The gender war: GC women against GC women?

[James]

When you talk about life expectations for women I tend to see a conflict between those that espouse tradtional values of feminity, those that reject those values, and those that tread a perilous path in between.

I think that its very well illustrated here in the dating forum when you look at the posts about wedddings, engagements, rings etc.

There are definitely women on here that believe fervently that marriage is a major part of the life of a woman and it seems that they regard their relationships with men as somehow part of their identity.

Conversely we have many vocal women on here that seem to look at marriage, or at least the tradtional marriage, as somehow antiquated. And also don't seem to think that "Acting" feminine is that important anymore.

PErsonally I am abig advocate that all people should strive towards self-development and success and should seek definition through their relationships. I believe that a lot of traditional feminine virtues actually hold women back and prevent them from the happiness they seek . . .

However, if women in general rejected all the commonly accepted cultural values of being feminine, what would the world be like?

How would men respond to you when we are conditoned to relate to women when they act only in certain ways?

How would we deal with the social aspects of raising children if all women believed that marriage was a dated concept? Or that their careers had to take precedence over their biology in terms of reproduction?

I think you ladies catch my drift. I know this is hastily written and I deliberately didn't define some of the terms. But I believe this to be a valid and important discussion.

I am interested in your own opinions about what you think of traditional feminine culture (and what you think it is) as well as the pressure of being a modern a woman and where on the spectrum you think women should come out.