Gay Black Male Website - Check it Out

SummerChild · #1 02-06-2004, 03:24 PM

Ladies,
You must check out the gay black male website located at www.ebonymale.com. There is a link for personals ads in each state. I have actually found a personal ad with pic from someone who I speak to regularly. Others have as well. One person noted that someone that she knew had his pic taken from another website (Blackplanet.com) and placed there and that he is not actually gay. However, I think that it's still good to take a quick look-see.

Edited to add: No, he's not someone who I dated, Praise G-D!

SC

RedefinedDiva · #2 02-06-2004, 10:55 PM

You had to register, huh? I may have to create an account so that I can see some more ads. Those ads are off the hook!

Honeykiss1974 · #3 02-07-2004, 12:14 AM

Can we say down low brothas!

Why are the majority of the ones I looked at (mostly southern states) are "homo-thugs" to the utmost!. Many ads even said "I am a DL brotha".

Most of them are nice looking brothas, educated and er'thang!

Not to be stereotypical, but many of these men looked "manly", not feminine.

Who the heck is left for black women to marry !?!?!?

RedefinedDiva · #4 02-07-2004, 12:54 AM

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Can we say down low brothas! Why are the majority of the ones I looked at (mostly southern states) are "homo-thugs" to the utmost!. Many ads even said "I am a DL brotha".

Most of them are nice looking brothas, educated and er'thang! Not to be stereotypical, but many of these men looked "manly", not feminine.

How the heck is left for black women to marry !?!?!?

It makes you sick to think that there are so many DL brothas!!!

They are all smiling and profiling like it's all good. I can't even get with that.

Sister Havana · #5 02-07-2004, 01:37 AM

Most popular phrase in the ads from Illinois guys: "No fats or fems."

Oy.

preciousjeni · #6 02-07-2004, 04:17 AM

E. Lynn Harris' Invisible Life

miss priss · #7 02-07-2004, 11:29 PM

Although I am not homophobic, I must say I was digusted by the number of nice looking men who are gay! Especially in Detroit! I know at some of the local high schools there are ALOT of high schoolers who are same sex/bi couples. ***smh***
Single women what are you going to do?????

AKA2D '91 · #8 02-08-2004, 11:54 AM

It's not a SINGLE ladies' dilemma. It's a dilemma for ALL women. What are the married women gonna do when Mr. Man comes home and says, I don't want you anymore. I cannot deny who I really, really am any longer?

SummerChild · #9 02-08-2004, 12:36 PM

Ladies,
I just wanted to add that I didn't post the link for us to commiserate (sp?) but to alert you to one other resource that is available for us to check up on men that we may be interested in. There are a few men on there that women have said have actually attempted to date them or date their friends, and as it turns out, the men were gay or bisexual.

So my purpose was to not bring us down but to empower us with one other resource, if we choose to use it. The ultimate resource of course, will be turning to our Higher Power to gain clarity and discernment about who we are dealing with.

Have a good one!

exquizit · #10 02-08-2004, 02:32 PM

I saw people I KNEW !!!

This is disturbing to say the least.............*smh*

btb87 · #11 02-08-2004, 04:08 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
It's not a SINGLE ladies' dilemma. It's a dilemma for ALL women. What are the married women gonna do when Mr. Man comes home and says, I don't want you anymore. I cannot deny who I really, really am any longer?

Say that, Soror!

AKA2D '91 · #12 02-09-2004, 09:21 AM

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Originally posted by exquizit
I saw people I KNEW !!!

This is disturbing to say the least.............*smh*

GIRRRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL, FROM HOME? OMG! I'mma haveta go to this site!

(Crossing my fingers that I don't recognize anyone!)

NOWorNEVER · #13 02-09-2004, 10:55 AM

I'm upset that many of them are PHIONE!!!

Someone asked what can we as black women do?? Pray...

SummerChild · #14 02-09-2004, 11:05 AM

Ladies,
I would just to say that for each one of these men there are many many black men out there who are straight and, I believe, have it together. Just imagine if we had even a sample of straight black men in any given city place a personal ad. The ads would far outnumber what we see here.

All is not lost.

SC

NOWorNEVER · #15 02-09-2004, 11:24 AM

Waaaaaaaaaaaiit a minute....dude from NC said he's looking for someone to be his "boy" in the streets but his "man" in the sheets. WOW. This really makes me wonder how many of our black men are out there frontin'...chillin' with men we think are their "homeboys" and behind closed doors, they are sexin. This is crazy and it really makes me sad. I just can't get over how fine AND masculine they are. *smh*

Ladies, picture yourself in this scenario: You start dating someone who turns out to be your soulmate. Y'all are feelin' each other and this is the man of your dreams. He's everything you've ever wanted in a companion and mate. You can see yourselves spending the rest of your lives together. Intellectually, spiritually, mentally, sexually, etc. you are on the same level. Before you know it, two years has passed and you begin making plans for the future. Then one day, he sits you down and says, "Look baby, before we can take this thing to the next level, I need to tell you something about my past. Please know that I love you and I wanna spend the rest of my life with you but before we got together, I used to have sex with both men and women."
How do you react??? You've just spent two of the best years of your life with this man you thought you knew?? Is it possible to move on and forget his past?

Now me personally, I have a big problem with dudes who are on the low like this. At least be honest about it. I have a very good friend who is very gay. He's masculine and very handsome. Ride or die since 7th grade. When he came out, I was hurt but I'm happy that he's not hiding his sexuality so that a some unsuspecting sister won't be hurt later on down the road. But to end a 2 year relationship, I really don't know. I'd have to seriously sit and pray about it. There's always that thought that he may revert back to having sexual relationships with other males.