Why Women Love Bad Boys

[CrimsonTide4]

I DID NOT write this. I am putting it out there as a conversation starter. What type of men are you attracted to? Do you agree with this?

Why women love bad boys
Laura Schafer

Many women love to walk on the wild side, even if it means risking a broken heart by dating a bad boy. It's dangerous, exciting, and interesting. While some women date these rebels for a change of pace, most of them are intrigued by the tough exterior - it's a challenge. So what can a nice guy do to measure up and create some excitement in his relationship? Here are five ways to incorporate a little bad boy into the dating game:


1. Women like the chase too
If, in the beginning, you call all the time and bury us in flowers,
we're going to think it's too much too fast. Bad boys know that a healthy distance makes the prize more valuable. We can't pin down a bad boy, which makes us want him even more. The key for a guy is not to be rude or appear that you don't care. You want a happy woman, not a head case with an abandonment complex... right?

2. Women want a tough, confident guy
When push comes to shove, many women will admit that they'd choose Russell Crowe over Tom Hanks. It's not the brawn or bourbon drinking that's the draw, but the supreme self-confidence. A bad boy doesn't doubt his sex appeal (or even stop to consider it), and that makes him sexy. This kind tough confidence, though, is most enduring when we eventually get
to break through it to reveal a man's true soft side... but not on a first date!

3. Women want a man who plays by his own rules
We like a guy who sees the world and tries to change it, either by running the company instead of working for it, confronting a problem instead of whining about it, or creating something instead of criticizing others. Men who have strong convictions don't always fit into the stereotypical molds. The successful bad boy is bold, takes risks, and isn't afraid of failure.

4. Women want to be surprised
You never know what a bad boy has up his sleeve. A midnight
motorcycle ride? A skinny-dip in the neighbor's pool? You get the idea - bad boys live for the moment. They might not have a retirement fund or health insurance, but they do have a sense of adventure. So keep your IRA and insurance plans, but add some spontaneous zest to your dating game.

5. Women want to be seduced
A dark, jazz-filled bar, a real drink (martinis not pina coladas),
and a sultry slow dance are what bad-boy dates are made of. He'll lean in, touch us, and make long, slow eye contact. The bad boy makes his date feel like a goddess - the only girl in the room. He might bestow this kind of attention only once or twice before he moves on to the next conquest, but there's nothing better than a bad boy who sticks around... even if he was only pretending to be bad.

[lil_sunshine]

Women like bad boys for all the reasons stated in the article. I also think that women like guys that they know good and well their parents warned them about, wouldn't approve of, wouldn't wanna meet, etc. I used to be like that, but I realized that the bad boys can turn the good girls into bad ones. And like Jay-Z said in "Song Cry," 'You can't turn a bad girl good, but once you turn a good girl bad, she's gone forever.' I totally agree with that statement b/c it happened to me. After dealing with my ex (who was my first), I feel like my guard is up all the time and I don't give guys the chance to try to get their foot in the door (not that I used to do that anyway). There are guys that I'm interested in being with, but all I do is think about just being their friend first b/c I'm afraid of rejection. I'm trying to explore all of the options given to me just to be safe rather than sorry. I've always believed that you can figure out who you think would be good bf/husband material by being his friend first. That way, you know about all of their hangups and you can think about whether they would be worth your time in a relationship or whether they'd drain your energy being the mess-ups they became along the way. Some women have a tendency to want to be with a man who they think they can save/change. Women try to stick it out with them to see what's going to happen and when it doesn't work out, they become bitter in different sorts of ways. JMHO....

[librasoul22]

Bad boys are definitely my preference. It is funny because people will see me and a "bad boy" and afterwards be like, "hmm, y'all are an odd couple," or, "he doesn't seem like your type." Well I just love a man who could care less whether or not he is sexy.

Furthermore, ambition does it for me! And in this day and age, ambition and entreprenurial spirit can be showcased whether or not is is the "conventional" (read: legit) way!
Actually, I rather prefer the unconventional way because, in my opinion, that shows innovation. I don't know, just my skewed way of thinking, lol.

I also agree with the part about being spontaneous. I am an EXTREMELY spontaneous person, and most things I just do on a whim. I love a man that can keep me surprised.

[nikki25]

Some women like bad boys because that is all that they think that they deserve.

[CrimsonTide4]

The article brings out some good points. Ultimately I want a man who shows his love for me, is educated, God-fearing and God-believing, motivated, confident, respectful of me, my goals and dreams, and my family. I also want a man who is family oriented and who seeks to improve himself when he can.

The whole bad boy thing comes from people watching too many music videos and movies and seeing them get away with trouble or making trouble look cool.

NOTE TO ALL MEN: I am allergic to jail. I am not Alicia Keys and will not come visit ya azz in jail and sing songs to you.

I want a man who exudes confidence and who does call regularly and send me flowers because I like that in a man. I just like to know that I am on his mind like he is on mine. It could just be he sends me an E-hollah or a flower gram or cleans my house or cooks my dinner.

I want a man that can stand beside me and weather my storms.

Good or Bad, just make him dipped in CHOCOLATE.

[lil_sunshine]

This sounds like me. I would NEVER, and I mean NEVER, go to jail to visit a guy. I don't care what he may have done or how long we were together, he ain't seeing me until he gets out. Just b/c he wanted to screw up his life and do something to get into trouble doesn't mean that I should put my life on hold to cater to his needs or anything of the sort. And I can't sing worth a lick anyways. And like I said in the GC Icebreaker, I loooove chocolate when it comes to men!!!

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4

NOTE TO ALL MEN: I am allergic to jail. I am not Alicia Keys and will not come visit ya azz in jail and sing songs to you.


Good or Bad, just make him dipped in CHOCOLATE.

[9dstpm]

I used to date bad boys because I felt like the good ones (educated, God-fearing, employed) were boring and they never paid any attention to me, always preferring the chickenheads or big butts and boobs with no brains. My son's father was a bad boy and as a result of his bad boy ways, he's six feet under. Before his death, he abandoned us and it hurt me badly. I no longer wanted the bad boys, the good guys didn't want to take a "baby's mama" seriously and I became bitter.

I took a good long look at myself and decided then and there that I deserved someone who would treat me like the queen that I am. I deserved someone who valued an education, who went to church on a regular basis, who worked hard like I did and most importantly, cared about my son. It took almost 6 years, but I have a good guy in my life and we've been together for almost 2 years and hopefully will get married in the near future once I finish grad school. Stability has never been so exciting to me.

[Lizanabavi]

Hello to all


Some women want a Bad Boy because the have a "Missionary Mentality".

Ex: -Buying him a new wardrobe. Puleeeeeeeze.

-Paying all his bills, but he does'nt work. What?

-Has females up in your house. No Ma'am.

If you're doing all of that for him he has no reason to change. Men
know upfront whether they want to be with you or not. Plus, they know who to try with that foolishness. Keep yourself reserved for those deserving of your attention.

"A man will do what you allow him to do".