Sorors have you been on College Club

1913CrimsonQT · #1 02-06-2002, 06:32 PM

Sorors, do any of you have accounts on collegeclub? The reason I'm asking is because I was playing around and decided to join a few of the delta clubs. Some of these clubs are comprised of interested young ladies as well as Deltas. However, to my knowledge it is in no means intended to be a pre-Delta club. I was very surprised to see bickering going back and forth between the interesested young ladies and some of our Sorors.

One young lady went on to say:

This is ridiculous the way that you Deltas are talking and getting smart with these ladies that are considering becoming a part of this organization. The way you are talking to them makes them not even want to consider that sorority. They joined so that they get the information that they need and I think they deserve to know. DST never know they could be passing up some good qualities or whatever ya'll are looking for. You should not stoop to their level if you are Deltas act like Deltas. You suppose to be respectful to these ladies. You can answer their questions with respect and maybe they will thank you with respect. Interestees should not feel like they are kissing ass, because if they feel that way they will snap regardless of who you are. To all the Deltas, does the title DST mean anything to you if it does act like it, and so far you haven't been acting like it. I don't think the =founders would've behaved in this manner. This is total disrespect to all the other Deltas that live up to their title and to the ones that are wanting to become one. Why would someone want to join a sorority that doesn't want to help others. I know not all Deltas are like that ACTIVE OR INACTIVE

Now I don't know what I may have gotten myself into, but I decided to reply (however I will not go back and forth with anyone). Here is what I had to say (and hopefully some people will agree with me):

I'm more of a silent participator in this club, but I just want to make it perfectly clear that if any interested young lady would like information, then SHE should stop by her local bookstore and purchase a copy of In Search of Sisterhood by Paula Giddings. It has everything in there that someone who is not a Delta needs to know. So in regards to your argument, that interested young ladies join this club for information...THEY SHOULD READ THE BOOK. As I stated, everything that needs to be known about the sorority by non-Deltas can be located there.

I know that everyone wants to know about secret things before attempting to join an organization, but in the case of DST...that will just not happen. If interested young ladies are extended the invitation to join the illustrious organization, then you all will see why it is so important that some things remain confidential.

As far as being respectful...everyone should treat others as they wish to be treated. But also (not in defense of any of my Sorors), some questions that I see interested young ladies ask are just outrageous and disrespectful.

And along the lines of respect, I don't see where you were respectful at all. There are certain ways to say things, and in my opinion, you did not use= a good job of using tact.

CrimsonTide4 · #2 02-06-2002, 09:45 PM

This thread is for SORORS of DELTA SIGMA THETA SORORITY, Inc.

Imperial11 · #3 02-06-2002, 10:14 PM

I'm a member of a few of the Delta listserves and frankly, I've stopped checking the messages from those clubs because of the rudeness and hostility. The shameful behavior that I've seen hasn't come from sorors, but from girls (or women

) who claim to be soooo interested in Delta Sigma Theta, yet don't want to do any research outside of little chat circle things

. Things got so out of hand on there one time, that I sent an e-mail out to everyone in one club to remind sorors that we owe answers to NO ONE!!! I just wanted them to realize that they didn't have to continue to be disrespected for the sake of trying to be nice and helpful.

On top of all the bickering, the redundant questions that pass through those clubs is ridiculous. I mean, stuff like "I know what the GPA requirement is, but I am only a hop, skip and a jump away from having it, so should I still apply?" and "What do I do if the chapter at my school is suspended?" or "How do I approach a Delta to tell her that I'm interested?" Some girl even asked "How do I purchase a copy of In Search of Sisterhood without being noticed?" I just shook my head and said, WTF? Like I said, I got so tired of that shiznik that I had to let anything Delta related on college club go. I don't think that someone who asks a question that I deem stupid should be disrespected or get their head bitten off, so I just choose not to respond. I wish other sorors would jump on the bandwagon too and not follow up the ignorance and the nonsense.

1913CrimsonQT · #4 02-06-2002, 11:01 PM

That young lady replied to me personally on cc: (this is one of the four e-mails that she sent me)

Oh yeah, just because you are a Delta now that doesn't mean that you didn't try asking questions before you became a Delta. You were probably asking the same questions the interestees are asking, only you asked in person. The shoe doesn't fit everyone, there are some ladies that are in DST and it just doesn't fit them probably you. By the way what was there to read. I've read the same thing you wrote by other Deltas to the other interestees. If interestees ask a question then yal just need to go ahead and answer it! You can say that I'm disrespectful, but I'm here to tell you a sorority doesn't make nobody special. You getin you just get in if you don't you don't. Nobody's going to lose sleep over it.

I just couldn't help but to follow up:

I would really appreciate it if you would refrain from e-mailing me from now on. I've never put anyone on my blocked list, and I really don't want to start. But if I see need, then I will do what I have to do.

The reason I stated the previous is because you have just came at me in a very rude manner. You talk about respect, yet you give none.

Since you want to know so much...before I even went to a Delta Rush I completed reading In Search of Sisterhood. Being that you do not know me, how would you know if I asked anything in person?

Now, I don't know why you are going off on your little tangent, but just know that it ends here.

DST_philoso4 · #5 02-07-2002, 01:31 AM

hey soror,

I totally agree that some of the interests are out of control on those boards. I decided to not even respond to them, but if I happen to find out at which chapter she is interested, I will make all attempts to inform that chapter of her actions.

Also, this has nothing to do with the topic, but I tried to click on your site, and I can't get past the intro/index page. Am I doing something wrong? Please let me know, yours in Delta.....

-Andrea
4-T-01

1913CrimsonQT · #6 02-07-2002, 09:24 AM

I'm in the process of redesigning it. However, everything is still there, a link just isn't provided. You can access it here: http://www.lsu.edu/student_organizat...ta/index3.html

Quote:

Originally posted by DST_philoso4
Am I doing something wrong? Please let me know, yours in Delta.....

-Andrea
4-T-01

snuggles12 · #7 02-07-2002, 02:07 PM

I have been on the Delta club mailing list of the collegeclub website and it's basically a free for all. There seems to be no rules and no purpose. When there are no rules and no moderators, there is anarchy.

#7 Snuggles
RVA (services Burlington County of South Jersey)
12/93

DST_philoso4 · #8 02-07-2002, 07:18 PM

Great page soror

come check us out. Mighty TAU Chapter

c&c1913 · #9 02-08-2002, 09:38 PM

I got out of all the clubs I was in because the topics became redundant and petty.

I can't stand to see grown people acting so childish.

4everDST · #10 02-09-2002, 06:00 PM

I belong to a few of those "Sorors & Others" clubs on CC. I am VERY guilty of reaking havoc. However, I have seen the error of my ways, and have pretty much stopped responding. That is...unless the post makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up!

I am ESOTERIC7 on CC. For the most part I have met some very nice young ladies, some who have become personal friends, some who have gone on to become Sorors. I do agree, CC is a virtual free for all. Lately, there has been one young lady "Standard Airbag" who has been outta control. I responded to her a few times, but she got so outlandish, that I just started ignoring her.

1Babygirl2000 · #11 02-13-2002, 07:13 PM

I'm also on CC (babyeskimo) I, like sone of you got out of those clubs because it turned from an information forum for those sisterfriends seeking relevant information to a bunch of grown people arguing over things that were never going to be resolved. I just basically got sick and tired of reading the same posts over and over again.