I need an answer

CASIGKAP · #1 04-23-2004, 11:45 PM

Here's my problem ladies. One of my best friends is an Alpha Phi alum and her sister is attending my school next year. She would be an Alpha Phi legacy. However, she has recently asked me to not mention her to anyone at school nor to tell her sister that she plans to rush b/c she wants to explore the options that we offer. There are 7 GLO's at my school, Alpha Phi being one of them.
I think it's great that she wants to find where she's more comfortable rather than automatically going where her sister went. My dilemma is that I feel terrible lying to my friend who just figures that her little sis is not interested in Greek Life.
What should I do? Keep lying to my friend and keep the confidence or tell her the truth? Neither option sounds too appealing to me but I'm stuck.

What do you think I should do?

Thanks for any advice! You guys here always seem to help me with my problems!

RioLambdaAlum · #2 04-23-2004, 11:53 PM

just dont even tell her. just say she has mentioned wanting to be greek but she isnt sure just yet. this way you wont be streaching the truth too bad.

OtterXO · #3 04-24-2004, 01:14 AM

I second that, if she asks after the fact just tell her that she mentioned it but you weren't sure if she was going to follow through. Just hope she doesn't confess to her sister that she asked you not to tell!

CASIGKAP · #4 04-24-2004, 01:19 AM

Thanks guys. This is hard and I feel weird about the whole situation.

The only thing that could make this worse is if she decides to rush Sigma Kappa. Then her sis will think that I influenced her.

chideltjen · #5 04-24-2004, 01:20 AM

are you really asked about her that often?

i mean if it's something not mentioned in everyday conversation, don't be the first to mention it.

however it is, tell people she is just wants to explore all of her options on campus.

CASIGKAP · #6 04-24-2004, 11:11 AM

True. I'll just treat her like I would treat any PNM.

The only reason people would ask about her is b/c she is a phenomenal athlete coming to school on a full scholarship. Some of the ladies have already heard of her due to her athletic abilities.

Tom Earp · #7 04-25-2004, 03:25 PM

Legacy or not, it is Her Decision isnt it?

Legacy does not = Lock.

She is not Her Sister, but Her own self. Just keep mum! Remember, it is not your decision, it is Hers!

Not All Shoes Fit or Look Good! In the eye of the beholder!

ADPiShannan · #8 04-25-2004, 03:48 PM

I agree not to tell. When I went through recruitment, I didnt tell my family. They pushed me so much my fall semester that I didnt want to do it so they thought I wasnt interested. I went through that spring and did not tell anyone I was an ADPi legacy. I wanted the girls to want me for me and for what I had to offer instead of just being a legacy. I didnt want the other chapters to try to rush me even more. I wanted to be on even playing ground for all chapters. After I realized I loved ADPi and wanted them so badly and received a bid from them, I called my mom and grandma and told them I had joined and it was ADPi.

Sometimes you just want everyone to love you for you and it sounds exactly like how I felt when I went through. Id say not tell and be respectful to that. She needs to find what she wants without everyone hounding her.