Do you make EYE contact during ?

Blueknowledge · #1 03-26-2002, 04:17 PM

True Story: I FINALLY "sealed the deal" with this fine young lady that I put far too much money, and waited too darn long (almost 2 mo.) into last night(HORRAY!). However, during our session, she kept wanting to stare into my eyes. I was like WTF, but because I had achieved my goal, I wasn't going to dare ruin her mood.

Question: Do you like to make sustained eye contact during the nasty?

Blueknowledge

DOVE1920 · #2 03-26-2002, 04:39 PM

I'm kinda puzzled by some of your comments. So you mean to tell me that because you spent money on her, she should have had sex with you sooner? And since when is 2mos too long? How long do you usually wait? And since when did having sex become a goal???

Virtual Violet · #3 03-30-2002, 06:01 PM

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Originally posted by Blueknowledge
True Story: I FINALLY "sealed the deal" with this fine young lady that I put far too much money, and waited too darn long (almost 2 mo.) into last night(HORRAY!). However, during our session, she kept wanting to stare into my eyes. I was like WTF, but because I had achieved my goal, I wasn't going to dare ruin her mood.

Question: Do you like to make sustained eye contact during the nasty?

Blueknowledge

Now Blueknowledge! Do you REALLY think you are going to get sympathetic answers from the ladies on this thread?

How is having sex after knowing someone only 2 months finally "sealing the deal" AND what makes you think that two months was too darn long?!

I would like to know what EXACTLY is your benchmark, for how much money you will spend before you reach your "goal"!? I mean, unless you took her out EVERY NIGHT to 5-star restaurants, etc. I wouldn't even begin to think that you spent any major money on her!

In your defense, since your session was consensual, she could have been out for the same thing and she may have "pimped" YOU for sex and money! I guess that would make it equal.

I don't know, maybe she was making eye contact because she wanted to see if you actually had a soul or really cared for her? But judging from your post, apparently you don't since you were only out for the "goal"!! I mean, why make eye contact when you are only interested in the sex!

Zetaphied · #4 03-30-2002, 06:18 PM

I agree with the other two ladies that posted previously to me, so all I will add is everyone is different in bed. Some people just happen to be visual and like making eye contact, just like they like the lights turned on. Just because a young lady was staring into your eyes doesn't mean she was being emotional or cared the least bit for you...that's perhaps is just the way she is...maybe eye contact floats her boat! That'll all. Hopefully for her sake it wasn't that serious, because you obviously didn't think so.
But seriously though is there a time limit on when someone should or should not have sex? Secondly, is there some rule written that your eyes have to be closed? Lastly, I hope you informed this young lady that your "goal" was to simply get her in bed and not to get to know her for anything lasting. Like my Delta Sisterfriend said, she may have pimped you as well.

Peaches-n-Cream · #5 03-30-2002, 07:11 PM

Sorry for jumping onto your thread, but I had to comment. WOW! I didn't know that investing almost two months in dating one woman was a long time. Perhaps this woman is falling in love with you and what she shared with you wasn't just a goal but making love. I hope that you have sincere feelings for this woman and treat her well. Oh well. Just be kind to her.

Blueknowledge · #6 03-30-2002, 08:42 PM

Go easy, I was just having a little fun with the thread; don't beat a brother up. It's so funny because you can really tell the gender differences when it comes to $ex. When I tell the guys that the fine young lady wanted to stare into my eyes, they are usually laughing their a$$es off, or calling her psycho. One guy told me to "let that sh*t go." I just put it out there because I never had anyone FORCE me to stare into her eyes.

Now let me clear up a few things: First, the $ex was not a MAJOR goal, but I can assure you, that after the first date with a guy, he has turned his attention to calculating on when he is going to "seal the deal." (That doesn't mean he is there to disrespect you, but that he needs a little sumthin' sumthin' - you know what I mean?)

Look, I know that you ladies have to promote this notion of virtue with the "two months isn't long enough" slogan, but let's keep it real: You know, that I know, that you know, two months is MORE than long enough.

Heck, the last time I heard so many people systemically advocate that 2 months isn't long enough, I was in 10th grade. Besides, haven't you seen third date? They surely don't wait a full weather season to get "ja freak on."

Blueknowledge

BTW - I'm still with the "fine young lady" and I hope to be with her for quite awhile. So, I want to be clear: I was NOT exploiting the lady, but just surprised by an unusual bedtime request.

Finer Woman10-A-91 · #7 03-30-2002, 09:34 PM

WHY??????

This is really the kind of topic that leads to TMI!!!!!

Resolve · #8 03-31-2002, 02:06 PM

Have you thought of asking her why she requests it? and not during the act itself but, in a light hearted moment. Careful with the timing of the question whatever you do!

sphinxpoet · #9 03-31-2002, 10:42 PM

LOL @ this topic - blueknowledge you know you were going to get no love on this one!

But in general money, time dating and having sex really have nothing to do with each other..........One could happen without the other. Looking into the eye is a person to person thing some people do that some don't.

Sphinxpoet

Blueknowledge · #10 04-01-2002, 11:55 PM

"But in general money, time dating and having sex really have nothing to do with each other"

************************************************** ** There are only three times when this statement is absolutely true:

1. Whenever you go to a Pan-Hell. Conference (Some of my best "social action" programs have been at NPHC gatherings. I roll up to Deltas and tell them "Red & blue makes purple."....it works every time

)

2. NBA All-Star Weekend (Hey, Koby can't have 'em all. Can he?)

3. Those cheesy "Ski Trips" that are given in mid-February where no one skis and everyone drinks for 48hrs straight. (As long as you don't have to see them after the weekend, no one will know how ugly they were!

)

Zetaphied · #11 04-02-2002, 01:49 AM

Dang Bruh,
You took the convo from bad to worse. Perhaps the guys appreciate this muck muck your kicking but I doubt any of us ladies want to hear about your escapades.

zetafg · #12 04-02-2002, 10:45 AM

What Goes On Blueknowledge...What?

First of All:

What is Third Date? Is that some tacky behind show where people are showing/telling the world their business and that they don't have any luck with dating privately?

Second of All:

"but I can assure you, that after the first date with a guy, he has turned his attention to calculating on when he is going to "seal the deal."

With ALL due respect....when did YOU become the public speaker for ALL MEN??? NOT ALL MEN think the way that YOU do. There are MEN out there who are interested in spending time conversing, or just plain socializing with the "fine young lady" and not concerned about "sealing the deal."

Oh YES....I'm a little ticked

and Third of All:

"But in general money, time dating and having sex really have nothing to do with each other"

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** There are only three times when this statement is absolutely true:

1) When you are interested in the male/female mind
2) When you are interested in getting to know them and
3) When you are seeking a piece of their heart.

In MY opinion these are the facts.....What you listed is just plain WACK!

Have A Nice Day!

Dove Love

Virtual Violet · #13 04-02-2002, 06:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Blueknowledge
"But in general money, time dating and having sex really have nothing to do with each other"

************************************************** ** There are only three times when this statement is absolutely true:

1. Whenever you go to a Pan-Hell. Conference (Some of my best "social action" programs have been at NPHC gatherings. I roll up to Deltas and tell them "Red & blue makes purple."....it works every time)

To borrow from CT4!

AS IF my sorors would be amused by that lame a$$ line!

TOTAL

Innocence22 · #14 04-02-2002, 09:07 PM

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Originally posted by Blueknowledge
"************************************************* *** There are only three times when this statement is absolutely true:

1. ...........I roll up to Deltas and tell them "Red & blue makes purple."....it works every time)

LOL...that was corny. Is someone sure they pledged the right fraternity?

DOVE1920 · #15 04-02-2002, 11:40 PM

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Originally posted by Virtual Violet

To borrow from CT4!

AS IF my sorors would be amused by that lame a$$ line!

TOTAL

LMAO. Would anyone fall for that.