Your help would be greatly appreciated.....

cpsfiu · #1 09-26-2009, 03:18 PM

Hello everyone, I am new to greek chat and I am in need of any help you are willing to give. This week I have attended several NPHC recruitments events in which I have had a chance to research the sororities that I am interested in and make my selection. With careful consideration and and open mind I have narrowed down my prospects to one Sorority. I admire their belief, principles and work ethic. I also meet a few of the members that really like me and made me feel very comfortable........EXCEPT one. I do not know her at all neither does she know me but she doesnt like me. Before I ever spoke to her I noticed she stared at me for 2-3 minutes as I was watching a stepshow. I decided to approach her. I walked up with a smile introduced myself and asked if her group had performed, she said no and walked away. For the two following nights while her other group members would embrace me she gave me the worst looks ever!! In her defense two of the times I saw her the two gentleman she was standing with abruptly ended thier conversation with her to approach me (not my fault). I also noticed that at a recent party she would approach everyone (especially males) that I conversed with, to initiate a conversation (rude). I'm a happily married young woman looking for sisterhood and not a man or a competition. I spent my whole life modeling and competing in pageants, I dont want to feel like I'm competing with a "sister". I really like the organization alot, my number one choice, I just don't know how to deal with this young lady, or this situation. Please help!!!!!

Leslie Anne · #2 09-26-2009, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by cpsfiu

Hello everyone, I am new to greek chat and I am in need of any help you are willing to give. This week I have attended several NPHC recruitments events in which I have had a chance to research the sororities that I am interested in and make my selection. With careful consideration and and open mind I have narrowed down my prospects to one Sorority. I admire their belief, principles and work ethic. I also meet a few of the members that really like me and made me feel very comfortable........EXCEPT one. I do not know her at all neither does she know me but she doesnt like me. Before I ever spoke to her I noticed she stared at me for 2-3 minutes as I was watching a stepshow. I decided to approach her. I walked up with a smile introduced myself and asked if her group had performed, she said no and walked away. For the two following nights while her other group members would embrace me she gave me the worst looks ever!! In her defense two of the times I saw her the two gentleman she was standing with abruptly ended thier conversation with her to approach me (not my fault). I also noticed that at a recent party she would approach everyone (especially males) that I conversed with, to initiate a conversation (rude). I'm a happily married young woman looking for sisterhood and not a man or a competition. I spent my whole life modeling and competing in pageants, I dont want to feel like I'm competing with a "sister". I really like the organization alot, my number one choice, I just don't know how to deal with this young lady, or this situation. Please help!!!!!

QFP

dreamseeker · #3 09-26-2009, 08:48 PM

lol...

tld221 · #4 09-26-2009, 09:33 PM

Popcorn.

cpsfiu · #5 09-26-2009, 10:25 PM

lol indeed, popcorn maybe, but what does qfp mean? I am new to posting threads in this forum. Is there anyone that can offer advice. I'm not sure what to do at this point. Thank you.

Benzgirl · #6 09-26-2009, 10:26 PM

Quoted for Posterity.

cpsfiu · #7 09-26-2009, 10:52 PM

Hi Benzgirl,
Thanks!

Barbie's_Rush · #8 09-27-2009, 03:33 PM

This thread is comedy gold.

MexicanMami0286 · #9 09-27-2009, 06:03 PM

First of all, NPHC organizations don't recruit.

Secondly, do you. See where pursuing this organization will take you. Nothing is guaranteed, so why should you be pressed by one individual? Let it go. Be the grown up you say you are and move on.

dreamseeker · #10 09-28-2009, 03:53 AM

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Originally Posted by MexicanMami0286

Be the grown up you say you are and move on.

you'd think a grown up would know this...

rhoyaltempest · #11 09-28-2009, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by cpsfiu

Hello everyone, I am new to greek chat and I am in need of any help you are willing to give. This week I have attended several NPHC recruitments events in which I have had a chance to research the sororities that I am interested in and make my selection. With careful consideration and and open mind I have narrowed down my prospects to one Sorority. I admire their belief, principles and work ethic. I also meet a few of the members that really like me and made me feel very comfortable........EXCEPT one. I do not know her at all neither does she know me but she doesnt like me. Before I ever spoke to her I noticed she stared at me for 2-3 minutes as I was watching a stepshow. I decided to approach her. I walked up with a smile introduced myself and asked if her group had performed, she said no and walked away. For the two following nights while her other group members would embrace me she gave me the worst looks ever!! In her defense two of the times I saw her the two gentleman she was standing with abruptly ended thier conversation with her to approach me (not my fault). I also noticed that at a recent party she would approach everyone (especially males) that I conversed with, to initiate a conversation (rude). I'm a happily married young woman looking for sisterhood and not a man or a competition. I spent my whole life modeling and competing in pageants, I dont want to feel like I'm competing with a "sister". I really like the organization alot, my number one choice, I just don't know how to deal with this young lady, or this situation. Please help!!!!!

Being in a sisterhood does not mean that real issues among women/people disappear. You will not be best friends with everyone, you will not like everyone, and not everyone will like you. That's life! Even some blood sisters and relatives don't get along. I wouldn't worry about it. The chapter has to vote on whether or not to extend an invite to you to join. If you are extended an invite to join, that means that the majority like you. All you can hope for in a sisterhood is that everyone respects one another and can put personal feelings aside to work together in the name of their org.

rhoyaltempest · #12 09-28-2009, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by MexicanMami0286

First of all, NPHC organizations don't recruit.

Secondly, do you. See where pursuing this organization will take you. Nothing is guaranteed, so why should you be pressed by one individual? Let it go. Be the grown up you say you are and move on.

I think what the op means is that she attended a "Meet the Greeks" or similar events that NPHC orgs host, which can be considered recruitment events since they target interested men and women, even though we don't label them as such.

MexicanMami0286 · #13 09-28-2009, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I think what the op means is that she attended a "Meet the Greeks" or similar events that NPHC orgs host, which can be considered recruitment events since they target interested men and women, even though we don't label them as such.

I know what she meant. I'm in a BGLO, myself and have conducted such programs...I was just making it clear as she may have not known that "recruitment" is a no-no world in the BGLO word.

cpsfiu · #14 10-01-2009, 07:57 PM

Thank you both Rhoyaltempest and MexicanMami0286. I truly appreciate the both of you sicerely answering my question.