Why is my roommate so...GRRRRRR!

preciousjeni · #1 10-03-2004, 08:18 PM

Hey all. I'm living in a graduate dorm on campus with the most critical woman alive. I don't know how to deal with her. It's not just the criticism, but also cruel little statements she makes.

For example, my parents were planning on coming to see me this upcoming weekend. That's the same weekend that my roommate's sister is coming. When I told her, she said, "I wish your parents weren't coming this weekend." I said, "Excuse me?"

There was no emphasis on "this weekend" to suggest that she was sorry she couldn't spend time with them.

Fast forward. Today, I didn't go to Church because I have been feeling sick for about four days. I was finally feeling much better today, but I didn't want to go to Church and spread my germs, or pick something up from someone else as I'm recovering.

One of my roommate's friends came over today and lectured me on why going to Church is so important. When my roommate heard this (and after her friend left) she asked me how sick I was. The conversation got onto why I was sick. I said that there have been a lot of changes in my life and my body is probably just reeling. Then, she called me a hypochondriac. I also said that being in classrooms (and Church for that matter) is just putting yourself into a airborne germ infestation, so it's not too surprising that I was a little sick. Then she called me a mysophobic (fear of germs) and claimed that I was complaining. When I told her I was answering HER question, she just rolled her eyes.

I just can't win. How do I deal with this woman????????

PhiPsiRuss · #2 10-03-2004, 08:20 PM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
I just can't win. How do I deal with this woman????????

Make her an offer that she can't refuse.

KillarneyRose · #3 10-03-2004, 08:52 PM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
I also said that being in classrooms (and Church for that matter) is just putting yourself into a airborne germ infestation, so it's not too surprising that I was a little sick. Then she called me a mysophobic (fear of germs) and claimed that I was complaining.

I just can't win. How do I deal with this woman????????

Next time you have to sneeze, do it either onto whatever she's eating at the time or right into her face. Then when she complains say, "HA! NOW who's the mysophobe????" and laugh at her.

Sorry to be so trite, but with folks like that you have to laugh to keep from crying.

You have my sympathy!

Optimist Prime · #4 10-03-2004, 09:32 PM

Request a new roommate. You are graduate studying and need to STUDY which is next to impossible to do with a hostile bitch room mate.

preciousjeni · #5 10-03-2004, 09:49 PM

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Originally posted by Optimist Prime
Request a new roommate. You are graduate studying and need to STUDY which is next to impossible to do with a hostile bitch room mate.

Thanx for the smile.

I needed that!

#6 10-08-2004, 08:35 PM

Take her toothbrush and clean the toilets with it.

Don't tell anyone and make sure you're not being filmed (hi, Big Brother 4 I think?)...and you can live with the fact that she's brushing her teeth with toilet junk.

GO!

NinjaPoodle · #7 10-08-2004, 08:42 PM

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Originally posted by PhiPsiRuss
Make her an offer that she can't refuse.

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Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
Take her toothbrush and clean the toilets with it.

Don't tell anyone and make sure you're not being filmed (hi, Big Brother 4 I think?)...and you can live with the fact that she's brushing her teeth with toilet junk.

GO!

Those were funny but Damn you people are evil

Ditto on the new roomie idea.

valkyrie · #8 10-08-2004, 09:15 PM

If I lived with someone like that, I'd just ignore her. She probably won't find very much enjoyment in bitching at someone who doesn't pay her any attention.

BetteDavisEyes · #9 10-08-2004, 09:40 PM

Put NAIR in her shampoo bottle!

Peaches-n-Cream · #10 10-08-2004, 10:27 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
If I lived with someone like that, I'd just ignore her. She probably won't find very much enjoyment in bitching at someone who doesn't pay her any attention.

This is what I did when I lived with a whacko. I really should have moved out and saved myself all of the stress.

Good luck to you.

absoluteZChi · #11 10-10-2004, 12:10 AM

I guess everyone has a bad roommate story...

I once did an internship where I had to move to another state and room with 3 other women (there were a total of 16 interns) I really felt like I was a cast member on the Real World.

Two of my roommates were wonderful and we clicked!! The other....well she was going through some personal things so when she was having a bad day...she made an effort to make sure she put everyone else in the same mood.

One night I cooked for all the interns (she was at work) when she came home she ran to her room and slammed the door...why?? 2 minutes later so came out, I told her I cooked and left some food for her...her response....

"next time you cook, please shut my bedroom door. The smell from "your kind" of food is all over my stuff"

OMG!! My jaw dropped

winneythepooh7 · #12 10-10-2004, 12:15 AM

If moving out is an option, I would definately try that. She doesn't sound like the type of person who is gonna change even if you try to have a nice sit down with her and talk things out. I feel your pain. Living with a roommate--whoever they are--is not an easy task.

Senusret I · #13 10-10-2004, 10:54 AM

Well....you could try talking to her. Just tell her hi, I don't really appreciate the way you talk to me. If she reacts immediately and negatively, then look into moving out. But it's possible she will be surprised and not even know that she is coming off so gruffly.

preciousjeni · #14 10-10-2004, 03:16 PM

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Originally posted by Senusret I
Well....you could try talking to her. Just tell her hi, I don't really appreciate the way you talk to me. If she reacts immediately and negatively, then look into moving out. But it's possible she will be surprised and not even know that she is coming off so gruffly.

I'm in a bad situation because there are so few graduate students here. The school is very small since it's a seminary. I can't really move out because there's not really anywhere to go! I'm living in one of two real graduate dorms.

I'm kinda dealing with her as I can.

I actually have confronted her and she gets horribly offended, claiming that I haven't lived a Christian lifestyle for years (up until now) so how would I know. She's a very combative person, so I leave her to her own devices most of the time.

AGDee · #15 10-10-2004, 06:24 PM

In that case, you need to arm yourself with Bible verses. "Judge not...", etc. and just toss them at her when she's being like that.

Dee