What Would You Do?

HoneyBee1922 · #1 05-10-2002, 06:50 PM

I you had a "friend" interested in Sigma Gamma Rho that you know would never make it? Here is the story: I have this friend from High School who has recently expressed interest in Sigma Gamma Rho. (I had no idea she was interested until she showed up to one of our events.) Here is the problem, while I like her and we share a bond from high school- I know she will never make it. She has made some bad decisions some of my Sorhors are aware of, so even if I become her advocate she will never get in. Also, from conversations with her about Greeklife, I am suspect of her motives- and I will not make a Tee-Shirt wearer.
So, what do you think?
P.S. Another kink in this story is that her mom and my mom are pretty close- which is why we kept in semi-contact after all these years.

Rhomance · #2 05-10-2002, 08:50 PM

Hello SoRhor,
I see that you are in a bind. The only advice that I can offer you is to be fair and accept or deny her on the merits that you would accept or deny someone that you are not friends with. If she doen't make it explain to her the qualifications and that she wasn't what the sorority was looking for in general. Tell her it is not personal agianst her but it is business. I too had a friend who wanted to join this year but she would not do the the name Sigma Gamma Rho justice. She had done some pretty wild things on campus that eveyone one was aware of. Although she had settled down and changed her reputation still proceeded her. She was also not the type to WORK so we could not afford her. We need workers and we need people to be an asset not just another member. I know how you feel and hope that you can break it to her nicely. But you must remember that just because they are your friends does not mean that they are meant to be your soror. But most of all do what is right for you beacuse in the end that is all that matters

loviest95 · #3 05-11-2002, 12:03 PM

Make sure that she understands that SGRho business it just that business..

Sorority life is sometimes seperate from social life.. Your organizationdesereves the best and evidently she is not about the same thing you are-- just food for thought

sgrhoKEdiva · #4 05-12-2002, 04:00 PM

Remember to be fair, the past is just that the past. You must give a person a chance to change and grow. Sigma Gamma Rho might just be what she needs. Our purpose is to make our community better even if by one person.

Now on the other hand I can't stand t-shirt wearers either!!!

Invite her to functions see what she's about, does she participate or sit back. Give her chance, find out her motives. Don't just write her off.

SeriousSigma22 · #5 05-13-2002, 07:46 PM

Sorhor,

I think you know that you already have the answer about this high school friend it's just that you are talking it out in your mind. And you are trying to come up with the right words to say to this friend. Everyone has given you their opinion but you are the only one that really knows this person and must make that decision to deal with this sticky situation.

Serioussigma22