SIGMA/ZETA love relationships

theo14 · #1 04-17-2002, 02:00 PM

Ive been to 2 blue and white marriage....they were cool....
my last girl was a delta, the girl before that was a zeta...
she used to kind of push this whole blue and white wedding theme...but in a way i thought it was a little too much....like i can see having the colors and the serenade and the reception activites..but she was talking about having real doves, letters plastered everywhere, carnations everywhere at the whole works.......

maybe i was being frugal and thinking aboutt he financial obligaitons, but i still think all of that is a little too much....

Also, when i was involved with the zeta, it seems that all the zets, the whole chapter knew our business....when we fought....the sorors were angry at my and the bruhs, and it carried on and on and on......now i know you supposed to be looking out for your soror, but stuff supposed to be between me and her.......

what do you think about all of this?

SoTrue1920 · #2 04-17-2002, 02:11 PM

I made it a rule to never date Frat while I was single. The main reason was because of what you stated in your last paragraph: people would be all up in your business, assuming just becuase you were a Zeta/Sigma couple that your affairs are "family" business. I've seen Zeta/Sigma breakups damage the relationship between Zetas and Sigmas on several campuses, and it always takes some time before things are mended again.

I always said if you're a soror dating frat, keep it to yourselves unless the two of you attend different schools.

Blueknowledge · #3 04-18-2002, 10:28 AM

Brothers, I had this steemy relationship with a Zeta for almost 3 years (I thought I was going to marry that woman) and things were great; however, when we broke up, it was like the Zeta's declared war on our chapter. Talk about mancott - it got pretty ugly. Therefore, from this day on, I strongly recommend to the brothers to "always think twice" (like Michael Jackson) before you get into something. Nevertheless, I still luv my sisters.

Blueknowledge

Japera1920 · #4 04-18-2002, 12:32 PM

Well, I can only speak for myself. I am currently involoved with frat. Our relationship is not based on the blue and white bond. Anytime we have a problem I do not run to my chapter and spill the beans. The reason why because I am dating him not Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc.

Besides we have more in common than blue and white. I am not goign to lie, it is hard when you are dating frat. You have to set boundaries when it comes to relationships, Soror/Frat businees whether it is personal or not.

When it comes to your relationships have an understanding that your relationship is "yours" and not outsiders. That haas to be established int he beginning.

legacypbs · #5 04-18-2002, 03:51 PM

I love my soror/wifey. We talk bussiness when it's proper. But some simga things are just that sigma things & I would tell a GDI just as quickly as I would tell her. I love her as a Zeta but as my girl first. My peoples have been married 20 years but blue & white longer than that. Big ups all those pure blue & whites out there.

Blue_Passion_01 · #6 04-19-2002, 12:29 PM

I kniw the feeling. I dated a Sigma and it seemed like all of our business was in the chapter and then out on the street and then in other chapters. I guess that is what made me not date greek ever again.

lovablue1 · #7 04-21-2002, 12:18 PM

i'm not trying to start anything, but i think it should be left to the individual as to whether or not he or she wants to date within his/her organization's family. when i was becoming i was always told to say 'no' to dating a sigma. of course, i did my own thing. i have dated a brother here and a brother there and each person was special in his own way. no, everything was not perfect, but it wasn't something i ran back and told my entire chapter about. nor was it something i ran and told his chapter about. when things didn't workout we simply went our separate ways. however, i still remain friends with these individuals and they are still cool with me. why? because we are all adults and we act as so.

theo14 · #8 04-22-2002, 12:19 PM

Right now, since i am out of undergrad, i am more apt to dating a zeta, because we are both mature and such..but back at school (undergrad) it seems that we had issues some of it stemmed from her girls, sorors.....
for instance, supposedly one of her sorors saw me eating dinner with a some girl, then another soror saw me dancing up with with some AKA at a party....it was always " So and So told me" or "soror said this".....I know most of this is based on her own insecurities, and im sure it would be the same with any sorority

Six_Three_Sigma · #9 04-22-2002, 01:42 PM

We'll I'm currently dating a soror. In my case, we don't have the sorts of problems that were mentioned here because she did not pledge here nor did I. In fact she was Zeta when I met her (I was not a Sigma).

The relationship has been good and fulfilling.

So, I'd say that it is okay to date within the Blu and White, just be aware of what is important to you as a dating couple and what is important as members of the blue and white.

Many times and again, I have gotten into trouble by not separting the two. (I.e. I get a little too fervent about the frat.

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Six_Three_Sigma

TRUE ZETA · #10 04-24-2002, 03:19 PM

This is a funny topic. LOL!!

I almost married a frat. I think that we get our individuality mixed up when it comes to business and personal lives.

Yes, I am a Zeta, and my man is a Sigma. But, that is not all of who we are. I respect his frat and he respects me, and I can say this..we never argued about Zeta/Sigma business.

My ex is a life member and works very hard for the frat, and he knows his boundaries. I think that since he mom and sister are also sorors that he respects Zeta even more! LOL!!

But, I can say this..whoever I marry has to be a Sigma because he has to love Zeta as much as I do.