How to let them know...

futuretiger2 · #1 08-19-2010, 11:29 AM

Today is skit day, and out of all the sororities I'm down to one. It just happened to be my number one choice the whole time. How do I let them know that (honestly) this is the house that I want to be in! I don't want to come across as fake, or disinterested. Any advice?

Lightning Bug! · #2 08-19-2010, 11:34 AM

Be yourself. You like them, so you don't have to pretend anything. They like you. All you can do at this point is be yourself. What attracted you to this house? Ask more about it. That's how you show you are interested. If they give you an opportunity to talk about yourself, then talk about things that would make you an attractive sister to have.

Best of luck. Please let us know how it goes.

Alumiyum · #3 08-19-2010, 11:52 AM

Tell them you really like the chapter and why (their sisterhood, the actives you've met, their philanthropy, whatever you particularly loved). And tell them why you think you would fit in there...good luck!

Just make sure to be yourself, because there's no point in joining a chapter that doesn't like you for you.

DubaiSis · #4 08-19-2010, 12:46 PM

You know, they can be having the same issues with you! They have clear rules about being too specific about their interest in you, so don't be hurt or panic if they say something general like "we're glad you're here too" instead of "I really want you to be my sister." Be yourself, definitely say something about being happy to be there, thinking this feels right to you, whatever, but don't beat it to death. Good luck!

gee_ess · #5 08-19-2010, 01:51 PM

Tell them you like them. Period.
Tell them you love it and it feels like home. Period

Don't be desperate. Just give them the feedback they need to make the decision. They don't need to wonder or feel like they got vague, nonspecific feed back.

KSUViolet06 · #6 08-19-2010, 03:52 PM

Be genuine.

I never thought it was creepy if a PNM told me (in a non-creepy way), "I really like it here" or "I was really excited to get invited back here."

Just be tactful about it and don't be all "OMG I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!"

Katmandu · #7 08-19-2010, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by gee_ess

Tell them you love it and it feels like home. Period

Don't be desperate. Just give them the feedback they need to make the decision.

Absolutely this! Yes, just tell them sincerely and simply, "This has been my favorite house from the start. I love it, and it feels like home." Then don't belabor it. Keep the conversation going by asking your rusher something that shows your interest or shared values--something about the philanthropy, sisterhood activities, or "What is your favorite XYZ memory?"

Good luck!

BeeBee23 · #8 08-19-2010, 04:09 PM

As an active, sometimes I asked PNMs if they were torn at all or nervous about making bid selections later on in the day. If you get asked this, be honest. Say that you feel comfortable at their house and that you know how you will be ranking come selection time. Just don't over do it or else it seems desperate and can come across really fake.