Getting over breakups

gammazetagrl · #1 05-22-2001, 06:05 PM

Hi, you guys probably remember me from the Dating Greek Men forum but I just decided to put a new post since I just broke up with my Greek boyfriend of 6 months. I talked about it long enough in the Dating Greek Men forum (u guys can check it out if youre interested to know my story) but to those who were able to move on after a relationship ended, how did you do it? i have no previous experience as he was my first boyfriend and first love. I just miss him although we promised to be friends. I just feel so alone right now.

DGPhoney · #2 05-22-2001, 06:33 PM

hi gammazetagrl,
getting over your first boyfriend whether he's greek or not is truly a tugg on the heart. The thing thats always worked for me was to just take your time, and try not to dwell. Easier said then done, but it helps, it's a time where u can hang more with your girl friends, chill and just relax. Another thing I personally did, was just go and have FUN, whether I was just going to the club with the gals. Well miss gammazetagrl, I wish you luck and hope*
DGPhoney

James · #3 05-22-2001, 07:39 PM

gammazetagrl,

You are way to nice

. Go build a bond fire with his stuff on in front of his Chapter House, boil his bunny, make some statement that makes you feel better!

But seriously, go out with the girls, or boys, hook up with someone. That always feels good.

Did you ever hear the statement: Fake it till you make it? Try thinking of the fun things people do while single, do them and pretend you are having fun doing them.

I'm all about moving on

coopchick · #4 05-29-2001, 10:57 AM

Why not get yourself a Kate Spade Sam bag (black) and a new cover for your Nokia cell phone? That ought to perk you up at least a little!

DopeZeta · #5 05-29-2001, 06:05 PM

At least it was 6 monthZ and not 6 yearZ. Anyway, I think you should just go out with friendz and just spend more time doing something that you have neglected for a while.
But, really, 6 monthz..It shouldn't be this bad.

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gammazetagrl · #6 06-01-2001, 09:37 PM

thanks for all your replies..im feeling all the greek love n support from y'all!...i am holding up pretty well, although i am not expecting us to get back together--not anytime real soon anyway. that's one thing i have learned...not to expect too much because i would just end up being too hurt.

dchi_pride--about the song thing. it did seem for awhile (up to now actually)that every love song I hear was written especially for me...I was listening to the Dream CD and there's that song Miss You..ugh...really reflected how I feel. But thanks for sharing your experience, it made me feel like I am not alone and since you said that guys too also have these kinds of thoughts, it made me think about what could have been going through his mind, before and after that we're over. I wish you luck too though...wait, are you and Jamie friends still though,like do u guys still keep in touch?

coopchick-LoL. Actually I couldn't get a cover for my cellphone coz it's a Motorola. It's a nice phone but i couldn't change the face plate of it (although it would be nice to have a face plate matching every outfit wouldn't it?)--the only reason I got it was coz my mom handed it to me since she didn't like the plan. But anyway, I have been online shopping around (real good therapy for a girl)and I did buy a Kate Spade Sam bag but I bought a gray one, not black . =) that's okay, im working this summer so that should pay it off!

and yes, it is time to hit the dating scene again. dchi_pride, i know for awhile i will also be like you, kinda comparing every guy i meet to jeff, and i think it will take awhile before i get over that and realize that every guy is different and special in his own right...but im willing to do it, and i guess no matter what, he will always be in my heart.

KillarneyRose · #7 06-01-2001, 09:59 PM

Hi Gammazetagrl

I don't know if this helps or not, but remember that there is not one person out there to whom this hasn't happened. I think a good assignment would be to make sure you spend your summer having a great time and getting to know as many new people as you can (although I think you're on the right track with the Kate Spade thing - I was feeling kind of "blah" today because my husband left today for three weeks and I wandered aimlessly into Nordstrom where I saw the sweetest li'l Kate makeup bag, and then a datebook that matched....and now I'm not feeling QUITE so rotten

)

Take care sweetie

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#8 06-01-2001, 10:07 PM

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Originally posted by KillarneyRose:
Hi Gammazetagrl I don't know if this helps or not, but remember that there is not one person out there to whom this hasn't happened. I think a good assignment would be to make sure you spend your summer having a great time and getting to know as many new people as you can (although I think you're on the right track with the Kate Spade thing - I was feeling kind of "blah" today because my husband left today for three weeks and I wandered aimlessly into Nordstrom where I saw the sweetest li'l Kate makeup bag, and then a datebook that matched....and now I'm not feeling QUITE so rotten )

Take care sweetie

This is completely O/T, but Tracy--I do the same thing when my BF goes on patrol. After I leave the pier I usually head straight to the mall and get little somethings. Though you're not completely recovered, sometimes it feels good just to feel good, even if it's only temporary. Hang in there!

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