To preface this, I received some comments when I posted before that I shouldn't have chi o in my username unless I am a member. I accepted my bid so I'm assuming it's ok now... please correct me if I'm wrong
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I was so excited that Chi Omega was colonizing at my school. The alumni in charge of recruitment were a lot like me, very "sorority girl" and girly. I made great connections with them and I knew Chi O would be a great fit for me.
I was completely set on pledging and so incredibly excited until the colony version of pref night, when I actually met and talked to other PNMs. Most of the girls were extremely odd. There were a few that I connected with, but if I had a dollar for every girl who dressed in ripped jeans (dress code was DRESSY), said "I never wear makeup," or "I don't like socializing," I'd have about $50. I won't go into the attractiveness of everyone... because I'd get a lot of hate and I think you get the point.
I know all of that sounds incredibly superficial, but I will be the first to admit that I want really fun and friendly sisters who care about their appearance and are willing to embrace the traditions that come with being in a sorority. A lot of these girls didn't seem to care a whole lot, but many said they would accept their bid if they got it. The part I really didn't like is how the alumni made it sound like everyone was going to get a bid... I agree that "Democratic rather than exclusive" is important, but it seems a little impersonal to let anyone that has a couple grand to drop join.
I know there will be at least a few girls who I will really identify with, but it's unsettling that I was SO onboard with the whole process until pref night. A lot of girls say that bid day was the best day of their lives, and all I'm feeling is lukewarm. I accepted my bid because I want to keep an open mind and I do really want to make this work.
I've been thinking about this all day- I've never really had friends who didn't care about superficial things and money... and it scares me to get away from that, even though deep down I'd rather have REAL friends/sisters who don't care what you do/who you're friends are/what you're wearing.
Whew that was long! If anyone has a similar experience or any advice to share it would be greatly appreciated. This was pretty much a confused venting sesh... and I'm genuinely sorry if I am offending anyone here, it's just my honest feelings.
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