De-Pledged

[Tape Dispenser]

When I participated in formal rush at my school, I decided to suicide one of the houses after prefs. I ended up not getting a bid to that house, but I did end up getting snap bids to two different houses. After deliberating it with my Recruitment Counselor and some of my hallmates, I decided to accept one of the snap bids.

However, all throughout the bid night party, I felt like I had made a mistake. Everyone else there was so excited and happy to be there, and I just felt out of place. The next day I contacted the sorority president and told her that I needed to drop out of pledging because of financial reasons.

At first I was content with my decision, but as the semester has gone by, I’m starting to feel like I made a mistake. I’m somewhat ashamed to admit this, but I think part of the reason I felt uncomfortable in that house was because I got wrapped up in the “status-y” aspect of sorority life and was embarrassed to be associated with a sorority that wasn’t considered the most desirable. The more I have thought about it, the more I am starting to think that I should have just stuck it out; after all, I had really connected with two of the sisters I met on bid night, and one of the other pledges was in my rush group and we got along very well. Greek life appeals to me not only because of the social aspects (I love getting dressed up for parties!) but also because of the traditions and rituals as well as the advantages of an extensive alumni network

So, in sharing my situation with you all, I am asking if any of you can give me some guidance. Should I reach out to my old house and see if there is some way for me to get another opportunity to evaluate if they are the right fit for me? Because I am ineligible from participating in informal rush, should I participate in formal rush again knowing that there is no guarantee the results will be any different? If I do participate in formal rush again, is the stigma attached to someone who de-pledges so great that my rush experience will be negatively impacted? Or should I just look around my school for other activities to immerse myself in?

Thank you!