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KarenC725 · #1 02-16-2002, 09:29 PM

Well, since all my friends are out right now, I'll vent to GC. My boyfriend and I just broke up. Yep, its over. Yep, I'm completely hysterical. Yep, I'm gonna go to my parents for the week. Yep, I'm pathetic.

The one friend I talked to (she's in FL, I'm in MI) said that we were both being stupid and to give it a week but I guess I'm too involved in it to think that way.

So, just needed to get that out. Hope everyone else is having a good night...

Hootie · #2 02-16-2002, 09:44 PM

Awe Girl! We can all sympathize!
I'm so sorry this had to happen on a Friday night. It's the pits breaking up! How long were you together and what was the breakup over? You don't have to say, but I'm sure there is someone on here who could relate.
Take care and keep yourself busy and as happy as you can!
You deserve the best!

Hootie

KarenC725 · #3 02-16-2002, 10:54 PM

Let's see... We were together about 2 1/2 years. He's without a doubt my best friend. He's been cranky and sulky all week about school and work stuff too. Technically, I suggested it but I was angry and was like "if you want to break up with me, just do it, don't shut me out". this was on voicemail (not the best, I know) and when he called back he was like yeah, that sounds like a good idea.

In all honesty, it was a matter of both ouf us being pissy and cranky. He wasn't even thinking of it until I mentioned it and hadn't exhibited any of these tendencies until now.

Sidebar: we broke up this time last year too. I think its in the air. That lasted for a whopping two days.

Thanks for listening.

James · #4 02-16-2002, 11:12 PM

Take your home phone off the hook or otherwise be unavailable to calls and SLEEP on it .. . . the longer the better. And then get up and go run or train or something . . . it will clear your brain.

Good luck, one way or another.

KarenC725 · #5 02-16-2002, 11:22 PM

It's so weird. Part of me, actually most of me, is convinced that its a matter of a little "away time". Especially due to the circumstances. Trust me, there was no way anyone could see this coming.

Part of me wanting to go to my parents is the whole being unavailable thing. If I'm not two minutes away, it may make someone think.

James · #6 02-17-2002, 12:00 AM

A cool thing to do as a therapeutic tool, would be to write a letter to your ex as honest as possible. Never send it ofcourse, buts its supposed to be catharictic.

ZTAngel · #7 02-17-2002, 01:02 AM

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Originally posted by James
A cool thing to do as a therapeutic tool, would be to write a letter to your ex as honest as possible. Never send it ofcourse, buts its supposed to be catharictic.

Yes! Those work so well. It helps you to get all your feelings out. It feels so much better to get all the anger and emotion out on paper. Just remember....DON'T send the letter...that could make things worse.

KarenC725 · #8 02-17-2002, 05:37 PM

I just need to see this in writing. I am not ok. I'm not feeling fine, I am sitting here crying and I've accepted that. I have decided that I'm not going to stay at my parents because the spare room sucks and the bed is really uncomfortable.

So any more advice?

James · #9 02-17-2002, 05:48 PM

Two things:

Either walllow in it on purpose. I mean make it dramatic talk to yourself about it really get yourself worked up . . in other words let it out. But just make sure the music is on and the phone is off.

Or, or after, go do some stuff, whether its the mall or something else you might like to do, get your nails done, walk somethin . . but don't stay cooped up trying control yourself, it just makes it worse.

Peaches-n-Cream · #10 02-17-2002, 06:09 PM

I agree with James, do something. Take a bubble bath, go see a movie, go for a walk, workout, eat some ice cream, talk to your girlfriends, go shopping, clean out your closets. In other words, keep yourself busy.
I'm really sorry that you are going through this. I hope that you feel better soon.

KarenC725 · #11 02-18-2002, 09:07 AM

Day 2

Well, I haven't broken down yet today. Granted its only 8:05 am but I'm taking baby steps. I took the pictures at work down and my desk is very bare. One of my friends reminded me of a few things I had forgotten in all the hysterics. All I can do is wait and see, and seeing as I have the patience of a 2 year old, this could be tough.

Anymore ideas (I'm going to rearrange my closet Wednesday) to help me pass the time?

h2oot · #12 02-18-2002, 12:46 PM

I'm sorry this happened.

What helps me is to 1) get my feelings out at lease once, 2) have a good cry, 3) keep busy, preferrable in something I enjoy, but work will do.

valkyrie · #13 02-18-2002, 02:34 PM

Hey...how are you doing?

I always find that a good run does wonders, if you're into that sort of thing. Otherwise, shopping is good. Or reading a good book, maybe, or cranking up the music and dancing around like a madwoman, or going out with friends...

KarenC725 · #14 02-18-2002, 02:40 PM

I think I'm single handedly supporting J.Crew right now! At least I'll have the pleasant surprise of packages at my door this week.

I realized that I forgot to take one picture down. Its of his toolbox (don't ask LONG story) but its acutally kind of funny to look at. After reading some emails from friends, I've felt a little bit better.

I still wish that *if* its true that this is a matter of time and stubborness, it would get over quickly. I want to put my damn necklace back on.

What was funny is that last sunday we were discussing that "40 Days/40 Nights" movie and he was like "I couldn't go 40 days without hugging or kissing you. That would be hell". Yeah.

h2oot · #15 02-18-2002, 03:19 PM

My cousin's close friend threw all the sheets out and got a new comforter when she broke up. He was cheating and she wanted a "fresh" start at least with the sheets.