It is a well known fact the groom generally has little to do with the planning. I also share in your sentiments about strippers. Still, if they got me one, I'd simply assume that they did not want me at the party, and would have acted as such by leaving.

Discogoddess · #13 06-27-2002, 03:41 PM

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Originally posted by Professor
...it does in no way imply that i'm having sex with these girls...

Not you personally, Professor, but I do think having strippers at one's bachelor party CAN connotate that sexual acts will go on. I've heard too many stories (from eyewitness men) about oral and other inappropriate sexual activities that grooms and their friends (many married or engaged themselves) engage in.

Professor · #14 06-27-2002, 04:07 PM

I had not thought of oral sex - - - maybe you have a point - lol

SeriousAKA · #15 06-27-2002, 04:31 PM

Sometimes I think the stripper is more for the people AT the party than the groom. If I ask my man not to have strippers, do I think he still will? Probably because the folks throwing the she-bang will think having strippers is a GREAT idea.