More Mo' Betta Motivation

[Ideal08]

You may fear the unknown, only seeking to live in the shelter of continuity and predictability. It's difficult to accept any kind of bad news (i.e., divorce, layoff, death of a loved one, illness). You will go through the stages of shock, denial, anger, confusion, guilt and bargaining with God. You can't ignore your feelings but you must learn the lesson they bring. Life can back you up into a corner forcing you to choose between surviving or folding, falling to pieces or staying in peace. Once you learn acceptance, you are able to begin the healing process. Acceptance doesn't mean that you are giving up or that any acts of wrong against you are justified. Acceptance creates a state of mind that is open to serenity, solutions and new beginnings.

Emotional pain can either cause you to shut down or focus on your priorities by asking yourself, "What's my next step?" Take it step by step, day by day.


After losing his son to violence, actor Bill Cosby stated in a Larry King interview, "Of course, it hurts, but I'm learning that in triumph, don't jump too high and when tragedy comes, don't sit too long."

Stay in the Light,
Jewel Diamond Taylor
Speaker and Best Selling Author
Click here: http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm

The above message is an excerpt from the author's book "You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed"

"I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think." - Socrates

Jewel Diamond Taylor will be speaking Wednesday, Oct 3, at her Lighthouse
Topic: How to Cope with Change
6:30 PM Refreshments/Networking
7:00 PM Message and Prayer

downtown Los Angeles in the L.A. Mart Bldg. 2nd floor, California Room, corner of Washington and Broadway, just south of the 10 Freeway, free parking

$10 per person admission

When you bring a friend, you will receive a free copy of Jewel's book You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed.

Any questions, please call 323-964-1736

Listen to your thought for the day - 323-964-4070

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I usually refer back to this one when work gets tough...

Be a Leader in the Midst of Conflict

The task of a leader, whether as a manager of professionals, a
leader of volunteers, or any other leadership role, requires a
commitment to stay with the course regardless of the frustrations
that may come. Never is this so true as when you try to help your
group manage conflict constructively.

Success in leadership comes not from your ability to manage when
things are going well, but from the way you handle adversity and
the challenge brought to your leadership skills by conflict. As a
leader, it is your responsibility to move members past the
conflicts that would tear them apart, toward a unity of spirit as
they pursue worthy goals.

How to help your group manage conflict:

* Point those in conflict toward common goals. Identify a
common goal that will overshadow the opposing interests of
those in conflict and will make them willing to work together
toward this goal. Keep in mind what you have in common, not
what you disagree about.

* Use problem solving. This is characterized by an open and
trusting exchange of viewpoints. The group recognized that it
can disagree with someone and still be able to work with them
or remain friends. Everyone should be asked to give as much
relevant information as they have. List the facts and ask for
clarification, particularly of opposing ideas. Then encourage
the group to search for new information that might shed light
on the subject. Create alternative solutions. Don't assume
that your first solution is the best. A high-quality solution
is one that best fits the common goals of the group.

* Focus on the issues, not personalities. It's important to
keep your focus on helping people feel accepted and valued
even when others criticize their ideas. Don't allow
name-calling or placing blame. This leads to defensiveness -
and to a more rigid position and poor communication. People
in conflict usually are unable, at least for the moment, to
cooperate on any issue, and simply telling them to cooperate
is not particularly helpful.

* Keep everyone informed about what is happening. The more
information that is shared and the more that people are
informed, the less threatening the experience. Servant
leadership is characterized by openness, by an ability to
listen, and by engaging people directly in the issues.

* Share rewards for success; share responsibility for failure.
At the heart of the learning organization is the ability to
evaluate what has happened and learn from it. Analyze your
experiences, examine them, reflect on them, and struggle to
understand them. Remember that it is acceptable to make
mistakes as long as you make them in good conscience while
doing the best you can.

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Shirley Schooley is an author, speaker, teacher,
college professor, mother, and pastor's wife. She
holds a doctorate in business education from Oklahoma
State University, and is currently associated with a
consulting group in Birmingham, Ala. She leads
seminars in communications, leadership, and team
building.

From Conflict Management by Shirley Schooley.
Copyright (c) 1994 by New Hope, Birmingham, Ala. Used
by permission.

[Ideal08]

Feeling overwhelmed and stressed from dealing with delays, disease, debt, divorce, death and disappointments can leave you feeling weak and defeated.

It's time to take some courage vitamins to heal and strengthen your faith and well-being. Use every ounce of your courage, faith and gratitude to keep growing and showing up for life. Form a new strategy for winning in your mind. Be creative. Give yourself a pep talk. Take a deep breath and get back in the game of life.

"We all live in suspense from day to day; In other words, you are the hero of your own story."
--- Mary McCarthy

"The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses. It is won behind the scenes, in the gym, and out there on the road, long
before I dance under those lights."
--- Muhammad Ali

"Don't wish me happiness
I don't expect to be happy all the time...
It's gotten beyond that somehow.
Wish me courage and strength and a sense of humor.
I will need them all."--- Anne Morrow Lindbergh

"Without courage you cannot practice any of the other virtues."--- Maya
Angelou

"Each of us should do something every day
that we do not want to do
but we know we should do,
to strengthen our backbone
and put iron in our soul. "
--- Henry Hitt Crane

"So don't get tired of doing what is good. Don't get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time." Galations 6:8-10

"I'm not afraid of storms for I'm learning how to sail my ship."--- Louisa May Alcott

"Letting go is not giving up; it is going up."
--- 'The Secret of Letting Go' --- Guy Finley

"Be of good courage, and He will strengthen your heart." Psalm 31:24

Your faith and actions will be rewarded.

Just don't give up five minutes before your miracle.

From Jewel Diamond Taylor
http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm
Motivational Speaker and Best Selling Author of
Success Gems
Sisterfriends
You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed

[AKA2D '91]

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[korkscru]

II Corinthians 10:3-5

"For though we walk in the flesh we do not war after the flesh; (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into existence every thought to the obedience of Christ;".

I believe that God gives understanding (about anything if we ask). It wasn't until about a year ago that He gave me clear understanding of this particular scripture---and I'm STILL learning.

THANK YOU JESUS!!!

[Ideal08]

When you have a security leak in your soul, fear and worry are like terrorists that can destroy your life. Tighten up your security by putting on your shield of faith. Use the word of God as your sword to cut through the depression and anxiety.

When you have no boundaries or borders anybody and anything can get in your spirit. Don't allow the enemy to use crazymakers, negative thinkers, dream stompers and playahaters to knock you down to ground zero.

No matter how many times you fall or fail, never give up. Learn from each experience. You can build inner strength, faith and conviction to keep pressin' on in spite of it all. Don't allow fear, procrastination or worry to block your blessings. Use every ounce of your courage, faith and gratitude to keep growing and showing up for life. Form a new strategy for winning in your mind. Give yourself a pep talk. Take a deep breath and get
back in the game of life.

Listen to some motivating and uplifting music like McClurkin's song to remind you that when you fall down, you can get back up again.

Hang in there and know that your change is coming.

Stay in the Light,
Motivational Speaker and Best Selling Author
Jewel Diamond Taylor

[Ideal08]

If anyone has that list of scriptures that says stuff like, "When your faith is tested, call ..." can you post it here, please! Thanks!

In the meantime, I'll do a SEARCH, SEARCH, SEARCH!

[korkscru]

In the Bible, the book of ECCESIASTES was written by one of David's sons (it's unknown if this is Solomon, but most contribute this book to Solomon). In this book he (the writer) talks about his sorrows and disappointments of life and now tries to discover the true value and meaning of life through God.

I hope that this helps.

[Ideal08]

Relationships Tips from the Self-esteem Doctor's Relationship Clinics

Try to be honest without being vicious.
Be mutual without invading the other's privacy.
Be trusting without being blind.
Admire and adore without idolizing.
Be a giver without controlling.
Love without possessing.
Nurture your own soul so you can attract your soul mate.
If you trust too soon, you are probably afraid of being alone.
If you trust too superficially, you may be easily betrayed.
If you trust too late, you may never know about love and intimacy.
Don't let your reality check bounce. Relationships can bring joy and pain.
You will both learn a lot about each other and your own emotional stuff that needs healing.
Learn to work through your issues and remember the attraction and qualities that brought you together in the first place.
That child, parent, coworker, boss, friend, lover or spouse in your life is not perfect and neither are you.
People are both human and divine. Disappointments are to be expected and accepted.
Don't jump ship at the first sign of trouble.
You'll end up all alone in this world, if you never learn forgiveness, communication, trust, compromise, service, a sense of humor and self-esteem.

By "The Inner-Tainer," Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor
Speaker and Best Selling author will be speaking

[Ideal08]

Stay focused today on your priorities. I know there may be distractions and drama in your life trying to pull you away from peace. It takes courage to face each day. You can make it through. You were not born with the spirit of fear. You have the ability, power and choice to grow through your problems. You never conquer them. You only learn to conquer yourself.
Persevere. Be optimistic. Think big but take small steps. Help others and show acts of kindness. Believe in yourself. Have faith that God loves you, guides you, provides for you and protects you. The past just came and went. So let go of the worry, hurry and fear. Life is good. God is good. Live, listen, learn, laugh, love and live with integrity, balance, compassion, purpose and great hope.

Jewel Diamond Taylor
Speaker and Best Selling Author
http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm

[Ideal08]

Q - I have been asking myself this question all week.
What will it take for me to leave this job and seek my
own greatness? At what point did you realize that you
had to get out and do something. I know if I get out
and just do it. I know that the rewards are endless,
however, something is keeping me from taking that
chance. How did you go about this change?

A - I have been on this journey for over 16 years. It wasn't easy and you know what, it still isn't easy. That "something" that you think is keeping you back is either fear, procrastination or cautionary good sense. With every decision comes risk and rewards. I worked countless part-time and temp jobs. I've been married, so my income has always been supplemented. I made
the decision to downgrade my lifestyle. So I don't have the fancy cars, fancy home and many of the materialistic things that a lot of people in my industry have accumulated. I enjoy my freedom and my ability to work at my own pace. I have a J-O-Y, not just a
J-O-B. I do not have the benefits that come from working a secure job. This is my decision. I never know from month to month what my income will be. But I believe through the grace of God and my commitment, all of my needs have been met. I strive daily to be a good steward over my income, home, time, anointing and my gifts. To avoid heavy debt, I try to simplify and
streamline my lifestyle. Yet I feel my life is very rich. The joy and
reward is in the work itself and the wonderful people I meet. I call this my emotional compensation. Now don't get me wrong, my income far exceeds what I earned working at my previous job in Human Resources. However, as an "entreprenegro," I must be disciplined to spend wisely and reinvest back into my business. Being self-employed is like a marriage. Sometimes marriage gets
difficult, lonely and uncertain and I want to leave. Sometimes being self-employed is difficult, lonely and uncertain and I want to leave. Every day I have to recommit to my partnership with God. God is the head of my life and my business. My trust is in the Lord and in my abilities to serve with professionalism, patience, passion and perseverance. I've learned a lot of expensive and painful lessons because in my earlier years I had no mentors or role models to study. I commend you for reaching out and asking the questions before you take your leap. Continue seeking, studying and observing others. One day you will know when it's your time. It doesn't mean you won't have your share of disappointments and a learning curve too. But you will feel such a compelling desire to cross that bridge and never
look back. When you have the time, read the poem below that was given to me by a coworker at my farewell party when I said good bye to my full time job to pursue my professional speaking career in 1985.

There have been just as many low points as there have been high points. I would suggest that you take your time and work on your dream part time. If you have a financial nest egg and something and someone to fall back on, then go for it!

If not, dream big while taking small steps to reach your goal. No day is wasted. One day you'll wake up and realize you're already there. Success is in the doing. Success is in the dreaming. Success is in moving forward, step by step, day by day, prayer by prayer, lesson by lesson.

I hope this helps. Stay in the Light,
Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and Best Selling Author, The Self-esteem Dr.
http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm

[Ideal08]

on posting these. But I read thru them today, and they were all on point, at least for me. I hope they uplifted some of you!!

[Sugar_N_Spice]

Originally posted by Ideal08
on posting these. But I read thru them today, and they were all on point, at least for me. I hope they uplifted some of you!!

Please continue posting these...I value the words of encouragement in yet another trying time in my life...

[Ideal08]

Just today, I was wondering why I hadn't been receiving any of these MBM emails. I realized that it was because I had changed my email address!! But by the time I'd gotten to work, I'd forgotten about it. Thanks for reminding me. I just emailed and asked to be added back to the MBM list. I will continue to post the motivational messages as Jewel Diamond Taylor sends them out!!

[Ideal08]

Where are you going next year? Diana Ross sang a profound theme song from the movie Mahogany:

"Do you know where you're going to?
Do you like the things that life's been showing you?
Where are you going to?
Do you know?
Do you get what you're hoping for?
When you look behind you there's no open doors
What are you hoping for?
Do you know?"

Living your life without a plan or goals is like being in a car with no
steering wheel. Clear goals give you direction. Your faith and health are your fuel energy to keep you going. You will need
them because of the obstacles, bad weather, bumps, valleys, mountains to climb, flat tires and unexpected detours on your road to success.

Every January for the past 15 years I have taught a Super Goal Saturday workshop to help people identify and achieve their goals and dreams.

Wherever you are, find support to help you achieve your goals in the new year. Create your 2002 map. Turn your resolutions into results.

Procrastination is a thief. No more excuses!

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Inner-tainer, Motivational Speaker and best selling author
email - jewelmotivates@aol.com
www.JewelDiamondTaylor.com
2002 Super GOAL Saturday Workshop
Saturday, January 12, 2002
Los Angeles

Stay in the Light