difficulties with Panhel

[worried]

Hi ladies!

Firstly I feel like I need to give some background information... So I am currently a member of a sorority on a campus with very small greek life. My chapter is one of the larger and more successful chapters on our campus. This year there are more girls going through recruitment than ever and I am disaffiliated because I am a rho chi. However, I and a few members of my chapter (and other rho chis) are frustrated and worried about how recruitment will go. The President and Recruitment Chair of our Panhel exec board are from one of the lower performing (but still awesome) sororities (we'll call it UM) have been acting super inappropriately. The background of UM is that they have been struggling with numbers for years and their charter is in risk of being pulled.

Alright. So basically everything started during our rho chi training meeting where the President and Recruitment chair of Panhel were being condescending and rude to the rho chis, especially those girls from my sorority. Then during our Greek info session, they literally kept making these snarky comments about our sorority that honestly could make a girl not want to give us a second glance. This was a point in time where we started growing concerned with the situation. On the day we did house tours, before we gave out the girls their schedules, the president of panhel actually spent time insulting one of the rho chis from my house who was running late AND then was very rude to the PNMs who showed up early. Later that day during house tours, the director of Greek Life (who just got forced into this job this summer because our original director left the school) and the two girls from UM were going around to the different houses. They stopped by one house, didn't bother asking for a tour and were perfectly pleasant. They went to another house and told them they needed to have a tour, but again they were rather pleasant. They came to our house and literally insulted some aspects of our house IN FRONT OF PNMS and were incredibly rude to our vice president by pretending they couldn't hear it. Oh, they also didn't bother going to their own house... All of this seemed to be the last straw for our president who decided to contact our greek life advisor to set up a meeting for this week. So after hearing all of these things through the grape vine, I got really angry, but decided not to let it get to me and to just take the high road and kill them with kindness. However, things changed the other day. I had a night class and couldn't go to a ranking meeting and twice e-mailed the Recruitment chair telling her I couldn't go. No response. I then e-mailed the director of greek life. No response. Since I never got confirmation that anyone read my e-mails, I decided I should just show up quickly beforehand and tell them I had class. I have never been treated so poorly in my entire life. They were so rude and condescending to me that I (a person who abhors physical violence) actually wanted to punch them. They said these pretty nasty things to me and at the end of it, the president in a really snarky tone said, "well you're going to be useless, so you can just go now..." I was so angry. I asked another rho chi who was there if she thought I was being super sensitive and she said no and that she was honestly as angry as I was at the way they treated me. Also, one of my PNMs later that night texted me and said she felt uncomfortable telling them her rankings because they were rude to her and that she was worried they would be acting like this for the rest of recruitment. She was also worried they would change her rankings because apparently when the recruitment chair looked at her list she gave my girl a death stare and rudely dismissed her....

I know this is a super long message, and not only am I not sure I can handle this treatment anymore, but with the way these girls have been handling themselves and their positions, I honestly am worried about the outcomes of recruitment. I know our president is meeting with the greek life advisor, but I was just wondering if any of you lovely people have experienced something like this and had any advice as to how to handle this situation.

Thanks!

(also sorry for the terrible grammar... I am in a rush and just needed to post this)