I need help with teaching girls how to rush PNMs!

[DeltaZeta09]

I am currently in a sorority that has finally gotten on its feet completely. We got back on campus not too long ago but we finally hit quota this year. However, in doing so, we did bid some girls who I fear have little to no idea how to rush PNM's in fall. I know it's very early, but my goal is to write a help manual to give them so they know topics to bring up to PNM's and what one's not to. I am probably going to pull some stuff from books about body language and first impressions, but does anyone else have any advice/activities I can do to make our chapter continue to do well? Our girls are excited because we are becoming known on campus but we want to start bidding girls we truly want and not just half girls we want and half bids for numbers, and this next rush could be that chance. thanks

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DeltaZeta09

I am currently in a sorority that has finally gotten on its feet completely. We got back on campus not too long ago but we finally hit quota this year. However, in doing so, we did bid some girls who I fear have little to no idea how to rush PNM's in fall. I know it's very early, but my goal is to write a help manual to give them so they know topics to bring up to PNM's and what one's not to. I am probably going to pull some stuff from books about body language and first impressions, but does anyone else have any advice/activities I can do to make our chapter continue to do well? Our girls are excited because we are becoming known on campus but we want to start bidding girls we truly want and not just half girls we want and half bids for numbers, and this next rush could be that chance. thanks

Good threads to read:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...t=conversation

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...hlight=actives

Generally speaking, the things you were told not to discuss as a PNM going through recruitment are things that active members don't need to discuss either (ex: alcohol, partying, politics, you get the idea).

Also, bidding girls you don't want for the sake of numbers is probably not the best thing.

[ms_gwyn]

Have you looked into Phired Up Productions?

[honeychile]

Alumnae can be your best friends with recruitment techniques. Even if it's just being mock PNMs.

[Titchou]

I would imagine there is a handbook for this from your HQ. Do you have a membership adviser? she can help also. If you have another chapter close by you might see about having a conversation workshop with them. That way you can practive with each other. The chapter I advise has done that and it works well.

[sydney bristow]

Originally Posted by Titchou

I would imagine there is a handbook for this from your HQ. Do you have a membership adviser? she can help also. If you have another chapter close by you might see about having a conversation workshop with them. That way you can practive with each other. The chapter I advise has done that and it works well.

UK does this every year before recruitment, two sororities are paired and they take turns being PNMs and actives to practice. It works well, you should ask another sorority if they'd be willing to play pretend PNMs!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DeltaZeta09

I am currently in a sorority that has finally gotten on its feet completely. We got back on campus not too long ago but we finally hit quota this year. However, in doing so, we did bid some girls who I fear have little to no idea how to rush PNM's in fall. I know it's very early, but my goal is to write a help manual to give them so they know topics to bring up to PNM's and what one's not to. I am probably going to pull some stuff from books about body language and first impressions, but does anyone else have any advice/activities I can do to make our chapter continue to do well? Our girls are excited because we are becoming known on campus but we want to start bidding girls we truly want and not just half girls we want and half bids for numbers, and this next rush could be that chance. thanks

Just be really sensitive in how you do this. You don't want to be offensive in how you approach this subject. Be mindful that you don't pinpoint specific members that need this advice so that this is more chapter-wide advice. If you search GC, you will find that talking about bidding "girls we truly want and not just half girls we want and half bids for numbers" will lead to a lot of hurt feelings as people start wondering where they fit into that description. It's always good to improve, but never at the expense of your sisters' feelings.

[Alumiyum]

Practice is the best thing you can do. I was a recruitment team member and what I noticed about my chapter from the outside was that they had a hard time not coming off as fake and weren't paying enough attention to their appearance. Both seem like shallow issues, but they matter during recruitment. They were over doing the "happy suzy sorority" act and started to appear completely fake...not on purpose but because they'd been told to appear happy and interested at all times and didn't know how to do that without putting off the PNM's. Practice is the only thing that helps get around this problem. Both sessions where the entire chapter is paired with mock PNM's and goes through their rotation and sessions where two girls perform a one on one situation ("Here's an example of what to do"..."Here's an example of what NOT to do") help feel more comfortable when the actual PNM's appear. As for appearance, again, workshops are your friend. If they don't know how recruitment works it might have never occurred to them that how they dress when they're recruiting matters. On our campus chapters frequently where matching shirts to campus events leading up to recruitment for visibility and everyone looks cute, but things fall apart when it comes to class. Find a way to help them feel confident without feeling like they're being told they don't look good. My girls sometimes felt like they should be offended and it IS hard to figure out how to talk about appearance without offending anyone. Having a few examples of what TO do and having a few what not to do's but prefacing that with a reminder that this is meant to educate not be offensive is a good idea. Statement clothing is fine day to day, but during recruitment they have to be approachable. Clean nails and hair, and a clean face or natural looking make up during the day time is appropriate. Nothing too revealing, no shock value slogans, etc.

[Senusret I]

Isn't "rush" something which everyone has to learn how to do?

This thing is kind of foreign to me, but the way the original post was phrased gave me a wee bit of concern.

I guess what I'm saying is that there should be a system for training women how to rush anyway, regardless of the perception of their existing skill set. Nobody is born knowing how to recruit any more than they are born knowing how to be a sorority member.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Nobody is born knowing how to recruit any more than they are born knowing how to be a sorority member.

Given my experience with a certain segment of Southern society in which girls are indeed taught, almost from birth, all they will need to know about rushing, I feel a strong urge to say "Bless your heart."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Given my experience with a certain segment of Southern society in which girls are indeed taught, almost from birth, all they will need to know about rushing, I feel a strong urge to say "Bless your heart."

LOL

Yet and still, we all know that you don't know until you experience it yourself. You don't know about being a member until you're a member. You don't know about membership intake until you're a member who is preparing for and participating in membership intake.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL

Yet and still, we all know that you don't know until you experience it yourself. You don't know about being a member until you're a member. You don't know about membership intake until you're a member who is preparing for and participating in membership intake.

From experience in a southern chapter, we practiced like crazy! Recruitment was not taken lightly. It started almost immediately after rush and in the spring we had a whole weekend "Sisterhood" retreat that was really a practice weekend. We knew what to wear, how to bump, how to talk to PNMs, how to sing our songs (what words we slurred), we chanted until we could chant no more, then we did it all again.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

From experience in a southern chapter, we practiced like crazy! Recruitment was not taken lightly. It started almost immediately after rush and in the spring we had a whole weekend "Sisterhood" retreat that was really a practice weekend. We knew what to wear, how to bump, how to talk to PNMs, how to sing our songs (what words we slurred), we chanted until we could chant no more, then we did it all again.

That's good and you all were well prepared!

Mystic Cat has me wondering whether there are legacies who thought they already had all of this figured out. LOL. They don't need no stinkin' training! They don't need no stinkin' sisterhood or membership retreats! They always called those "family reunions!"

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Nobody is born knowing how to recruit any more than they are born knowing how to be a sorority member.

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Given my experience with a certain segment of Southern society in which girls are indeed taught, almost from birth, all they will need to know about rushing, I feel a strong urge to say "Bless your heart."

Senusret hit it.
There is a "certain segment" who train from birth, but it's a very, very small segment.
The rest of us have to learn!

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

There is a "certain segment" who train from birth, but it's a very, very small segment.

So I have been told.