As a greek are there certain things you should grow out of due to your age?

[Zetaphied]

Is there anything else you have seen some greeks do, that make you think, "Dang can you grow up, your too old to still be trying to live like an undergrad, you've graduated now move on!"

For example people over 30 with careers, and families who hang out at their Alma Mater with the undergrads and kick it on the yard like they never graduated....

Another one is one of my good friends is a Que and he is 35, I always tease him for throwing on his gold boots and attending college parties thrown by his bruhs on his old yard....

[DOVE1920]

I consider someone old when they have graduated and haven't affliated with a grad chapter. And if they do the following things after that period they get the look :

1. Attending undergrad chapter meetings!
2. Going to conferences without being registered!
3. Are more familiar with the members in the undergraduate chapter but not the graduate chapter!

[sagezeta]

z-phi there! whaZZZup!

i jus' wanna know--what's wrong w/going to undergrad chapter mtgs?! when i was a neophyte
(about 8 yrs ago--i'm only 29), one of my sorors
who graduated the year and 1/2 b-4, used to come
to ALMOST every mtg. no, she was not an advisor,
and not a participant--she would just come in and
sit w/us throughout the gathering.

of course, she went to her own mtgs, but much of the time that she spent was w/us. i'm also very glad to say that after the mtg, i had the coveted privilege of learning different things from her,
like how things worked in a zeta chapter mtg, and
how advisors work with undergrads to "be about the
business of Zeta Phi Beta" for the benefit of all.

[Zetaphied]

The undergrads I've known usually affiliate with their chapter for at least a year after graduation which isn't a problem. As a matter of fact it's good for any undergrad who has gone on into a graduate chapter to sit in on their old chapter meetings from time to time, it helps strengthen the bond between grad and undergrad and it'll more likely encourage others to go into grad chapter if they see one of their one thriving in that capacity. What I heard Soror say is that she has a problem with people who leave undergrad never go into a grad chapter and aren't financial but still have time to go to every undergrad chapter meeting where they no longer have no say so, aren't financial , and are basically just tshirt wearers. As for me I have a problem with folks over 30 who can't seem to leave their youth behind and you'll still find them kicking back on the yard as if they never graduated. In my opinion you've experienced being an undergrad, move on to grad chapter and experience that, see what good you can do on that level instead of just appearing when its time to party, throw on nalia and party walk with the undergrads. Old heads always come back to the yard to support their undergrad chapter, but you shouldn't be there so often people are questioning if you've ever really graduated in the first place. There is a world beyond your undergrad chapter.

[Shelacious]

I feel you Soror Zetaphied...
While I think it's important to continue a relationship with your/an undergrad experience (for are we not all members of the same Sorority?), it is quite another to not provide your time, talent and resources to a local grad chapter. Usually, the old heads I see still kicking it "hard" aren't contributing financially to the undergrad chapter either, so they're getting some of the benefits of membership without some of the sacrifices. I loved my undergrad chapter and appreciated my undergrad experience. However, I have been in a grad chapter far longer than I was in my undergrad chapter. I am still willing to support and encourage my undergrad chapter (which I wish more grad members would do), BUT I understand that ultimately, it's now "their" chapter, and I really shouldn't impose my thoughts and opinions like I'm a chapter member.

[DOVE1920]

Originally posted by sagezeta
z-phi there! whaZZZup!

i jus' wanna know--what's wrong w/going to undergrad chapter mtgs?! when i was a neophyte
(about 8 yrs ago--i'm only 29), one of my sorors
who graduated the year and 1/2 b-4, used to come
to ALMOST every mtg. no, she was not an advisor,
and not a participant--she would just come in and
sit w/us throughout the gathering.

of course, she went to her own mtgs, but much of the time that she spent was w/us. i'm also very glad to say that after the mtg, i had the coveted privilege of learning different things from her,
like how things worked in a zeta chapter mtg, and
how advisors work with undergrads to "be about the
business of Zeta Phi Beta" for the benefit of all.

I'm talking about Sorors who are 3-4 years removed from the undergrad experience. Of course there is always valuable information to be learned from older Sorors but I personally think its best if that person wants to be so involved with undergrads they need to join the grad chapter and try to become the advisor...

[GiggyZ]

...to learn a stroll even if I will regret it the next day because of muscle soreness.

...to wear my Chicago Mills sweater to the homecoming game laughing at the sorors pointing and saying "dang soror, you pledged when?"

...to fire up a loud chant at the stepshow.

...to run up on the stage after my sorors win the show (Zetas love winning shows are do it OFTEN) and act like I was the stepmaster.

...to attempt to let our a ear-piercing Z-PHI (of course I may give my self a headache trying).

Let old folks have their fun. In case you don't know this, some seasoned greeks who were initiated at a young (19-22) age in collegiate chapters have mid-life soror/frat crisis and want to recaputure a little of the greek life they left behind. NOT! Just kidding.

For all the folks who only think we stroll, step, and party...YOU have a rude awakening. Just talk to any 20 plus year financial graduate member of a BGLO and ask them if we have time to play. What we have is a lifetime committment to SERVE. Think about it before you decide you wanna be a Z PHI B.


Done preaching. Now give me my Zeta shawl and I will sit down in my Zeta rocker.

LOL...Love my Sorors.

[Deltaquarius]

This thread interested me because it applies to me in a different way. I crossed last year on a collegiate line. My stats are that I'm 36, separated, mother of 2, full time job, full time school. First of all, I'm busy trying to maintain all those things and do the work of Delta so that doesn't leave alot of time for partying/road tripping and all that. I leave a lot of that to my line sisters because I think that's who most of the parties/road tripping and things of that nature are for. Do I like to have fun? Sure, but I'm too grown to hang like I did when I was 21 years old so I leave that to them.

WonderWoman
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