Greeks in Serious Relationships

crazysassycool · #1 09-08-2008, 04:43 AM

I am just curious to hear some insight from girls who have been in serious/long distance relationships with someone who is obviously at a different university and is non-greek. Does it alter your experience in a sorority in any way? What would you consider to be the good and the bad in that particular situation?

lucgreek · #2 09-08-2008, 08:46 AM

I don't get this question. Why would it be different for someone greek as opposed to someone who isn't greek? I mean, for me nothing was changed from when I was a GDI to an active member when I was in my long-distance relationship

33girl · #3 09-08-2008, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by lucgreek

I don't get this question. Why would it be different for someone greek as opposed to someone who isn't greek? I mean, for me nothing was changed from when I was a GDI to an active member when I was in my long-distance relationship

Because on the whole, Greeks have more social opportunities and functions with organizations involving members of the opposite sex. They also have more rigid time commitments. Gina GDI can take off any weekend to go see her boyfriend with no problem, but Susie Sorority may have meetings, homecoming practice etc. This is more true of sororities than fraternities IMO.

The good: You have someone for dated functions. You can go to a mixer and just have fun and it's not about "OMG MUST FIND FORMAL DATE NOW." You have someone caring to go to when you get tired of sorority drama.

The bad: You have commitments you can't break to be w/ him. There are honestly more temptations to stray because you are around guys more. I'm not going to BS you about that. But that doesn't mean you have to give in. On the other hand, no one wants a sister who won't even talk to another guy at a mixer or even go to a mixer because she or her boyfriend thinks it's "cheating." They're no fun to be around.

All I can say is if your boyfriend respects your commitment to and your love for your sorority it has a better chance of working out. But if he doesn't, it probably won't.

crazysassycool · #4 09-08-2008, 07:22 PM

Thank you 33girl for your insight. Your response is very helpful and honest and I appreciate that a lot.

KSUViolet06 · #5 09-08-2008, 07:37 PM

Having a boyfriend can alter your sorority experience either positively or negatively depending on your relationship.

If he's supportive and understands that you love your sorority, and that being in it means that you aren't always going to answer the phone when he calls (because you're in a meeting or at an event) and that there are going to be times when the sorority will take precendence over hanging with him--then yes, it will work.

However, if he is the type who isn't supportive, and only thinks of the sorority as something silly that's taking time away from him, it's not going to work out.

Whatever you do, don't let your bf turn you into "That Sister." You know, the one who won't go near a date party or formal if her bf can't come, because her bf will yell at her fo it. The one who never wats to go out, but if she does, she is glued to her phone and texting him all night long. She is also the one who complains about the times/dates of LIKE EVERY SINGLE EVENT because "she was going to go see her bf this weekend" and she thinks that everything should be arranged to accomodate her "boyfriend-seeing" schedule.

mh*e · #6 09-08-2008, 07:54 PM

I dated my boyfriend before going Greek. He is out of college already, a GDI, and lives a couple hours away, but we've done well with me going Greek... in fact, it's better this way because I am able to keep busy at school and have a life of my own! He encouraged me to rush and is usually pretty cool with my schedule of commitments.

The two occasions that get him slightly grumpy, RARELY:

1. Recruitment (because I disappear for two whole weeks!!)
2. As previously mentioned, social events centered around meeting fraternity men

Honestly, it depends on the guy! Some will be cool with it... others will give you hell for it... some will have a lukewarm reaction. Personally, it's a huge turn-off for me if a guy doesn't admire me for being an independent and productive individual. Guess I have it pretty good!