Eastern Star? Do you know?

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HI, I would like to obtain some knowledge. If I am not related to a Mason, how do I begin to find out how to join the Eastern Stars? I know that I am planning in putting my children in Rainbows so that when they are old enough to be in college the process would be easier for them, However allow me to display my scenerio:

I am 32 and just got out of the service while my husband is still active. My best friend/sister will be joining a chapter in San Diego soon through bloodline,
of course that is not an option for me, however I am getting a recommendation from my best friend as well as her brother who is a master mason and from another one of my friends.

Outside of my circle of friends, I wanted to have other views.

Honestly am I too old to join? Do I even have a chance of getting accepted? I am in college, although a late starter, I plan to finish and this is something that I would love to go through with my children.

I would like to know how will the process be for me?