The Age Thing

DeltaBetaBaby · #1 02-16-2002, 04:07 AM

I know this has been discussed before, but I would like some fresh opinions. I am a junior. Does that make a freshman off-limits to me? He is only a year younger chronologically.

DGPhoney · #2 02-16-2002, 05:18 AM

I don't think the whole age thing or Class Level is a big deal. I mean college is about differances and all that hoopla, I mean who's to say that because someone is a juior therefore they can't date a freshman, . If you hit it off and have fun, and it's about the personality and all the other things, I say why not, go for it

Have fun, lifes to short to create so many boundries and limits
DGP~Honey~

aggieAXO · #3 02-16-2002, 05:23 AM

Considering my best friend who is 29 is dating a 22 year old and I dated his 23 year old roommate and before that went out with a 22 year old-who cares about a couple of years difference. Actually one of the only requirements is they have to be of legal age to buy liquor.

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Originally posted by DeltaBetaBaby
I know this has been discussed before, but I would like some fresh opinions. I am a junior. Does that make a freshman off-limits to me? He is only a year younger chronologically.

aephi alum · #4 02-16-2002, 08:40 AM

Age doesn't matter. When I was a junior I dated a grad student, and I was friends with a couple where he was a senior and she was a freshman. If you like each other, go for it.

The only potential problems are if one party is under the age of consent (and few college students are), or if one party is 21+ and the other isn't, and the one who's 21+ wants to go out drinking and the other can't come along.

bucutie02 · #5 02-16-2002, 11:45 AM

I have the same problem. Actually if the guy was a couple of years older than me, like 2-3 i wouldnt have a problem, at all!

There is this guy that i really really like. My parents love him and his parents love me. Not to mention our little brothers are best friends. Anyone, a long time ago, like im talking years ago, he asked me out. We were both in San Antonio for a soccer tournament. He wanted to take me out to the riverwalk

I was so super excited, but then the team got eliminated and his family decided to head back to Houston the same night

Fast forward about 2 years, and his brother and my brother had a birthday party (they are best friends and share the same birthday!

) Well then his mom and my mom start talking about how we should get married, not now, but in the future, when we havent even gone on a date!

Anyway, i really like him, im not 100% sure he likes me, but its always akward when we around each other, and i think he might feel the same way i do

He is a sophomore, im a junior- but i should be a senior! I transferred and lost some credit because it didnt fit into my school's core. Thing is we also go to the same school, even though i NEVER see him around.

His bday is August 23, a week later, August 30, its my bday. I was born in 1980 and he was born in 1982. So, for like a week, we are only a year apart and then i turn a year older, making it 2 years apart. Is this really a big deal?? I always think its not, but why does it bother me so much than i am older?

TriSigmaTX · #6 02-16-2002, 11:52 AM

I think age only matters to some if you're in high school. It's college! My TKE is only 24, I'm 27, but pretty much 4 years older. He's so mature it doesn't make a difference. I was in grad school and he was an undergrad when we met and started dating. Didn't matter at all.

twinstars · #7 02-16-2002, 12:14 PM

I think it's a maturity issue. The problem with freshmen is that they've only been out of their parents' house for like 6 months, whereas you've probably been fairly "on your own" for years now. Freshmen are still adjusting and getting dumb stuff out of their system. If you feel like this guy is mature enough, then go for it.

I think a lot of times, the freshmen-junior thing (regardless of whether the girl or the guy is the older person) is a little sketchy, if only because almost all the time the older person has such an upper hand. But that's not a problem for you, I guess, since you're the older person. Just think back to how you were as a freshman, how there was a mystique about the older guys... well you get the picture.

DeltAlum · #8 02-16-2002, 01:18 PM

When I was in high school, it was a big deal -- although I dated a senior girl when I was a junior. If my son's high school experience is any indicator, that stigma has pretty much gone away. He dated senior girls when he was a freshman, etc.

As someone above pointed out, it's a matter of maturity. And the older you get, the less of an issue it seems to become.

James · #9 02-16-2002, 03:27 PM

You also date who you meet. Highschool and college are unnatural environments where the poulation is artifically grouped around a certain age. Most people you meet will be within a few years of you. And most of your peers will be dating others that are within a few years of them. It creates a kind of norm.

I have noticed a larger disparity in dating ages in Big City schools as well is in populations that don't attend college. And in those circles no one really blinks an eye. So it depends.

Optimist Prime · #10 02-16-2002, 03:34 PM

lol...when i looked at the topic, i thought it said the ape thing. Date whoever want to.

volgirl2376 · #11 02-16-2002, 05:42 PM

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Originally posted by twinstars
I think it's a maturity issue. The problem with freshmen is that they've only been out of their parents' house for like 6 months, whereas you've probably been fairly "on your own" for years now. Freshmen are still adjusting and getting dumb stuff out of their system. If you feel like this guy is mature enough, then go for it.

I think a lot of times, the freshmen-junior thing (regardless of whether the girl or the guy is the older person) is a little sketchy, if only because almost all the time the older person has such an upper hand. But that's not a problem for you, I guess, since you're the older person. Just think back to how you were as a freshman, how there was a mystique about the older guys... well you get the picture.

You took the words right out of my mouth. I lived through this (barely) - and because the maturity level was so different - he was a sophmore in college and I had already graduated and working in a successful company - i have vowed never to date anyone younger again. I was always stuck with paying for everything, getting nothing in return, and having to deal with his stupid stuff like his MOM calling my house on the weekends to nag him....blah! never again!!!

James · #12 02-16-2002, 05:53 PM

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Originally posted by volgirl2376

You took the words right out of my mouth. I lived through this (barely) - and because the maturity level was so different - he was a sophmore in college and I had already graduated and working in a successful company - i have vowed never to date anyone younger again. I was always stuck with paying for everything, getting nothing in return, and having to deal with his stupid stuff like his MOM calling my house on the weekends to nag him....blah! never again!!!

Actually that seems the normal state of affairs of men dating women . . . Usually the man griping . . .

Sisterplum · #13 02-16-2002, 08:36 PM

Age isn't a big deal in university I find! I met my husband during my first year of university...we've been together 4 years now (married only 4 months though!). I'm 23 and he's 26! There were no probs when we met (cause I was 19 and thus old enough to drink!!!)

I think age is only really a major deal in high school and lower!

aggieAXO · #14 02-17-2002, 04:20 PM

I refuse to date younger men now also-though I have in the past. They must be out of school now and on their own (ie not living with parents). They also have to have a job, I am tired of paying for everything. The 23 year old medical student was living at home with parents and he had to answer to mommy-what a turn off!!!!

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Originally posted by volgirl2376

You took the words right out of my mouth. I lived through this (barely) - and because the maturity level was so different - he was a sophmore in college and I had already graduated and working in a successful company - i have vowed never to date anyone younger again. I was always stuck with paying for everything, getting nothing in return, and having to deal with his stupid stuff like his MOM calling my house on the weekends to nag him....blah! never again!!!

Peaches-n-Cream · #15 02-17-2002, 06:24 PM

I dated a guy seven years younger and another seventeen years older. Each had his flaws and strengths. I think that dating a freshman when you are a junior is not a bad thing. The problem is when one of you is of drinking age and the other isn't. When I was a senior, a freshman guy wanted to date me. He said, "My parents will be so proud if I bag a senior."