need advice on family

[kdgirlie]

ok guys I have a problem. my little sister not in my sorority is living with me to finish off her senoir year. Lately I have notice she is not making it to class on time, and every time my mom gets a letter about it( she lives in another city) she complains to me about it. I really don't want to be mean to my sister about going to class but she does only have a certain number of absences. short of actually getting her up for school what should I do?

[DGPhoney]

well I think you should just tell her the truth,I am sure she will understand it better coming from you since your her big sister., and that your only trying to lead her in the right direction. remind her too that your senior yr is the big year and that u don't want to mess it up being so close to graduation. Well I hope that helps
DGPhoney~

[lifesaver]

I think because of the situation, you have to step up. I dont know the situation, or why she came to stay with you, but regardless of the reasons, by the fact that she IS staying w/you, you have a responsability to her, and her future. You accepted the responsibility for her when she came to stay w/you. Like it or not, dem are de facts. You gotta step up. You can be her friend, but still lay down the law. make a deal w/her, tell her as long as she only misses class if she is really sick, you will give her added freedoms, staying out a little later, yada yada. Some might say, just force her to do it, but I am a pragmatist, and since you arent her mom, just a sister, you have to make compromises to get the job done. But remember, she in your house, and 15, or 50 as long as she is in your pad, you make the rules.

[Rudey]

Tell her skipping class is only allowed in college...oh man I am sooooo shafted for not going to that last finance lecture Seriously lay down the rules...if you're fair and within proper lines about it, she'll follow you. Good luck.

[FlorDeMayo]

I think that everyone is right t=you should just tell her that she has worked so hard to get this far why risk it all by missing a couple of classes and that she will have the summer to relax.
Stacey

I am glad she is doing better :-)

[This message has been edited by FlorDeMayo (edited May 16, 2001).]

[kdgirlie]

thanks guys. She is living with me because my parents moved half way through her senoir year. I have told her she needs to get up on time. She is doing better. She is still tardy sometimes. Also I told her if she has to skip first class then she doesn't need to go anywhere after school but straight to bed. Also all of my soror sisters are getting on her case also( they are all in and out of my place)