Wavering on the Edge...

[RHITDeltaGal]

To be honest, my love of TriDelta, namely of my chapter, is really wavering right now. I made the decision to accept a co-op position at a company about 4 hours from school. This meant leaving for 6 months during my junior year. I knew that it would change things, but I never realized that the people who are my sisters would be as cold as they have been. When I've gone back to visit, it's like they don't even want to see me. This past weekend, I drove up for a visit and tried to spend time with my sisters during Greek Games, however, when I got to the field, I could feel everyone staring at me and even heard some of them whispering behind my back about how I didn't belong there. Yes, there are still a few girls excited to see me back for a visit, and these are the sisters I cherish, but it makes me feel like the fact that we've taken the same vows and been through the same rituals means nothing to the majority and that kills me inside. I'm just wondering if the girls we've had recently deactivate from the chapter were feeling this exact same way and that's why they turned in their badges. I joined TriDelta because it felt like home. It gave me a drive and determination that I never knew I could have in myself to be a better person simply because, the moment I put on my letters, I felt like I had the sisters in my chapter with me, no matter how far I was from them or how bad my day went. Now, well, I just want to turn in my badge and walk away. Anyone else gone through something like this? I hate this because, in just a few months, I have to go back to school and start recruitment and I don't feel like I can encourage girls to go Greek and tell them how it is a good experience when my heart simply isn't in it anymore...

[Jimmy Choo]

((HUGS))

I think at times we have all felt this way. It's hard to think about it now but you do have to think about the fact that Tri Delta is for a lifetime. That's what you have to keep in mind as you go thru this trying time. So you don't have to air this all out publicly if you want we can talk about this via PM? I would hate to have you turn in your badge when this could be some type of misunderstanding.

[DolphinChicaDDD]

As suggested by Jimmy Choo, this should be taken to PM. Feel free to contact me as well. If any of our sisters would like to respond, please PM RHITDeltaGal as I'm going to close this thread.

I encourage you to speak with your Alumnae Adviser and your standards board. These women are here to help you, and you shouldn't be nervous to talk with them. If you don't feel comfortable speaking with standards, then please at least share your concerns with your adviser. Everyone hits a patch where they are uncomfortable with what is going on, but if you never speak up the issue doesn't get addressed by the chapter so you're unhappy and perhaps others as well. Membership is for a lifetime, and we want all of our members to be active for their lifetime.