Disappointed in Membership

disillusioned · #1 03-01-2001, 04:24 PM

I'm posting this (relatively) anonymously because I don't want there to be any repercussions for me, or for my friend who's a member of the same greek letter organization.

A while back, my best friend asked me whether it was possible to rescind/renounce your membership in one greek letter organization in order to become a member of another. Ironically, it's this friend who convinced me to become a member of our sorority, but now she's really disappointed with the pervasive attitude she's seen from the women in our chapter.

While I've done all I can to try to get her to hold her head high, and to hold on for better times, she's convinced that if she moves to a different part of the country and doesn't make any mention of her prior membership, that she can become a member of a different organization, an organization that she now claims was her first choice.

Since I don't know of anything I can do to get her to change her mind, I guess what I'm really asking is such a thing possible? Can a person join another organization? We're in an NPHC organization, which usually signifies bonds for life.

Thanks for any honest responses. Any ideas on how I can get her back into the fold are greatly appreciated as well.

amycat412 · #2 03-01-2001, 04:29 PM

Not sure about the exact NPHC rules, but at my school the Panhellenic runs a check on SSN#s to make sure rushees aren't an initiated member of another organization.

If not initiated, you can de-pledge and are eligible to rush again after a waiting period.

bcde · #3 03-01-2001, 04:29 PM

If I am not mistaken, she cannot join another organization. I think that is the reason why one must really, really evaluate why they want to join the particular sorority because of the lifetime committment. If the women in the chapter have an attitude, that should not matter because she is a member of the organization as a whole and not just a member of the chapter of the organizaion. She should stay in and try to work for the betterment of the chapter.

WenD08 · #4 03-01-2001, 04:53 PM

disillusioned, it is against every org. Bylaws for a member of an NPHC org. to become a member of another NPHC org. your friend thinks that she would be slick enough to move and try again. a person has done just what she's thinking of and ended up getting kicked out of their "first" choice (and perhaps their "second" choice). it wouldn't be wise to do this. your friend made the choice and now it is up to her to make the best of it or renounce her membership, which she can do. it's nice that you want to help her but in the end, it's all on her.

Ideal08 · #5 03-01-2001, 05:10 PM

*shaking my head*

MIDWESTDIVA · #6 03-01-2001, 05:14 PM

Why doesn't disillusioned's friend already know the answer to this question? This is basic information that even I know.

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WenD08 · #7 03-01-2001, 05:20 PM

i agree, Soror, this is quite puzzling. MidwestDiva, you know people. they know the answer but are in denial. fortunately, not all of us are...

CutiePie2000 · #8 03-01-2001, 05:23 PM

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Originally posted by disillusioned:

she's convinced that if she moves to a different part of the country and doesn't make any mention of her prior membership, that she can become a member of a different organization, an organization that she now claims was her first choice.

Even though your friend may find her present chapter incompatible, if she does move to another part of the country, she should stay with her original GLO, and contact the ladies in her new locale...she might be pleasantly surprised by the ladies in her new city.

I would advise against trying to join a 2nd GLO...the past will catch up with you. Try to make the 1st one work.

Also, once you join one NPHC, you cannot join a second. Same for NPC sororities.

Tell her to "hold on for better times". Good Luck!

SoTrue1920 · #9 03-01-2001, 05:57 PM

I have to admit, I'm unclear as to the answer to this question, because I've heard "through the grapevine" of people who have done this. We know what it says in our handbooks and/or when we go through MIP, but when rumors fly to the contrary, it's only human to question their veracity.

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Originally posted by MIDWESTDIVA:
Why doesn't disillusioned's friend already know the answer to this question? This is basic information that even I know.

loviest95 · #10 03-01-2001, 07:19 PM

This is the reason you should pledge what is in YOUR heart

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Hootie · #11 03-02-2001, 12:50 AM

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Originally posted by SoTrue1920:
I have to admit, I'm unclear as to the answer to this question, because I've heard "through the grapevine" of people who have done this. We know what it says in our handbooks and/or when we go through MIP, but when rumors fly to the contrary, it's only human to question their veracity.

Actually, the only way you can join another GLO is if you were simply a pledge, and not an initiated member. They won't allow for someone to join a second GLO for the fact that secrets could be revealed, or people could join under false pretences (etc.)
Hootie

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AlphaChiGirl · #12 03-02-2001, 01:07 AM

Not only is it illegal, it's bad form if you've been initiated into another sorority, 'cause you've had a long enough new member education process during which to drop out before initiation. If it's like, 2 weeks after Rush and you're just not fitting in, it's okay (in my opinion) to drop out. But, like NPHC members, it's very important to do your research regarding sororities at your school, so things like this are rare.

cash78mere · #13 03-02-2001, 09:07 AM

Actually, it is possible.

I know of 2 people from DC who have done it.

Kinda sad if you ask me, but definitely possible.

BlueReign · #14 03-02-2001, 02:42 PM

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Originally posted by cash78mere:
Actually, it is possible.

I know of 2 people from DC who have done it.

Kinda sad if you ask me, but definitely possible.

I wonder if we know the same people. I know a man who told me he pledged something else back in the 70's and then recently he became a member of another fraternity. Both are NPHC fraternities. I wondered how he could go around boasting about something like this.

Discogoddess · #15 03-02-2001, 03:21 PM

Wait a minute, Disillusioned! If you and your friend/soror/sister ARE in indeed members of an NPHC organization, you would know, as a matter of your membership process, what the rules are regarding renouncing one sorority (NPHC, NPC, etc.) and joining another. Why do you all not know this? What's REALLY goin' on????