Club/party Dancing

ZetaLuvBunny · #1 11-28-2001, 08:17 PM

Okay, I LOVE going to parties and clubs, etc, but I am not very confident in my dancing. Sometimes when I dance I feel like I'm doing pretty well, but most of the time I feel awkward and dorky. I know I need to like loosen up and everything, but I just feel like no matter how hard I try, it won't look right. I really don't know that many moves, either. Until recently I didn't even know to move my lower half and not just my arms LOL. I try to watch other people and emulate their moves, but I've not been very creative with thinking up moves of my own. I want to stand out (in a good way) from all the other girls so I can get attention from people other than old bald guys LOL.

For some reason I feel more confident dancing in large groups of other girls (like my Zeta sisters) or just with a guy. I feel really retarded dancing by myself, and I guess that's maybe because I don't have as much encouragement or ideas from other people that way. I think it's easier to dance at parties where I know people and I'm having fun anyway. At clubs there are places to sit down which sucks in a way, because I end up sitting down half of the time just sulking and wanting some (cute) guy to dance with me. GRR! What can I do? Does anyone know a website that has info or pictures about some good dance moves? I really want to be a good dancer!!!

What's weird is a lot of guys I guess like my big butt LOL so I guess that's an...ahem...asset to dancing. I hate my butt, though, and my thighs, and everything. For some reason, though, a couple weeks ago at a party like eight different pretty cute guys

danced with me, and I think I did pretty well, but when I went to a club last night I felt dorky and no one asked me to dance.

I'm totally spazzing here...PLEASE HELP!!!

PKTSU01 · #2 11-28-2001, 08:37 PM

I'll quote a bud of mine when a girl said something very similar to this while we were all in a bar " Woman!, if you got the ass to move, it's a shame not to!" In other words, use your assets to the fullest, no guy can resist a fine booty, not many guys want a girl with no ass, in fact I can't think of a one. As far as the dancing thing goes, I'll let you in on this, 99% of girls look VERY similar when they dance. If a girl or guy is a great dancer you'll know, because they already do, and it shows in the confidence of their moves. It makes sense that you are more comfortable with your sisters, because ya'll probably are doing the same moves! Don't spazz so much about the dancing thing being the reason a guy will be interested. If he is, he already is, before he even got your name, or danced with you. Just concentrate on having a good time, not whether or not ya dance like a pro. If you are having fun, instead of standing around looking unsure and nervous, you'll draw attention, just by being yourself, as cheesy as that may sound, its the truth.

G8Ralphaxi · #3 11-28-2001, 09:34 PM

Take lessons in Latin dancing. The hip and feet movements of merengue and salsa dancing translate very easily to club dancing. Pretty simple to learn, and you look REALLY GREAT doing it. I've been a big Latin music enthusiast for years - I have a lot of South Florida friends who exposed me to it. This type of dancing is very attractive and sexy, but (this is key) doesn't look slutty.

Seriously though, the absolute best thing ever is to just not give a sh*t what anyone thinks. Go out there and shake what God gave ya, and SMILE! Whenever I go out, I make sure to just smile smile smile, almost until my face hurts. I get approached by guys a lot when I act like that - I look like I'm having fun, plus I look friendly - I guess maybe I look unlikely to respond with a cruel rejection.

Here's a trick - if you see a guy that looks appealing, walk past him in the crowd, look him right in the eye for a second or two and smile, then look down. Glance back up as you continue walking and smile again. Continue to walk away. A little while later (maybe 5 - 10 minutes), walk by again and catch his eye briefly again and smile.

It's extremely EXTREMELY rare for a guy to not approach you after this. (if they don't, it's usually because they have a girlfriend or they just play for the other team) You've let him know that you're interested in a non-confrontational, non-slutty way. Plus, you've let him make the first move. So then he's not scared. You look confident and happy and fun.

volgirl2376 · #4 11-28-2001, 11:09 PM

ZetaLuvBunny - hey my fellow Tennesseean

I too feel very un-natural when I dance....it feels akward and dorky and I hate it. Therefore I think the last time I danced was in 8th grade lol (jk - kinda). Let me know if you do decide to take dance class and if it helps your confidence - maybe then I will shine my dancing shoes - but until then, I will stick to other things

James · #5 11-29-2001, 12:52 AM

I'm with G8Ralphaxi (your pseudonyms are a bitch to type) on this one. If you have the disposable income go take some private club/house style dance lessons. Practice for a good ten hours yourself, and you'll be light years ahead of most mortals. And you'll have a new confidence, you'll know you are dancing well because you know how.

IF you don't have the extra money, either you or one of your sisters has to know a good dance major that set you up with soem moves. You'll find that even excellent dancers tend to repeat the same 5-6 moves 90 percent of the time.

I have been fortunate enough that a few girls have offered to teach me for free. One was an MTV dancer . . . Sigh, I have to make that call cause it was a new years resolution from years ago.

A guy I knew took lessons and in a few weeks he was getting job offers at clubs to be a dancer in the crowd to liven things up. It increased his body count among the ladies enormously. He may even remember a few of their names . . .

Guys, Dance lessons, unless you are a natural Lord of the Dance, are a win win for us. We drink less when we dance, and more girls will notice us.

So the challenge for you Zetaluvbunny is whether you will take the first step and contact someone to help you. A few hours of practce and you will be the life of the place

Not that you already are not.

Eirene_DGP · #6 11-29-2001, 05:47 PM

If you don't feel comfy dancing at clubs and shaking it fast, maybe start out in your own surroundings with friends. Every weekend or so my roommates and I just turn up the stereo in our living area to "work what our mama's gave us". If you start out in the privacy of your own apt. you might feel more comfortable. We also go to techno clubs sometimes and with the music going and the crazy techno lights, it looks like everyone is moving in crazy directions.

DGPhoney · #7 11-29-2001, 06:21 PM

I have to shake it fast, it must just be something in my blood,like actually tonite, I am going to shake it fast, and to show em what I am working with.
really dancing is all about YOU! Forget about other people , have fun , let loose, enjoy your self, when you do all that , you wind up Looking great , cause people realize your not pressed about with who's looking at you(although we do catch the cutie in the corner checking us out ) It's all about feeling the beat and shaking what ya mama gave you(I know I will tonite)

DGPhoney~

Tom Earp · #8 11-29-2001, 06:37 PM

The problem with you damn kids

Is you do not know how to slow dance!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I dated a girl who could fast dance but fell over herself trying to slow dance!

The last party I was at, at School the girls could fast dance but tried to teach them some other ways to move including slow dance! ( I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO THAT ) There is a feely touchy way of telegraphing your moves from a guy to a Girl. Dancing is an art of love not beating the hell out of each other!

Youse Guys And Gals think on that one!

Would you like to be nest to ur date feeling warm, or carrying on hot and sweating like a bunch of Mr. Kotors Hogs

,

James · #9 11-30-2001, 12:59 AM

Yeah the slow dance might be a rapidly dying art form . . . a shame . . . Easier to tell if the girl really likes you during the slow dance, and great time to steal a first kiss.

Seems a bit more intimate than the bump and grind .

DGPhoney · #10 11-30-2001, 03:17 AM

Tom,
I can Slow dance,but you have remember President Tom that not every guy can do that sensual slow dance or even move for that matter.
yes James I think it is true thats when you can tell whether the person likes you or not. Lets ya be all close to the person and creates some chemistry , ya know what I am saying

DGPhoney~

aggieAXO · #11 11-30-2001, 03:41 AM

ZLB,

I love to dance and use to actually record people like Janet Jackson or Madonna and learned some moves from them. I guess now it would be Brittany Spears or Christina Aguilera-but recording these gals and re-playing over and over may help-but you need to dance in front of a mirror-may be awkward at first but it is good /cheap way to learn-I also am determined to learn shikera's hip moves-damn she is good. Try it you may be surprised how well you can learn this way.