Maid of Honor advice?

[KSUViolet06]

So I just found out that I'm going to be the Maid of Honor in a wedding! While I've been a bridesmaid a few times, I've never been anyone's Maid of Honor before. I know alot of you girls are married or getting married. So I have some questions:

What were/will be your MOH's responsibilities? What did your Maid of Honor do that was particularly special or helpful? Was there something she did or didn't do that you didn't like?

Any advice is appreciated.

[OtterXO]

I've been a MOH and from my experience the responsibilities are: planning/hosting the bridal shower (sometimes in conjunction with the other bridesmaids); planning/hosting bachelorette party (if the bride wants one); taking the lead on picking dresses, shoes, jewelry (depending on the bride, obviously) and fielding complaints from the other girls who don't like the dress/shoes/jewelry; regulating on bridesmaids if necessary; holding the bouquet for the bride during the vows at the wedding; making sure her dress looks good from the back for the photographs.....and that's all I can think of right now. Good luck, it's a big job but fun!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by OtterXO

I've been a MOH and from my experience the responsibilities are: planning/hosting the bridal shower (sometimes in conjunction with the other bridesmaids); planning/hosting bachelorette party (if the bride wants one); taking the lead on picking dresses, shoes, jewelry (depending on the bride, obviously) and fielding complaints from the other girls who don't like the dress/shoes/jewelry; regulating on bridesmaids if necessary; holding the bouquet for the bride during the vows at the wedding; making sure her dress looks good from the back for the photographs.....and that's all I can think of right now. Good luck, it's a big job but fun!

Yeah we had lunch today and went over a little of this stuff. I'm not looking forward to the "fielding complaints" part though. LOL. We will be choosing dresses with her future sister in law, but I'd like to think that I know most of the bridesmaids well enough to choose something that they can agree on.

I know that I'm going to the bachelorette party and another bridesmaid wants to take the lead on the shower.

When I was a MOH, I lucked out because my cousin gave us folders containing specific stuff she wanted us to do. Thankfully it wasn't Bridezilla-ish at all. Most of it consisted of picking up stuff, meeting at a designated time to help make favors, arrange flowers, etc.

In addition to the info OtterXO provided, I'd suggest having a comfortable pair of shoes/flip flops for her wedding day when not in the ceremony and reception. When my cousin got married, she needed this and she needed that. If I had to run around like a madwoman in my heels that day, I would have quit.

[texas*princess]

I was recently asked to be the MOH for a sorority sister's wedding.

I found this article from TheKnot.com really really helpful.

I'm sooooo excited!

[LeslieAGD]

My sister was my MoH, too, and I was hers. We:
- planned each other's bridal showers
- helped with placecards and favors
- went bridal shopping together and went to all the fittings
- helped with last minute day-of organization

[jwright25]

All of the above are fabulous. I'd also start thinking about a day-of "emergency" kit. Bobby pins, safety pins, hem tape, lint roller, painkiller, breath mints, cotton balls, q-tips, extra makeup, extra hose (if the bridal party is wearing hosiery), etc. My MOH had this stuff, and she had anything we needed on the spot!

Help the bride plan out a schedule for the wedding day, including who is driving who. It may be your responsibility to get her to the church. Also coordinate with her family as to who is taking the gifts home. You should be one of the last ones to leave the reception/church/whatever - not to clean or anything, but to make sure that the bride's gifts, dress, and bouquet are taken care of.

Something else that I have found to be fabulous in my wedding experiences is some snack food for the bridesmaids and groomsmen if you will be at the church for a while prior to the ceremony. Something simple like fruit, veggies, crackers, water, juice, etc. Many bridesmaids don't find time to eat that day. Make sure the bride eats - no passing out at the altar!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I was recently asked to be the MOH for a sorority sister's wedding.

I found this article from TheKnot.com really really helpful.

Thank you! In case you guys are wondering, the wedding itself is in June 2009, so I have PLENTY of time.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

Honestly. this is somethign I've seen more recently at weddings. Having a friend who is NOT in the bridal party but is wearing a coordinating dress, be a hostess. She gets the presents to where they need to be, make sure everyone signs in the guestbook, takes care of last minute details and talks to caterers, bartenders, etc. on behalf of the bride. It's usually a close friend or relative. It can also be a man (host). Honestly I don't think that beyond bachlorette & bridal shower should a bridesmaid really be that busy (especially on the day of) when they need to be in the pictures too!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

Honestly. this is somethign I've seen more recently at weddings. Having a friend who is NOT in the bridal party but is wearing a coordinating dress, be a hostess. She gets the presents to where they need to be, make sure everyone signs in the guestbook, takes care of last minute details and talks to caterers, bartenders, etc. on behalf of the bride. It's usually a close friend or relative. It can also be a man (host). Honestly I don't think that beyond bachlorette & bridal shower should a bridesmaid really be that busy (especially on the day of) when they need to be in the pictures too!

I did this for a cousin's wedding. The dress was cute too - the skirt was the same fabric as the bridesmaids, and the bodice was the same material as the flower girls - so I fit right in with them.