Hello to all!! I'm new so please be gentle lol.
I'm in a bit of a tough spot and would like multiple opinions from people who are already members of the greek community. I am in my fourth year at my university and am interested in becoming a member of an NPHC sorority (I won't name the specific one, but I have done plenty of research and know it's the one for me). I've known for a while that I wanted to pledge, but I've gone through a lot of trials during my time in school and haven't been in the position to pledge until now. To make a long story short, during my time as a freshman I had a lot of problems. Because of these problems I was academically dismissed (shame I know). Learning from this experience, I attended another school for two semesters and then was re-admitted back into my university. I've worked my butt off ever since and went from a ridiculously disappointing 1.4 GPA to a 2.7 in 5 semesters. Unfortunately, I'm nearing the end of my time at school. It will take me five years to graduate though, so I will still be here for one more year.
Even though I want to pledge, I am really worried that my current situation either won't allow it or isn't worth it. Let's not sugar coat anything here, I know it is an incredibly demanding process. I was with my boyfriend before, through, and after his process for becoming a member of Kappa Alpha Psi, Fraternity Inc. and I'm sure I don't even know half of all the "hell" he described. I live about 30 minutes away from campus with my parents and I plan to have an internship next semester. I've been going back and forth trying to figure out the "is it worth it" of risking everything I've worked so hard for to become a member of an undergrad chapter and then graduate right after. Naturally, when becoming an interest there is no guarantee when a line is going through, so I don't know how long I would be dealing with the process. I know it would be especially hard for me when I don't live close the the campus like most others and I would have a job that I have to keep. At the end of the day, I know the decision is my own to make, but it's nice to hear what you all think as well
I want to have the "experience" with having line sisters and a probate and all that too, but I would still do grad chapter as well just because I like what the particular sorority I'm interested in stands for. I don't want to regret never trying, but I don't want to ruin what I have already built up by going through a process that I'm not sure I can handle. I've heard GPAs go down and other horror stories, but I've also heard so many people say it's worth it as well. I want to still receive just as much respect if I do grad chapter as I would if I did undergrad, but I know there is (foolishly, no offense) a constant divide.
Uggghhh I'm sorry for being so wordy and slightly indecisive, and thanks to all that have sat through and read my entire message. I know I've explained my situation, but at the end of the day, it all goes back to the title of the thread. What is unique about each one? Those who pledge grad chapter, do you wish you did undergrad? And those who did undergrad, do you think you would be just as satisfied if you had waited?
Thanks in advance
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