is it SAFE to Tease?

stoplook_listen · #1 05-13-2002, 01:33 AM

I was talkin to some females I know and they were saying how they get a kick out of d**# teasing these guys. They said how sometimes they'd invite dudes over late night or whenever and they'd be kissing and rubing and stuff like that...and how they'd let the guys THINK they were getting sum, but then would be like NO. They knew how frustrating/agonizing this is for guys, and got a "kick" out of this frustration...they'd laugh about it.
Further, they went on to laugh about how theyd let some guys perform oral sex on them and then NOT sexually "take care of" the man.

I acknowledge that a woman has a right to say no. I also acknowledge that sexual assault/rape is ALWAYS inexcusable.
I've met a few women who "played" me like that, and I always get up and have nothing to do with them again. I accept no as no (even though I resented them arousing me like that for no reason). I know women owe men NOTHING!

However, that being said, I know men who are sexually aggressive. Some may get angry that the woman is trying to "play them like a simp". I believe it's conceivable that these guys might take this anger out via sexual assault. Many men have this attitude that if a woman does all that sexual stimulating stuff with you, that she must wanna have sex, or she "owes" you sex....ESPECIALLY if you give her oral sex.

Assuming hopefully most women aren't naive to the fact that quite a few men have these attitudes......

do you think that it is SAFE to d!$# Tease?

CrucialCrimson · #2 05-13-2002, 12:39 PM

Not only is it not safe, it's not responsible and it shows a low level of sexual and emotional maturity.

volgirl2376 · #3 05-13-2002, 10:12 PM

teasing is so inmature! i mean i can understand if you start messing around and then change your mind...but not laugh about it! i didnt think anybody invited someone of the opposite sex over late late at night without the intention of...you know. very unsafe too!

TLAW · #4 05-13-2002, 10:17 PM

Regardless of what happens, a man must have enough self control to cool off. Thanks, ladies, for recognizing that it is immature.

librasoul22 · #5 05-13-2002, 10:24 PM

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Originally posted by TLAW
Regardless of what happens, a man must have enough self control to cool off. Thanks, ladies, for recognizing that it is immature.

Have you as men really encountered this that often? I guess it is hard for me to fathom as a woman who would never tease a man. Besides, my self control isn't what is used to be either, I don't know if I would be capable of it!

lovelyivy84 · #6 05-13-2002, 10:24 PM

I can only agree with what has been said. If a girl did that then she really has some issues to deal with concerning sexual maturity, hell meturity in general (and common sense too- I mean that just isn't safe, and you would hope someone cared about their own life and wellbeing!). It doesn't EVER justify assault, but it still isn't right.

volgirl2376 · #7 05-13-2002, 10:26 PM

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Originally posted by librasoul22
Besides, my self control isn't what is used to be either, I don't know if I would be capable of it!

Lol me either!

TLAW · #8 05-13-2002, 10:28 PM

*blushing at Librasouls comment* Lawdy!!!
Never really happened to me, but that's another story. I just try to eliminate excuses. Still, with all the sick predators out there, why tempt fate?

lovelyivy84 · #9 05-13-2002, 10:36 PM

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Originally posted by librasoul22

Have you as men really encountered this that often? I guess it is hard for me to fathom as a woman who would never tease a man. Besides, my self control isn't what is used to be either, I don't know if I would be capable of it!

LOL! Tellin the truth!

I think that for some women, they think that it is just expected of them to say no. A lot of young ladies are STILL raised to think that sex is bad and that they shouldn't like it. They get into some pretty destructive habits to deal with their own inability to face their hangups.

They are of course balanced by the new breed of what I call "mannish women" who have adopted the historically male role of sexual predator, lol!

TLAW · #10 05-13-2002, 10:41 PM

You know?!!! Some women are really forward nowadays!! Some women's behavior used to have me covering my chest, grabbing my boxers and taking off, screaming rape all the way!

lilZetagirl · #11 05-13-2002, 11:52 PM

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Originally posted by volgirl2376
teasing is so inmature! i mean i can understand if you start messing around and then change your mind...but not laugh about it! i didnt think anybody invited someone of the opposite sex over late late at night without the intention of...you know. very unsafe too!

when a woman realizes that "heavy petting" has gone too far, versus her "cutting it short" purely for amusement!...i can only echo the comments of the other sister girls that have said the women in question have a LOT of maturing to do, mentally and sexually.

i think most adult women know how far they are willing to go on a "date", sometimes things get a little carried away and the brakes are put on before things go "a little too far", i believe that this is acceptable...but doing it strictly for laughs? nah, you may want to start asking for ID's...

librasoul22 · #12 05-14-2002, 12:03 AM

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Originally posted by lilZetagirl

when a woman realizes that "heavy petting" has gone too far, versus her "cutting it short" purely for amusement!...i can only echo the comments of the other sister girls that have said the women in question have a LOT of maturing to do, mentally and sexually.

i think most adult women know how far they are willing to go on a "date", sometimes things get a little carried away and the brakes are put on before things go "a little too far", i believe that this is acceptable...but doing it strictly for laughs? nah, you may want to start asking for ID's...

Agreed. Intentions are important.

Dag, I mean this whole thread kinda puts a new spin on the idea of a "millenium woman"!

I agree that women should be EQUAL to men, that doesn't mean that we need to be the SAME as men. Not saying that it is okay for a man to tease, no no, but like lovelyivy84 said, women are expected to say no. I personally don't put myself in situations where I would have to test my self control. Women with any kind of self-respect and dignity woud not need to feel validated by turning a man on then turning him down. Not trying to beat a dead horse, but it DOES boil down to maturity.

TLAW · #13 05-14-2002, 07:21 AM

Men tease? Naw!!!!!!!!!

korkscru · #14 05-14-2002, 09:56 AM

This particular topic should be good for adolescents, particularly teen-aged girls.

I once heard a comedian say that he/she believed that a woman KNOWS from first sight whether she is going to sleep with a man or not. In MANY instances... THAT'S TRUE. And I TOTALLY agree with the Brother who said that most women have been taught that sex is basically "dirty" and it's their "moral duty" to say no. But women haveto realize that "teasing" MAY invite serious danger. And when teasing is used just to be mean or controlling, it kinda gives women a bad rap.

Now "sexual games" that involve teasing are INEVITABLE. Now, I'll be the first to admit that I have and STILL use teasing in THIS way. But it's with my HUSBAND (and we've been together for almost 11 years). And to be honest,... it's usually a lot of fun... FOR THE BOTH OF US. It's like winning a prize.

I do it sometimes now because, FOR ME, it's kinda like foreplay. Both my husband and I already KNOW that I'm going to give in. The question usually isn't IF I'll give in, but WHEN will I give in.

But as far as the dating scene goes, I think that "teasing" should be VERY limited because you may not know what you're getting yourself into or who you're dealing with.