Facebook and pre-rush

candygirl200413 · #1 08-15-2013, 07:10 PM

Hello!:
So in about a month I have formal rush at my new school and when I joined my facebook class group for my new school a girl added me. I didn't realized until later that she was also in a sorority. I know that you should basically have only clean photos (which I do), but is there anything else I should do?

also since the girl can see my facebook is it okay if I put her on private? or should I leave it open?

Thanks so much!

WCsweet<3 · #2 08-15-2013, 07:21 PM

From another thread:

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Originally Posted by Griffins&Quills

First, make sure your social media is private and cleaned up, i.e. no bad pictures, no cursing, nothing offensive, etc. You would never believe how easy it is for chapters to get information from and make decisions based on something they saw on facebook. For example, a girl at my school in the new class fb group which is public posted that she was "420 friendly" and drinks and I'm sure that every chapter knows about it. NOT advisable to post things like that.

Also, be careful of what you're saying. I'm not sure it's a good idea to tweet every day about recruitment. In my opinion that comes off as a little desperate/crazy (sorry). Also I don't think it's a good idea to live-post during recruitment, just check your social media, but try not to post anything. That's what I think is best. And please please please don't post your opinions on twitter or facebook or anywhere, i.e. I loved ABC but thought DEF was the worst thing in the world, I ONLY want to be an ABC, etc. And please don't use social media to whine, i.e. "I can't believe LMN cut me, they must be crazy and have no idea what they're missing". There are plenty of times that a girl's recruitment is tanked by what she says online, and there has been a trend of girls posting what sororities they are willing to accept bids from. NO NO NO. It's not sorority shopping. If you really feel that you must post, I would say keep it general like "loving recruitment, can't wait to see how this week ends up"

I would put her on private. It is easy to interpret things differently.

Actives/alums: I find this odd to do, but we seem to continue hearing it. I wouldn't friend PNMs I don't know. FB stalk, sure maybe, but not friend.

DubaiSis · #3 08-15-2013, 08:18 PM

I think it steps over a line too. I wouldn't unfriend her, but from here on out, don't accept a friend request from anyone you don't already know. If it's another incoming freshman, you can friend her/him AFTER rush. But do make the version of your FB page that is available to strangers clean, professional and very flattering of you.

candygirl200413 · #4 08-15-2013, 08:27 PM

thanks so much @WCSweet, I just did another check over my facebook

and @DubaiSis, I totally agree! I'm an incoming soph/transfer and I guess I was pretty excited to start somewhere new and didn't really think, but I haven't added anyone since!

33girl · #5 08-16-2013, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by candygirl200413

Hello!:
So in about a month I have formal rush at my new school and when I joined my facebook class group for my new school a girl added me.

No. No one can friend you without your involvement. She sent you a friend request, which you accepted. DON'T DO THIS ANYMORE UNLESS YOU KNOW THE PERSON IN REAL LIFE, PERIOD. That has nothing to do with sorority rush, but just with SAFETY. You never know who is behind that computer.

SailingFreely · #6 08-16-2013, 08:59 PM

Quick note: it's always good to check on what your public profile looks like. There's a setting on your home feed that should allow you look "view as public" to see what any Facebook users can see on your profile. To be safe, it's good to set your personal photos to private/friends only and make sure your cover photos are appropriate (same goes for when you're job hunting... not just recruitment!)

Griffins&Quills · #7 08-16-2013, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Actives/alums: I find this odd to do, but we seem to continue hearing it. I wouldn't friend PNMs I don't know. FB stalk, sure maybe, but not friend.

My campus doesn't allow actives to friends PNMs after the first week of March until the end of formal recruitment. I thought this was the norm.