Help me GC?

o2bame · #1 05-04-2004, 12:52 PM

Hey all. My good friend who was close to me like a sister just recently crossed as a Delta. I am extremely happy for her however, and i cant help but feel like she is dogging me for her sorority. Now i know that its hard for someone like me on the outside looking in to understand but maybe you all can help me.
Well first I havent heard from my friend in about 4 months while she was in school. I knew that she might be in the process of pledging so i didnt sweat it i just supported her. However, my friend didnt even call me to tell me about her pro-show or that she crossed. I had to hear from another person from her school. Until this day my girl has not called me, emailed me or contact me at all. I am pretty ticked off and it makes me feel like she's just cancelling our friendship. Am I being petty and selfish? Should i be more understanding and realize that things will just have to be this way? Or is my friend the one that is tripping. I plan on calling her this weekend but i dont want to say anything hurtful especially if its not her fault. But I can help but feel like im being played. Talk to me GC....

CrimsonTide4 · #2 05-04-2004, 01:36 PM

Call her. Tell her congrats. If she responds,

. If not, move on. Don't spend time pondering why. Friendships change, grow, expand, STOP, die, etc. etc.

#3 05-04-2004, 01:49 PM

She may be sittin whereever she is wondering the same thing about you.

Call and see what's what

ARTIC-U-LATE · #4 05-04-2004, 01:52 PM

Obviously, there had been miscommunication. I feel that you should contact her and dicuss this issue. That is all you can do. After that discussion you will know where you stand.

PS-I went to Warrensville Hts. High. Class of 1999. SMALL WORLD. CT4, when did you graduate? I do know you brother, Brandon-I believe. We went to college together.

Ideal08 · #5 05-04-2004, 02:22 PM

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Originally posted by ARTIC-U-LATE
PS-I went to Warrensville Hts. High. Class of 1999. SMALL WORLD. CT4, when did you graduate? I do know you brother, Brandon-I believe. We went to college together.

CT4 is not the only Deville native up in this piece!! c/o 1992!!

I work with a dude you might know that also went to Warrensville... I'll PM you...

lil_sunshine · #6 05-04-2004, 03:08 PM

Call her and congratulate her on becoming a Delta. Keep the convo going by asking general questions and if she brings up the fact that she hadn't heard from you in awhile, then just explain to her how you feel now and felt back then. Do not dwell on the past, it may not be important once you start talking to her. Just keep the convo as calm and polite as possible. If there's anything she wants to reveal to you about how she may feel, let the chips fall where they may. Just make sure you hang up the phone knowing where your friendship stands....

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Originally posted by o2bame
Hey all. My good friend who was close to me like a sister just recently crossed as a Delta. I am extremely happy for her however, and i cant help but feel like she is dogging me for her sorority. Now i know that its hard for someone like me on the outside looking in to understand but maybe you all can help me.
Well first I havent heard from my friend in about 4 months while she was in school. I knew that she might be in the process of pledging so i didnt sweat it i just supported her. However, my friend didnt even call me to tell me about her pro-show or that she crossed. I had to hear from another person from her school. Until this day my girl has not called me, emailed me or contact me at all. I am pretty ticked off and it makes me feel like she's just cancelling our friendship. Am I being petty and selfish? Should i be more understanding and realize that things will just have to be this way? Or is my friend the one that is tripping. I plan on calling her this weekend but i dont want to say anything hurtful especially if its not her fault. But I can help but feel like im being played. Talk to me GC....

CrimsonTide4 · #7 05-04-2004, 03:39 PM

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Originally posted by ARTIC-U-LATE
Obviously, there had been miscommunication. I feel that you should contact her and dicuss this issue. That is all you can do. After that discussion you will know where you stand.

PS-I went to Warrensville Hts. High. Class of 1999. SMALL WORLD. CT4, when did you graduate? I do know you brother, Brandon-I believe. We went to college together.

Class of 1993
Brandon is class of 1997
My cousin Jonai is class of 1998 (played flute)

Very smaaaaaaaaall world, bout time Warrensville REPRESENT!!!

#8 05-05-2004, 08:25 PM

Did you call ole girl yet?

o2bame · #9 05-06-2004, 01:22 AM

Actually I did call her but like shes been doing for the past 4 months she didnt answer her phone. I left her a sweet message saying that I miss her and I congratulated her. But she still hasnt return my phone calls. I dunno what to think. Is this because she is in a sorority? i know other ladies that have crossed and havent changed a bit so Im not going to jump to that conclusion.

Thanks For Asking

CrimsonTide4 · #10 05-06-2004, 06:50 AM

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Originally posted by o2bame
Actually I did call her but like shes been doing for the past 4 months she didnt answer her phone. I left her a sweet message saying that I miss her and I congratulated her. But she still hasnt return my phone calls. I dunno what to think. Is this because she is in a sorority? i know other ladies that have crossed and havent changed a bit so Im not going to jump to that conclusion.

Thanks For Asking

Please stop that line of thinking. Your friend is acting the way she is has nothing to do with Delta. Your friend is on a high right now and maybe she is still bonding with her line sisters and prophytes. I am not sure if she is collegiate or alumnae.

Maybe there are other things going on right now. Before I became a Delta and after, there was someone I had been friends with for 2 years who started straight tripping. I was the one who kept trying to keep the lines open but girlfriend was bitter. She claimed it was me.

I forgave her and moved on.

You left her a message. That's all you can do. Don't chase her. I know it hurts but don't blame it on sorority life. A lot of women do the same thing when they get a man or a new set of friends period.

Attractive#7 · #11 05-06-2004, 07:46 AM

Before I crossed there were a group of people that i didnt want in my life.
drama queens = understatement

well after i made line i got the opportunity to get away from them...these were people who had been in my life for a while and i didnt know how to let go. well as time went on, i moved on. now i see them and i speak but its not what it was. i'm glad i got the opportunity to meet new people and get a new fam...

all that being said, maybe you not a bad influence on her life, but maybe you were...maybe she was bringin u down...everything happens for a reason and as much as it might hurt right now, we all have growing pains

blackerican · #12 05-06-2004, 10:24 AM

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Originally posted by o2bame
Hey all. My good friend who was close to me like a sister just recently crossed as a Delta. I am extremely happy for her however, and i cant help but feel like she is dogging me for her sorority. Now i know that its hard for someone like me on the outside looking in to understand but maybe you all can help me.
Well first I havent heard from my friend in about 4 months while she was in school. I knew that she might be in the process of pledging so i didnt sweat it i just supported her. However, my friend didnt even call me to tell me about her pro-show or that she crossed. I had to hear from another person from her school. Until this day my girl has not called me, emailed me or contact me at all. I am pretty ticked off and it makes me feel like she's just cancelling our friendship. Am I being petty and selfish? Should i be more understanding and realize that things will just have to be this way? Or is my friend the one that is tripping. I plan on calling her this weekend but i dont want to say anything hurtful especially if its not her fault. But I can help but feel like im being played. Talk to me GC....

I totally relate to this!!! I did not speak to my best friend for a while either. When a crossed into Delta (4-17-04) I called another of my good friends and before I could call my Best Sisterfriend she found out. She was upset but she was also understanding. She let me know that she felt left out but that she also understood. So...I say call and talk to her!!!

o2bame · #13 05-08-2004, 12:40 AM

YAH!!! i talked to my friend today and everything is going ok. Thanks for the help and the support GC. Like I said before its hard being the one on the outside but now that she explain things to me I am now happY!!