A question for the guys: Are we girls easily forgetten?

[UKDaisy]

I was flipping through some pages I had cut out of magazines when I found the "He's just not that into you" guide to SATC's men. And it had a picture of Mr.Big and Carrie with the lesson that "You are not easily forgotten. Let him find you when he's ready."

Now, with my current boy toy on his way to IU for grad school this little lesson hit home.

So are we girls easily forgotten fellas or is this just something we want to believe?

[adpiucf]

If he's just a toy, do you even want to remember him?

Guys are people, too. If they like a girl and want to be with her, they'll work just as hard as you to make it work.

If they don't then they won't...

The 2 most important relationship lessons:
1) You can't make someone love you
2) If you try to act like anything other than the real you, then how can someone love the real you?

So be yourself and be honest with yourself and with him. If you want to stay together through the distance, talk it over and see where he stands. You're not asking for a ring or affirmation-- just that you'd like to see where this could go.

[honeychile]

Guys are people, too, UKDaisy. I broke up with the former mr. honeychile 2 weeks ago, and he still hasn't even told anyone! I felt awful when I heard that, please don't think I'm gloating. In fact, now that I think about it, a male friend broke up with his girlfriend almost a year ago, and he's just now getting back to normal.

[UKDaisy]

Oh I know guys are people too. I guess I just feel that their overall emotions about a relationship (ie - hearing a song on a radio and thinking "thats our song" or watching something on tv that the two of you used to watch and remembering you) are different.

And honestly I'm not really asking about my boy toy, although heck I"d love for him to feel this way. But I"m just asking in general.

[FHwku]

in general, yes. we don't become emotionally invested as easily as women.

if he really likes you, or if you were really good together, then he won't forget. or if you made really delicious brownies. the super moist kind that are so soft they could fall apart, even after they've cooled.

[Kevlar281]

Originally posted by FHwku
If you made really delicious brownies. the super moist kind that are so soft they could fall apart, even after they've cooled.

Brownies? Shit I need to raise my standards.

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by UKDaisy
I was flipping through some pages I had cut out of magazines when I found the "He's just not that into you" guide to SATC's men. And it had a picture of Mr.Big and Carrie with the lesson that "You are not easily forgotten. Let him find you when he's ready."

Now, with my current boy toy on his way to IU for grad school this little lesson hit home.

So are we girls easily forgotten fellas or is this just something we want to believe?

I wouldnt say they're easily forgotten.....I still remember each girl I've ever dated as opposed to girls I just shagged on the side. I even remember stupid little instances with each past GF when something reminds me of them. As for girls I just shagged, I try counting them all every once in awhile but get mixed up after 20-something, after I do that I'll remember one that just pops up in my mind randomly like a bad STD and I'm like "oh yea, I fucked that girl" and it makes me laugh. The worst thing is when I run into one I forgot about. Geesh. Thats really bad when they come up to you and say "hey Craig!" and I have no idea who the hell they are. But I think the worst thing that has happened in my world on this subject is when you shag a girl, don't call her afterwards, a year goes by, you see her out again but have no idea who she is and try to pick her up to take home only to find out you've already shagged her and she remembers you as the asshole that never called back. And trust me, that "you must have met my brother" lie doesnt work no matter how serious of a face you hold while telling it.

The moral of my story: If you're just a shag and the sex isnt dy-no-mite, you'll be easily forgotten. He'll keep the number for a booty call and probably holler at you in 6 months to a year that way it'll make you think he really liked you so he can get laid whenever he sees you. Thats what I used to do. I talked to old booty calls from Gainesville every 6 months just to stay in contact in case we ran into each other somewhere around the state so that it'd be an easy lay. And it worked, a lot. The last time I hit an old booty call was in October after my exfiance and I called it quits for a 2nd time, right after Florida vs. Georgia. I was in Gainesville and so was this girl. She was a tennis player I met in 1999 and hit it all through college, a 6 ft tall blonde swedish breeder. It was the same girl that drank too much G and lit in the hospital for 5 days in a coma if any of you remember that story. Anyhow, we call her two names, "double teamed" or "dancing bear" depending on which friends are with me at the time her name is brought up. I ran into Emily at fat tuesdays, killed some shots and before I knew it we went to my brother's apt, went straight to his room, locked the door and didnt come out till 10am the next morning. I think I hit it like 10 times that night and never pulled out. It was awesome. All I remember was having this tall blonde chick on me with nice tits and I hit it all night/morning long. The point of this is, there's a small chance that if you're just a booty call.....he might remember you forever.


Cash$

[adpiucf]

Shag? Who are you, Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery?

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by adpiucf
Shag? Who are you, Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery?

I hated those movies.

[sageofages]

Originally posted by UKDaisy
I was flipping through some pages I had cut out of magazines when I found the "He's just not that into you" guide to SATC's men. And it had a picture of Mr.Big and Carrie with the lesson that "You are not easily forgotten. Let him find you when he's ready."

Now, with my current boy toy on his way to IU for grad school this little lesson hit home.

So are we girls easily forgotten fellas or is this just something we want to believe?

It just really depends on the fella....

Mr Sageofages always thinks fondly of all his past "romances", but reminds me I am the one he chose !

Mr Sageofages' college roommate had a relationship end, and he has never gotten over this girl. He has dated again, but will never committ to the next person because she was the only one for him. It has been 28 years since they broke up. He is pretty serious about not being "over" her.

[LightBulb]

Originally posted by sageofages
Mr Sageofages' college roommate had a relationship end, and he has never gotten over this girl. He has dated again, but will never committ to the next person because she was the only one for him. It has been 28 years since they broke up. He is pretty serious about not being "over" her.

"He stopped loving her today..." - George Jones

[laidbackfella]

Random Chicks between Girlfriends: Yes

Girlfriends: No

[SigmaChiCard]

it depends on the connection...and circumstances...

most of my ex's I'm great friends with...but most of my berak-ups went really well...and then they drift off into..not the forgotten...but the need to be reminded of...like many friends often do

it's generally the ones that hurt you that you remember - they're the ones who leave their mark on you more than the others...of course they only hurt you because you were so into them, otherwise it wouldn't hurt so much...but either way those....those you never forget...the oens you compare every other girl to....

-cory

[texas*princess]

great topic... boys, keep responding

[Rudey]

Not if you gave your man an STD.

-Rudey